花镇情感咨询曝光 真正的情感独立是怎样的？

huazhenqingganzixunpuguang，dajiajianglexuduo “xinlaixinlizhuangtai”deshanghai，jiqidandudebiyaoxing。

youdenvshenghuijuedezishentingdandude，yekeyizhaoguzijiderichangshenghuo。

shijishangdandufencheng2gefangmian，yigerichangshenghuofangmiandedandu，yigeshixinlizhuangtaifangmiandedandu。(ganqingdandu)

neima，zhenshideganqingdandushiruhedeni?

 wozhiqianjuguoyigeshili，henduorendeshenghuoshipinfade，yinci tachuduixiangdequanguochengshijishangjiushiyilingyigerenderichangshenghuoxiquyangfen。

zhenshideganqingdandu，bianshinidenanyou，buyinggaijiushiniaihexingfukuailedeweiyilaiyuanyu。

bukeyishisuoyou，zhiyoushiyibufen。

zheijiudaibiaozhe，nibunengjixiwangyulingyifangkeyimanzuniquanbudexiwangheguiding。

niguidingduole，bidingshinanshengnengmanzunideyibufenguiding，lingyibufenguidingjiukaolvbule。

 zaidajiabudadeqingkuangxia，zongguidingbabamamameiyouliyouhehudajiadeyaoqiu，huazhenqingganzixunpuguang，yaoburanbianhuigenjuyoukuyounao、maiyuan、maimeng、naopiqilaidikang;henduorenzhangdahoukandainanyouyongdeshiyiyangdefangfa，xiwangweicidedao guishuganheshouhou。

suiranzaiweixinliaotianli，dajiachangchangfagezhonggeyangbiaoqingtu，shuoxieshenme“bierenhuanshigexiaobaobao”。

danxiaobaobaotaimafanle，jiulianmamayehuixianfande。(xuduo chanhouyouyuzhengjiugentaibubiandexiaobaobaoxiangguan)

neima，zhenshideganqingdanduyingdangzenyangcaikeyiwanchengni?

 rutongwogangcaitijide“pinfa”，niwubizishenweizijiderichangshenghuochanshengyangfen，niwubichongzuguanxinzishendeyaoqiu，erzuizhongyaodeshi，nixuyaojuyoukaolvzishenyaoqiudegongzuonengli。

 zhongqiujiajieshuohaoleyaopengmiande，jieguonanshengyouyugezhongyuanyinweinengzaishujiapeizheni，niyejiubukaixin，jiumaiyuangebuduan，neimenibianshidouhaimeibaozhengzhenshideguanxinzishenheziwomanzu。

 youlingyixienvhai，nanshengnengpeita，tajiutinggaoxing。bukeyipeita，tajiuweizijizhaolezi，wanerzishende，huoshizhaogepengyouquguangjie。

wanerzishendeyekeyihenkaixin，bingqiefenhaobuhuishoudaonanshengbulaipeizishenzheijianshiqingdeweihai。

zheijiushiwomenqinfendefangwei。

youxierenhenyoukenengshuoqile，shujiadoubukeyipeizishen，yeyaozheiyinanyouganshenme?

 huanshiwogangcaichangshuo，nanshenglilunshangzongshimanzunideyibufenyaoqiu，erbushisuoyou。shengyudeyixieyaoqiu，niyinggaixuehaozishenkaolvzishen。

 ruguonizhenshigangkaishiguanxinzishenzhihou，ninengfajue，tabukeyimanzuniyixiedexinyuanheyaoqiu，nichedinenggougenjubiedefangshilaikaolv。

 liru，dajiazhiqiantijide，quxuexiyixiezhuanyejinenghegerenaihao，liruhuihua(yangtingzijijiubaowanshuicaihuaban)，kenengshiminzuwudao，kenengshiyundongjianshen，erbushirangzishenmeishizuo，meishizuobianhuigezhonggeyangdingzhulingyifang，gezhonggeyangmaiyuanle。

