花镇情感咨询有效果吗？普通女孩的优质男友是怎么找的？

 huazhenqingganzixunyouxiaoguoma？qianbujiuyouxueshenggenwoshuo，zishenbiaozhunfeichanghao，mutaisolo，danshishenpangzishenganjuequeshitingyibandenvsheng，bierenjishitichufenshouyekeyixunsuzaidugaobiedanshen，jiujingtamenshizenmezuodeya?

 shiyouyuzheizhongnvhaiguidingdima?keyoushijiandaotamenguonianhuoguojieyoulipinna，shangbanyounanpengyouzhuanchejiesong，bugaoxingleyouxierenshouhou，fangfoguodehaikeyi，suoyiwojiujingyaozenmecainenggaopinzhigaobiedanshenni?

 jinriandijiaoshijiugendahuoergongxiangyigegaobiedanshenxinlizhanghudedingyi，xiezhunvhaimenjibenjiansheqiadanggaobiedanshendebixugongchengxiangmuzhiyi。

 buguannirenweizishenjinjinxiangzhaoyigedachabuchahezishenmenbudanghubuduidenanhaizi，huanshiqidaicongtianerjianghaoyunqigaolengnanshenguanggu，dajiadoubixujuyouyigegaobiedanshendeguileizhanghuguannian。

 yejiushigaozhidajiashuo，nixuyaohezishenxiangchuguode，huoshiyouyidingchupengdebuyiyangzhongleidenanhaizikaizhanguilei，dajiajingxialaiqukexueyanjiunizhenduitamendexiwang，zaikanyikantamenzhenduinichangfangdexinlizhanghu，neiyangjiukeyizhibizhiji，gengdonggaolengnanshenxin。

●第一点：根据心理账户，来搜索自身过去谈恋爱的心理状态失调难题。

 woyouyigexueshengmanli，zishenbiyeyumeiguopaimingqiansandeshangkezhuanyeyuanxiao，huazhenqingganzixunyouxiaoguoma？yanzhibaobiaoxiuzhangmeitui，xuexihao，jiashihao。xiannanyoushiyigefeichanghaodeqiyejichengzhe，danshimanliyizhangkoujianghuabianshipofuxinlizhuangtai，ganjuenanpengyounenglijiaocha，buhuiliaotian，buchengshu，zheixie。

 zishenshifenyaoxiangxunzhaodaofangshi，gaizhengnanyoudeshenshangdequanbuwenti，youyicimanlikuzhegaozhiwojiang，dangchuyouyigetadetongxuexiaoa，lianggerenzhangxianghejiajingdouleisi，keshixiaoayuedushiwusuozuowei，meitianchuduixiang，gaoxiaoqineinanyouhuanlehaojida，rujinjiageilebendifuhao，huanshineileiyoutounaoyouzerengandegaoshuaifu，meiriguozhezhouyoushijiederichangshenghuo，zishenganjuebuheli。

 wogaosumanli，guqiebushuolingyifangzonghuannanyouhaohuanshibutaihao，keshilijingzheimeduonanhaizidezhenzhengchupeng，nvhaihuodelexuduo gongzuojingyan，tayidingzhidaozishenzaibuyiyangdenanhaizidexinlizhuangtaibeifangdaonayigerenwujiaose，erzishenyouhuijiaoweifeichangrongyixiyinzhunaxieren，zishenyaoxiangdexiangmutouzinaxierenhuiweiziji，erzishenyehuiguliangxiayaoxiangxunfuyouzhinan，zishendezhangbanzainayikuaijiaoweifeichangrongyibeiwajue，jinerzaibuyiyangmubiaodeshenshanghuabuyiyanghuoliqukandai，zheijiushixinlizhanghu，shijianjiule，bierenziranjiuyongyouyitaoqieshikexingdeyunanshu，dangranjiadehaoya。

 zheierwodaobingbushitiyigaobiedanshendemeizhidouqujingchanghuannanpengyou，keshiniruguoyouguoyidingzongshudexiangqinyuehuigongzuojingyan，bukeyixiangwanjiujieshule，dajiabixulaihechahecha，niduinanhaizidexiangchushifoudoujubeixinlizhuangtaiguileizhanghu，haorangzishenguanlijueceshijubeiyidingdetanlianaiconghui。

 yibanlaijiang，nanhaizijiandaoyigenvsheng，huigenjunvshengweizijidediyiyinxiangzaijiashangqianxiandegoutongjiaoliumingquelingyifangshi：1、nenggouxianliaodeneixinzhanghu，huanshi2、nenggounuanweideneixinzhanghu，huoshi3、dangzuonvwangdexinlizhanghu。diyigelijingyiduanshijiandegoutongjiaoliu，youhuifenhuachengjiufengzhijiqianbeishaodeshihuazhanghuhuoshixiangyaochengbeiyongtaideliaoyixiazhanghu。

