冷爱花镇怎么样?想挽回前任又在纠结该不该挽回？

 ganqinglitongchangyouyudajiaxianghubuyiyang，yinci caikeyixiyinzhulingyifangdeliuyi。keshizaitanlianaijiaowangquanguochengzhong，queyoufeichangrongyiyouyuzheizhongbuyiyangerfashengzhengzhi。lengaihuazhenzenmeyang?naizhigexinghuaqianghandeyifanghuiqianyishidejiyalingyifang，zuihouzaocheng lingyifangzaichenmozhongbaofa。lianluodequanguochengzhong，lianrenchanshengfenqishiyiqiezhengchangdeshi，keshiyaoshimeiyouchuli，tichufenshoushibidingde。

第一种不正确的心理状态：分手之后丢面子，要想对付另一方

 fenshouhou，yidunanguobushufu，juedezheileiyoushangdeqingxushilingyifangtitichufenshousuozaocheng de，yinci shebudewangji，shiguoxuduofangshiwanliulingyifang，danyizhibeilengyanlengyu，yincizheileiduifudexinlizhuangtaigengbeibiandale。

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第二种不正确的心理状态：不确定性是不是要挽留另一方

 zhideshifenshoushiwanliujinjinnibuyouzizhudegerenxingwei，ganjuebeifenshouhouguduwuquhuoshixincunneijiu，jiushizhequwanliu。danqueshiyushanglingyifangyeshiyoufuhexingniantoudeqingkuangxia，nifandaoxianluchulaidanxindexinlizhuangtai，xiangzhewanyiqueshifuhexing，shibushihuizaifenli。jiaruniquedingzishenbunengmeiyouta，feichangzhidezouxialaidehua，neimejiuyidingyaofeijinxinsibanquwanliunideta。jinjiyouyouyuyu，ziranjiarunibuquedingxinglingyifangshibushifeichangzhidewanliu，haikeyizhaodaowo，wonengxiezhunizuojishuzhuanyedewanliupouxi。

第三种不正确的心理状态：在挽留中掌控欲太强

 pobujidaixiangyaozhidaoqiannanyoudefuhexingxintai，yinci gesanchawuhuijinbuzhuxiangwenlingyifang，xiangdezenmeyangle?youshengwodeqima?jinrigaoxingma?kaixindehuayaobujiudayingwofuhexingsuanleba。niruguojiangchuzheizhonghua，budanzaishiketishilingyifang“dajiayijingfenshoule”，bingqiegengranglingyifangganshoudaoni“zhuguanyinsubucun”，yuanlainizaicichupengbingbingbushiqueshiziwofansile，erjinjinweilegenghaodiwanliuerwanliu，neilingyifanghuilijihuijueni。