 dangtabijiaomang，meikongguanjunideqingkuangxia，niyekeyibasuoyouzhuanzhulizijintourudaokeyirangzishenhuanledeshiershang，ninengrangzishenkaixindeduguozheiduanshijian，zhenduitaeryan，tayehuishaoxuduo xiuchigan，dajiadeguanlianjiuyongyouxuduo qingsonggan。

 woyanzhongdezijijuedelejiedeganqingdandu——jinigongzuonengliqudajianzishendanduderichangshenghuo，nikeyizishenshengchanzhizaoyangfen，zishenshengchanzhizaohuanle，laipumanzishenderichangshenghuo。

 lingyifangyoushijianpeizheni，xintengniyidian，niyejiugaoxing;lingyifangmeishijianpeizheni，meineimeduoguanzhu，niyejiubugaoxing。neimenizhongjiushitanbutaihaoyichanglianaide。

 neima，zaizishenhenxiandeqingkuangxia，ninengqufazhanqushiyixiehenyoukenengdegerenaihao，jinkenengqushizhe，jiusuanshikaijiaweixingongzhonghao，xunlianchuangzuogongxiangyeshiwanchenggerenjiazhi，haohaoaizijideyibufen。

dangyigerenmeifazuoyixieshiquwanchenggerenjiazhi，quanburenbianhuikanqilaihenkumen。

 yiqienengrangnichanshengmanzugandeshiernidouqushizhekanyixia，yulaiyuduoyouqudeshiwutianmanzishenderichangshenghuo，niyejiuhuichuxianyuedademanzugan。

nizijinengcongzijizuodeshiershangdedao gaoxinghechengjiugan，congcibuyongcongtaneilihuodele。

(diankaoxiangshijishangshichengnianrendexiaowanju)

lingwai，ninengduojiaoyixiepenyou，duochulaiyiqiwan。

坚信吗?

 genyibangnvshengpenyouyiqiquwan，quguangjie，qugechang，dedao demanzuganhechengjiugan，henyoukenengchaochunihenanyouzaiyiqideganshou。

 dajiazaiktvligechang，gezhonggeyangfangsigezhonggeyanghai，gezhonggeyangzhanzaishafashangbenglaitiaoqu，huatongxianshuailaishuaiqu，nihenanyoukemeizheiganshou。

 henanyouzaiyiqi，youshishichuliyixiegudandeyaoqiu。shijishang，nigenpenyouzaiyiqi，chedihaikeyichulizheizhongyaoqiu，naizhinengchulidegengqiang。

 ciwai，wojuedehaodetanlianaiqingkuang，shijishangshiliangrenzaiyiqi，huichuxianyixieshijian，dahuoerlianluojiaoweishao，bianshijianyilianluo，quzuohaozijixiaideshi，chenzuiyuzishendetihui。

shuobailede“xiangyouyurenxiangchudeshineikongjian”，shijishangnanshengnvshengdoubixu。

 zheiyidianzhenduineileitanlianaishijianjiaoweizhangdelianrengengyouxiezhu，gengnenggaijinguanlian，rangxianghuyouxiqideshineikongjian，hainengduanlianzishenyurenxiangchudegongzuonengli。(xuduo nvshengyikaishitingdandu，wanzishendeyewandetinghai。jinjintanlianaishijianzhangle，liangsannianhou，jiuchediqueshileyurenxiangchudegongzuonenglile)

nanshengguangfanshangxidandudenvshi，eryaoxiangdandu，jiunengyougongzuonenglihaohaoaiziji，kaolvzishendeyaoqiu。

 huiyizheixiexiangshoushenghuodenvsheng，yingdangquanshijiaoweidandude。tamenmeishierdeqingkuangxia，nenggoubaibuyixiehuacaoshumu，dabanzishendewuzi，zishenshougongzuoyixiediy，juedezonghuiyouzishendeshierzuo。