zongeryanzhi，nanhaiziduinidexintaihezijintouruyidinggenniyizhizaitaxinlizhuangtaiyumaidezhanghushixiangguande。

 danshinvshengyipengdaoganqingdabufenjiusuibianlunxianle，quanbuzhanghuquanshiluanletaode，zheixieyouzhexingfuqinggandenvhaidaduoshuquanshineimejinanhaizibiaochuzhanghude。

diyi，nenggouxianliaodezhanghu，lijingyiduanshijianhougezibianweishihuadeheyoushihouxianliaodejiuroupengyou;

dier，nenggoushencengcixianliaoerqiejiechuanlingyifanglaibangzhude;

zuizhongcaisuanshinenggouchuquxiangchushiyishide。

 liuyie，zheierzuizhongyaodeyinsuyinggaishibansuizhexiangchuyiduan，taolunyixialingyifangdegerenxingweifanyinghexintai，erbukeyiyiweishuowoduitahaoyouganjue，youyuniyidanpuluxuqiugan，neimajishinibenlaishilingyifangyanzhongdenvwangzhanghu，nanhaiziyehenkenenghuijiangnituijidaohouxuanhuoshinuanweizhanghuzhong。

 yuangujiuqujueyuniqueshilenvwangneizhidegaoduandaqicengcigan，lingyifanghaimeiyouqinfenjiudedao ，taimeijinger。cikejiuzuifeichangrongyichuxian，nanshengzhuinvshengzheyebuzhuile，nvshenggangkaishiguitiannandeqingkuang。

 zheizhongtanlianaibuxingfukuailedenvhaidabufenpingzhijue，pingzhezishenjuededexiangxiangyixiajiubananhaizifanggaolengnanshenzhanghule，jinermanbuzaihudiyifuxiaofensidelianpang，yingshengshengbazijibuweiladehenlow，sangshijiagou……

 danshia，yidannvhaizishenyouzheiyikexueyanjiudexinlizhanghuquhua，shangqujiuxianyijulingyifangduizishendexintaikanyixiazishenzainagebuwei，zaishengchanzhizaoneileishiwokedexing，keshineimabujiunenggouyouzhezhudaoquanlemeiyou?

 shuoshuokaishitijidemanli，tayueduhuanjieyizhiquanshibeifangdaonvwangzhanghuzhong，yechanshengleyitaobugaoxingjiubailian，jiuzhilinglingyifanggaidegongzuozuofeng，zaocheng xinrennanpengyouduizishenyulaiyudichu，nanpengyouzuizhongbanlishuoqinrenyaoweizijixiangqinyuehui，yanjianmanlidoukuaibeituijichengbeiyongtaizhanghule，taquehaibazijifangdaonvwangdebuweishang，duinanpengyoumingquetichulenixuyaozaicigaiwentideguiding，guanliandangranhuigengshiliaobujia。

●第二点，我让她和小A建立联系，客观性地看一看一样被男朋友当女王的小A是怎么处理夫妻感情的。

 manliquxiaoajiazaofanghexiawuchashijian，xiaoashifenjiqingdiyibianhuaizhexiaohaiyibianzhaodaita，zhengfenglaogongchucha，xiaoayedakailehaoguimijiandediaokanfangshi，shuozhangfujihaizihuanzhiniaokubuxingdengdeng，jieguozhangfudianhuahuranhuilaishi，xiaoamashangdakaimaimengzhuang“zhangfu，jinrizaodianhuilai，shangpindouxiangnila，jinribabyhuijiaorenle，yigejingjiaobabababade”dianhuaneitouzhangfugaoxingdishuo，haohaodi，mangwanjiuhuijiakanxiaobaobao。

 guadiaodianhua，xiaoaranhoudiaokanshuo“yongwajiaotazuiguanyong，haole，jinyetabahuijia，womeimeirirenwula，yiqiquspaba……”

 manlizhihouyijianfankuibangwoshuo，jiaoshiwohaoxiangmingbaile，nanshengwangwangxiainvwang，bujinyouyutamei，tadexintaiheyudiaoyeshimeilide，jinguanwomingxikandaolexiaoayehuiyouyudaiwajianxinerdiaokan，keshizaitazhangfuyanqian，tamashangzhuanhuanfangshi，zheiyidianwodequezuobudao……

tingjianmanlideyijianfankui，woshifengaoxing，zuizhongni，xiangzengyidainvwangaodailihebenyiqianshuoguodeyiduanzhilimingyan：

 “ruoyaoyoumeidezuiba，jiuxuyaojiangqinjindehua;ruoyaotaorenxihuandeshuangyan，jiuxuyaokandaotarendeyichu;ruoyaoxianxideshenxing，jiuxuyaojiangnideshicaigongxiangjiaiederen。”