我在花镇购买了感情咨询服务，你连倾听都不会还怎么奢望幸福的爱

 wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，nijuedezaiyiduanxingfukuailedeganqingli，naxiecaisuanshizuizhongyaode?shikuanrong?shitiexin?huanshilejie?

shijishang，zaiquanbudehunyinguanxizhong，youliangzhongwupinshibukehuoquede：gongxianghelingting。

假如在一段关联中，

zheierzhedangzhongquefalesuiyiyihuan，

doushihuidaozhinantiheliefeng。

01共享和聆听是压根

dajiacunhuodeziranhuanjingzhong，meiriquchurushuideneihaoduogezhongtouyiwai，doubeijizhonggezhonggeyangdegongxianggerenxingweibaonangzhe。

zuipubiande，bianshixianliao。

 dajiatongshixianliao，heshangsixianliao，hepenyouxianliao，gebilinjuxianliao，heairenxianliao。zaixianliaodequanguochengzhong，dajiagongxiangzhemeiridesuojiansuowen、benrendekanfa、naizhishidangjindeganqingqingkuang。

bingqiequanbudelianghaoguanlian，quanshichuangjianzaiyouliangdegongxianggerenxingweiyishangde。

 nijuedebaguajinjinnvrendetianxingma?bu，nanrenyebagua，yejiushishuo，yaoshishigeluojisiweiwanshanderen，doushihuiyoubaguadexin。

bunankanchu，dajiabudanqipangongxiang，yeqipanlingting。

keshi，xuduo hunyinguanxichuxiannanti，ganghaoshiyouyuzaiqizhongyifanghuoshishuangfangdouzugelegongxianghelingtingdequanguocheng。

juyigebijiaojiandandeshili：

 jiading，liangrencongjiehunyihou，jiufeichangshaokaizhanyuyanshangdegoutonghegoutongjiaoliu。meirideshenghuobianshidabaitiangongzuo，yelichiwanfanyihoucaihuijiale，jinjiayejinjinshuayixiaju，suihoujiushuizhele。

liangrenmeiridehuihuabuchaoguo20ju，zaibuduanleyiduanshijianyihou，zheiliangrenhuichuxiannaxieqingkuangni?

外遇。

tashizuilijideyigetixianfangshi。

 zaiquanbudewaiyushilizhong，jibenshang80%zhishangdoushiyouyu“gongxianggerenxingwei”zheiyikongzhimokuaichuxianlenanti。zaiduanjuegoutongyihou，jinguanxianghujianmeiyougongxianggerenxingweile，keshi，nixinlizhuangtaishangdegongxiangbennengfanyingshiburongyibeimoqude。

 yinci，juedaduoshurenjiushunlichengzhangdequzhaociwaideren“gongxiang”le。zheiyejiudaozhilewaiyuheganqingbuhezheixienantidebaofa。

yinci ，ruguonizaizugegongxiangdeqingkuangxia，yejiushiguanlianliekaidegangkaishi。

02聆听是一件难题

henduorenyaoshuo：“bubianshitingtarenjianghuame?yaoshibingbushierduolongle，yingdangdounengzuodedaoba。”

danshijishang，lingting，zaihunyinguanxizhongshiyigenanyidufeichanggaodezishi。

dajialailiejuyigehunyinguanxizhongshifenpubiandeqingjing：

争吵。

zhengchaodeqingkuangxiashifouliangrenxianghuzhijianpenni?

wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，ciwaiyoumeiyoushenmezishini?

还击。

meiyoucuo。hunyinguanxizhongpubiandezhengchaobianshiyigebaxintaipenyongchuqu，suihouzaibawozhulingyifanghuatouhaijihuilai。

jinguanzheiyiqingkuangxiawomenkeyitingdaolingyifangjiangguonaxie，keshi，zhijinxianyu“tingdao”defanwei。

 huanjuhuashuo，dajiatingjianlingyifangjiangguonaxie，jinjinweilegenghaodibawozhuxitongloudongsuihouhaijihuilai，zheizhongneirongbingbuhuiwangxinlizhuangtaineiyangdeduofangmianshangkao。

yinci ，neiyangdequanguocheng，bingsuanbushangshilingting。

jianyieryan，meiyouyishidaozheiyidiandelianren，jinjinzaihuxiangxuanxie，quehuijuelingting，dangranshiyuechaoyuebeng。

 jiaruzaizhengchaodeqingkuangxia，nishidudetingyixia，suihoutingyitinglingyifangzaishuodezhenshidexuqiushisha，neima，nidehunyinguanxihenyoukenenghuihuodezhidetigao。

huoxuyouxierenshuowojudeshilitaijiduanhuale。shijishang，liangrenpingshishenghuozhongdequanbugoutongjieduan，douquefale“lingting”。

 bingbingbushizhishitingdaotarenjianghuadeneirongjiusuanshilingtingle。zhenshishijiyiyishangdelingting，zhideshinenggou“tingdaoerqiewajuechulingyifangbiaoshushidexintaihetihui”。neiyangcaisuandeshangshihelidelingting。

ganqinghehunyinguanxizishenjibenshangshishoulixingcaozongde。

 zheijiudaibiaozhe，zaihunyinguanxizhongchanshengdejuedaduoshushier，quanshigenjuxintai、tihuiheyaoqiude，bingfeigenjuexingshijianzishen。

 yinci ，jiarunizhiyoutingdaolingyifangshuode“shier”，erhushileyanzangzaishieryihoude“xintai”，neima，niyejiubingmeiyouzhenshi“tingdedong”tazaibiaodashenme。