有在花镇退款成功的吗？恋爱中是不是女生对男生越好越不被珍惜？

youzaihuazhentuikuanchenggongdema？「shijishang，xuduo qingkuangxia，“duinanhaizihao”，zheiyijiedinghenguangfan。

你需要想的是：

niduitahao，jiushinizijuededuitahao，qishizaitalaikankenengshibutengbuyang?

huanshiqueshishunshuituizhou，lingtashichongerjiao?

 genjuwosuozhidao，dabufennvhaizuizhong“hao”，quanshiqianmianyizhong——nitaoxintaofei，jiejinquanli，bazijinengxiangqideyiqieguanjiandianbaozhengjizhi，xiangzhuangbaoyigejingmeidelipin，tixindiaodandizengjilingyifang。lingyifangqude，shuojuganxie，suibianyireng。

zheiyimujinifushang，yincinizaochengyihuo：woduitaneimehao，taweishenmebuaixi?

回过头来，你说白了的“对他好”，是否作法以下：

1、心态窝里斗：

yinweiaiqingta，yinci baxinlibolanzhuangkuodexintaihaosunchedisuanzailingyifangtouding。

 jugeshili，youzaihuazhentuikuanchenggongdema？「nibanyesangengxiangtingjianlingyifangdexiangsheng，kezheishihoutazhengshuigehaojuezheni，niyigexiangniandedianhuadayiwang，lingyifangguadiao——yincinihenbiequ：taijueqingle，weihenibuxiangwo?

2、管得过多：

 nikuaidangzuoletashenghuozhongdeyigebanjiatingbaomu。yiqiesuosui，jinyoutayubushang，meiyouniyixiangbudao。congyizhechuanyifudaoshenghuofangfa，niguidinglingyifangchedianzhaonideguanlizhiduzou。ruruoburan，bianshi“budongshi”、“buzaiyiwo”“dananrenzhuyi”。

3、独占欲极强：

 cengtingguoyigezuifukuadeshilishi，nvhaibuyunxujiazhongyangxiaomao，youyujiandaonanyouhuaizheruanhuhudemao，tabianhuifengkuangfapiqi。

 xiaogushiduoshaoqianfukualedian，danfangweiqueshiqiadangde。xuduo nvhaideduzhanyuzaoyichaoguoleyiqiezhengchangrenmenjienaguifan。henbunengduxianglingyifangdezhenggeshijie，weiqiyuangu，dayue“youyuwohenaini”。

4、低贱跪舔男：

“weiquqiuquan”shinvhaizaiqingganzhongzuifeichangrongyiwujindewuruqitu。

tazhuinideqingkuangxia，nigaoaodebuxieyigu，duiquanbushierdoumanbuzaiyi，bantuibanjiu，fandaotianmanfengcai。

 quedingguanxihou，jiusuanlingyifangdexintaimeiyoujiangdi，danyinweinideqianxinshuipingpingxingxianshenggao，niyehuiganjueqifuyuelaiyueda、lingyifangyulaiyufuyanleshi，yinciniyejiuhuizuochuyixilie“qidao”dezuofachangshiwanhui。

5、自我感动：

biaocengshangkanshangqubuqiuhuibaosatuo，qishinijiangzishendemeiyifentourudoujiludeqingqingchuchu。

jianyanzhi，nidetourubingbushishunlichengzhangdezifafanying，zhishilingyoumudidezuogong。

 yidanzheiban，niyejiuhuijiweiqipanlingyifangdedafu，wanleyifenyimiaodoushihuibeinijiashezishen“chidakuile”。rutongxuexiyingyu，nijintianbeileyibaigeyingyudanci，shijishangzaizhuanyezhishifangmianshangeryanbingwuhendagongxiao，danyinweinideziwogandong，nikewangyingyukaoshichengjifeisufazhan——huodedezhiyoushixinhan。

那麼，在恋爱中，到底应当怎样避坑，把自己的投入言犹在耳地扔出去，保证 另一方彻底能接受到呢

1、ba“touru”zuoweigediao，biezuoweishizhi：

 ganqingzhong，bicidetourugenghaoxiangyizhonghudongjiaoliu，yizhongzifaxingbiaodaaiyidefangfa，erbushijiedingguanliandejueceyaosu。youyunanshengyouduoainizaiyunishisheiya，erbushiniweitatouruleshiduoshao。

2、tourudeqiantitiaojian，shigongping

 duinanhaizidehao，yaochuangjianzaigongpingdejibenshang。jiarutayeyiyangaizheni，yiyangqinfenshouyinidehao，neishiokde，nipijingzhanjidoukanqilaijiweibeitong。

 danjiarutabenjiulengmo，weizheiyiduanqingganrengweizuochunaxieshijixingdeqinfen，cikenizaiyiweitouru——zhuhenile，qudechenggonglunluotiangou。

3、“duitahao”shishunshuituizhou，bingbushiyixiangqingyuan

lingyifangkoukele，niweitatiqianzhunbeiyicanzhuomanhanquanxi，henajitayipingyikuaiqiandechunjingshui，nayigelingtagengganxie

 qianmianyizhongshibangongbei，houmianyizhongshibeigongban。genghekuang，nanshengzhenshibixudeshiyigeyouhuolishizudelianrenairen，bingbushizaishenhoubeihouzhuanquandelaotaipo。

4、qiewuziwogandongdejiyu

 duinanhaizihao，bingbudengyuziwogandong。xiangshangwentijide，ziwogandongshijishangshiyizhongxintaiwolidou，jianyanzhi，xiguoduo，qidaitaigao，zuizhongnileidaoouxue，lingyifangjuebulejie。

5、“xiangxidezishen”shibibeitiaojian

aiyigerendeqiantitiaojianshishandaiziji——zheibushilaomujitang，shiqieqieshishideshehuike。

jiarujinijishuangmukuai，gongxiangjilingyifangyishuang，lianggerendouchibao，liehuoxiongxin3。

 dannijinyouyishuangkuaizi，chiyizaisanhuanshizengjilingyifangle，lingyifangjinshideqingkuangxia，niezhe，jiaomeitianbulingminjiaodidibuke，youyuzheijieguoshizishenniangchude。

yinci ，duilingyifanghaodeqiantitiaojianshibenshendeyizhixing，weihubaoyanghaozizunxin、xinxin，zaitantouruba。

6、投入并不是取悦

 xuduo nvhaibawobutaihao“touru”he“quyue”zhongjiandejunhengdian，shaobuliushenjiuhunweiyitan。genghekuang，budanzaiganqing，quyuezaiyiqieyizhongrenjijiaowangshangdoushibuzhengquede，jiarulingyifangfajueniduitadehao，youxianzhude“quyue”xingwei，zhiyouzaochengbuliangyingxiang。

7、yiqiezhuangkuangxia，doubukeyisangshizishendebiaozhun