花镇咨询：女人用这3招沟通技巧，轻松收服钢铁直男

changchangyouxueshenggenwoshuo：jiaoshi，nanrenmenshifouyoubuyiyangzhongleiya?huazhenzixun，zaigoutongjiaoliuzhongshifouyaoyinrenyousuobutongde，buyiyangzhongleidenanshengshuohuafangshiyebuyiyangni?

shijishangnanrena，queshishifenhenduozhongduoyang。danshixiangnanshenhuoshihuaxinnanzheizhongpubianzhonglei，zaipingchanggoutongjiaoliuzhongjichuburongyipengdaoguoduonanti，nanshenhuizhenxinshiyiguanxinni，erqiejijidakaixuduo huatitaolun。

erhuaxinnanyeshigoutongjiaoliudashen，zuihuitonglixin，jiniganjuepengdaolerenshengdaoluzhixin，yagenbuchouwuhuakeshuo。

neimazaigoutongjiaoliuzhongshijishangpengdaoshuzuiduonantidezhonglei，bianshidajiajingchangshuodegangtiezhinan。

jinriaipinshengjiaoshijiuhedahuoerliaoyiliaohekanqilaiaojiao，qishibushanyancidegangtiezhinan，goutongjiaoliudejiannandianzainaerni?

zenyangliaotiancaikeyishitaduinitianmanzhengfuyu，youburongyiganjuenihenqingtiao。

dahuoerchangchanghuihuolidianjizhonghuadequdiaokanyixiegangtiezhinanshierxingzuo。gangtiezhinanshierxingzuogaofaqushimojienan，tianxienan，shizinan，baiyangnan，naizhixuduo lveweigongzuojingyandenvhaidoushihuigenwodiaokanshuo：yagenliaobudong!

zhiyaoshinishigelveweichuyubeidongdiandenvhai，gangtiezhinanyidingjiushinihuicuoguoledeneiren。bingqiegangtiezhinanhaichedibuqingchuzishenshizenmegennicuoguolede。tahaiyixinbiequ，juedezishenbenlaixinlitexiangchupengni，jinjinbuqingchuzenyangzuo。

neirangnvhaimennaorentengdedianshishenmeni?

yingduigangtiezhinan，jiuhaoxiangdajiachulaiyongcan，fuwushengduanlailafanshi，queburangnimukuai。huazhenzixun，duanlailazibutang，queburangnixiaoshao。

wojuedebianshi，zhaobudaofangxiang!

youyujiaruyixiabulaixin，yongliguomeng，liaoguodule，gangtiezhinanhuixiuse，shenzhiyou，haihuijixudaxinyanerganjueshidajiaqingtiao，zheiyiqingtiaodepiaoliangxiaojiejiebingbushiwodecai。zheiyangyilaikacajiubeigaigongzhangle，gameover。

buliaodehua，huatitaolunyitiandaowanjiukazai“zaoshanghao、wananhaomeng、chiwanme、shuileme”shangbian，jiushizheiyangdejiezougan，buyaoshuozhengfuyule，jiusuanshizaishuoshinian，yewufatuidongguanlianya。

leiyanposuozhejiuxuyaoguonianla，fumujiaodaidekpiyidianjixiangyemeiyou，huijialeruhejiaodai。

aipinshengjinrijiulaijidahuoerjianghaoduogefeichangjiandanhaoyongdeliaorenzhuanyejineng，qingqingsongsongnaxialiaobudongdegangtiezhinan。

运用明确真实身份，将相互的间距拉进

diyigefangshini，bianshiduiyuliaobudongdezhinanai，aipinshengxianlaijidahuoerxiayigemengliao，zenmerangdajiazhongjiandenuanweinenggouxunsutiwen。

zaizheierxiandaoruyigeshehuixinlixuededingyi，chengwei：mingquezhenshishenfen。

huanjuhuashuo，dajiazhongjiandejutijianjushinenggouyoudajiadexinlijulijuecede。liru，niyizhizaizishendeneixinbatajiedingchengzishendenanyou，jiudangranyongdaoduinanyoudegerenxingweiquyingduita。neimawuxingzhizhong，zhenghaofandaonenggoulajindajiazhongjiandejutijianju。

