花镇觉得没效果可以退款吗？培养爱情中的共赢思维

huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？juedaduoshurendourenkeganqingdehezuofangshi，quezuozhezhiduizishenyouyideshi，zheihuoxushirendezisizilibenxing。

dajiabuqingchulingyifanghuiruheduizishen，yinci wubidezhengdezishendelirunzuidahua。

例如：

“niyejiushouchongzhewo，jishiwobushuo，niyegailejiewozaixiangnaxie。”

“niyejiugaiweiwotaoqian，weiwoyoucheyoufang，bianshizaiyiwo，yaoburanjiubingbushi”

“wojiajinibianshiweilegenghaodixingfukuaile，niyinggaibayiqiedoubangwo，yaowoxingfukuaile。”

neiyangdefangshixia，tazongshiduiniyulaiyuxinhan、yulaiyulengdan、yulaiyuyanfan。

nishuangleyishi，queshiquyibeizi，zheishiniyaoxiangdema?haowuyiwenbingbushi，neizenmepojieneiyangdezhuangkuangni?ruheqiadangdexiezuoni?

neibianshisuzaoshuangyingluojisiwei。

双赢逻辑思维就是:

liangrenxiezuo，yidingyaochuangjianzaishuangfangdoudedao quanyi、dedao shiyongjiazhidejibenyishang。jiaruduozhuanle，shichuangjianzainisunhaidejibenyishang，neiwoyeburongyiquzuo。

hezuofangshiyigongyousicengrenshengjingjie，shuangyingluojisiweizaidisiceng，ninengkanyixianideaiqingchuyunayiceng。

diyicengrenshengjingjie：shuangshu(tongguiyujin)

shuangfangdouyi“ziwoweizhongxin”，zuizhonghaojinyishengbianchenglexianghudechapingshi。

dangchubeitafanglangbujidegexinghuaxiyinzhu，xianrujinqueweihaoguimiganghuandehaohuacheyanjingfahong，yinci，tadefeiwugexinghuabianchenglemeiyouzerengan，congergangkaishiyanlidajimaiyuan;

yiqianaitaposudetianmei，rujinquebeidewanshanxingganmirendefengyunsuoxiyinzhu，yinci，tadetianmeibianchenglefawei，zaiwufenhaoyouhuoli。

juedaduoshunanhaihenvhai，zaichijiudejiaowangzhong，huoshengshengsunhaolexianghudeliangdian，bianchenglexianghuzhijiankanbushang、huxiangshangxi、xianghuzhijianshiyadeduishou，zuizhongbuguoshitongguiyujindejieguo。

 yinci ，meiyigexingfuderenshenpang，daduoshuyouyigehuodananshengdewuyinkuanrong;meiyigechenggongnanrendeshenhou，yemianbuleyigewenrounvxingdemomodilejie。

diercengrenshengjingjie：yingshu(jianliwangyi)

jinjinweiraozhe“ni”zheiyiyishi——niyejiuyingdangzhaoliaowo，yingdangweiwodexintaichengdan，jiaruguodebugaoxing，wobianzeguaiyuni。

taduinideweixinmeiyoumiaohui，wangjileanshizhunshibaogaoxingjibianshizuibukeshe，

danniyouyuheguimiguangjiegouwuerwangjileshijianjiushichuyouyin。

niguidingtaduolizainideshijiaojinikaolv，danniqueweicengweitakaolvdaoguoyidian;

nijiqidaitaduinilaoshibajiaozhongshi，youkanbushangtabujiefengqing;

zongeryanzhi，niduita，yougezhonggeyangguidingguiding;niduizishen，gaoxingjiuhao。

xuduo qingkuangxia，nidezisizilizisizili，nideyiweisuoyao，gengshibatabishangtichufenshoudeshizhiyuanyin。

disancengrenshengjingjie：shengfu(wusifengxian)

jinjinweirao“wo”deyishi——wochedinenggoujizijichengdan，buyongnijiwotourunaxie，yaoshijiwoxihuanjiuxing。

genjutaohaolingyifangdedao ai，danzhangqixingdeyayigandouhuiyigengbijiaoyanzhongdefangfabaofa。

yixietangmeibianshidianxingxingdetaohaoxingrenge，youyutadouhuibujingyidiquyuelingyifang，tashiyizhongjibupinghengdeqingkuang。

youyujunhengdeganqingqingkuangyinggaishibiaoliruyi，erzheileiquyuetaohaoyingshishenhoudeguidingshi：“woweinitourulezheimeduoyizhiyuzijishadoumeiyoule，rujinzheiyidianguidingniyaozuobudaoma?”

meiyounanshenghuixihuanyigeshandaizijiaidaoshenchuguimixinqiaodenvsheng。

dizizunhuodebushangjunhengdeganqing。

disicengrenshengjingjie：huligongying(lijiliren)

cong“dajia”deyishikaolv——womenkeyidulixiezuo、hezuogongying，xietongjinhua，xianghuyunyingyiduanganqing。

huligongyingzheqingxihunyindeyiyi：yichangziyuandapeidexiezuochang，erbushiguanlianshidiaodeshilianchang。

meirenyushengjulaijiugaiweilesheitouru，yemeirenchangchangjizhidimanzunideyaoqiu，womendouyaozaiyouzhangdehunyinshenghuozhongqianxundexuexipeixunzenyangbianchengyigelaopo，zenyanggaohaoyigelaogong。

hezuogongying，xietongjinhua，caisuanshiwomenzaifuqiguanxizhongyingdangyongyoudexinlizhuangtaiheziwodingwei。

neima，zenyangsuzaohezuogongyingdeganqingluojisiweini?

最先，先认同你自己。

bazijideshenshangdeyoushiheliangdianyitiaotiaozhenglichulai。

huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？woyiqianzai《zainanrenyanzhong，shenmeyangdenvrenyongyouzhimingdemeili?》benwenzhongjiangguonvrenyaoxinxindebiyaoxing。

nanshengfeichangrongyibeinvxingneileiconglidaowaixianchudexinxingansuoxiyinzhu。nanshengyehuiduinishuo：dajiaduomededuiniyouganjuezheiyidian。

zheijiushilaizizixindeliliang。

ruguonidouduizishenyouzhongduobumanyishi，zennengxiyinzhudaonanshengni?

nidouganjuezishenbupeita，nanshenghairuheshenqingyunilei!zheidoushihuijinizaochengyizhongzishenyingshe，juedeniyejiuzhendeshineiyangle。

chulizheigewentideweiyifangfa，bianshiqugenggaiduizishendedianping。

zheixielingrenmanyizishendenvxing，tahuibazhongxindianfangdaochuligezhonggeyangbenshendenantishang，baozhengzuixianrangzishenlingrenmanyizishen。

ruguoniduizishenjuedelingrenmanyishi，nibianburongyiquxiang:“wogaizenyangzhuyaobiaoxiandegengqiang，laixiyinzhuzheigenanren”。

youyunihuidangrandeganshoudao：zheigenanrenyuwochongzubanpei。

yinci ,nixuyaozuodebianshi：dangrandezhuyaobiaoxianchunidezheiyifenxinxin,zheileixinxinshichediqianyishide，yeshirangnanshengjuedezuishushide，zuiyoufengcaide。