举个事例讲：

zaidajiayouhuipengmiandeqingkuangxia，jiezhetabuliuyi，jiangnichilaidaoshenmedongxihaochide，dangrandeweidaotakouzhong，zhuangzuowuyijiandishuo：aiyo，zheiyihaohaochia，nichangyichangni。

huoshishi，zaidajiayiqideqingkuangxia，suishouwantayixiagebo，suihougaosuta：aiyo，zheierdeluruheneimenanzoua，wofuniyixiae。zaozhijinrijiubuchuanneimegaogenxiedexiele，ai。

suihouzaixianghupeiheyilianneijiudekanjianta。

yiyanga，yelitasongnihuijiadeqingkuangxia，haikeyihuranbaoyixiatadegeboshuo，ya，zheierruheheia。

zaihuoshishi，zaitayibenzhengjingderangnijiangdaolideqingkuangxia，nijiangdanshitameishiera，womenkeyiduizhetaxiao，suihoushenchushouqunieyinietadelian，shuo：aiyanizaneimetaorenxihuanni，wodetianna，niyetaitaorenxihuanle。

yaolejie，nvhaierzaixiao，danshinvxing。nanshengzailao，xinlizhuangtaiyezhuzheyigenanhaier。ruguoniyongzheiyimianquyingduitadeqingkuangxia，zairuheyinghanzidegangtiezhinan，yehuibeinimianruandezhanshengleya。

zhishangni，dajiabianshiyunyongmingquezhenshishenfen，jiangxianghudejianjulajin，keshizaizheieryaoliuyideshi，mingquexiaoyongzuikeyongdebianshibushanyancixinggangtiezhinan，zhenduiqitaleixingdenanrenyaojinshenshiyong。lingwainidajiahaiyaoyijujutiqingkuang，jianfengchazhendeyingyong。

运用三感沟通交流法，表述自身的心态

diergefangshiyunyongdeshi，aipinshengzaiyiqiandekechengneironglijiangguohenshucidesangangoutongjiaoliufa。

neimaduiyubushanyancixinggangtiezhinan，dajiazuizhongyaodeshiyaobiaoshuzishendexintai。

gangtiezhinanwangwangbushanyancihuoshishirennai，bingbushiyouyutamenmeiyouxintai，zhishihoutianxinghuanjingweihaihechengzhangjieduanzhujiude，tamenxiguanxingyayiganzishendexintai，neimadangranzhenduixintaideganzhinenglibianhuijiaoweicha，

yinci ，tamennanyinengchedigetdaonidexintai。zaijiaowangzhong，xiangyaonixiangximiaoshuzishendexintai，erqiebiaoshujitamen。

neiyangcaiburongyizaiguanliantuidongzhongchuxiangoutongjiaoliushangdezuai。

lirunixiangtale，neibianshikeyishuo：wohaoxiangni。huoshishi，nixiaita，neihaikeyishuo：woaininuligongzuodemoyang，duiniyouganjuekekaochengdandexintai，ganjuenirenhenkekaoai。

liruniyouyutashenmeshiqingzuobutaihao，erbugaoxing，neibianshi：wofanle，youyunijinriyitiandoumeigenwolianluo。

zhishang，womenzaibiaoshuxintaixuyaozhangwodexiandubianshi，jinjinbiaoshuxintai，bubibannongshifei。

liruniyizhizaifahuodeqingkuangxia，bubijiayiduichizelingyifangdehua，haiyaoyouliyouju。

liruhaoxiangshuo：nishiyaoqisiwoma，douguainiya，ruobushinifeideganmaganma，rujinzenmehuizheiyang，jianzhichengshibuzu，baishiyouyu。

neiyang，bianshichizelingyifang，erbushibiaoshuzishendexintai。

womenzaizheigeshihouyidingyaobakonghaofencungan，caisuanshiaimeiqigaizuodeshier。

学好用说故事的方法替代流水账单叙述

zuizhong，aipinshengzaishuojidahuoerchanshengdisangefangshi，bianshiwomenyaoxuezheyongshuogushidefangfatidailiushuizhangdanxushu。xianjidahuoerjieshiyixiashishishenmeyisia。

womingbaixuduo nvhaizaichuduixiangdeqingkuangxia，huibuyouzizhudebianweilianainao。richangshenghuodediandiandidisuoshidoudianjizhelingyifang，gengxiangshikebazijideshenghuofenxiangjilingyifang，jieguoxiandunanyizhangwo，gongxiangduolelingyifangganjuedajiazhanren，gongxiangshaoleyouganjuexianliaoganbie，meiyouneirong。

zaizaijiashanglingyifangshijiaoweibushanyancidegangtiezhinan，neiyangdehua，gentamengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxiajiuyeshishifenkunnanle。

liruniyaogongxiangyigexingfudeshenghuojingcaipianduanjiufeichangrongyibianweiyigeyouqiwuqudeqingjing，haoxiang：

nijuede：a，zaoshangqilaikandaolehaomeilideyunduo，shifenhongsedeyunduo，qingxuhaohaodie。

tahuige：ena，shihenhaokan。