情感咨询不肯退款投诉有用吗？聪明女人善于引导男人“无形付出”

qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？zaihunyinguanxili，“touru”shifenguanjian。nanshengshibushitouru，juecezhetashibushiaizheni。

erkefouyouxiaoyunyonghaotouru，jiejuezainidehunyinguanxili，zejuecezheniyizhizaizheiyiduanhunyinguanxili，shibushikeyihuodezhudongquan。

yixienvhaihuiwen：touruwomingbaia，bubianshijilingyifangqian，songlingyifanglipin，bangduifangmangzheizhongma，keshiwohaimeiyouzuolea，weishahuanshijuedefeichangaita?

jiarujuedetourujiujinjinchuqian、songlidehua，neinijiubudui，shijishangzhenshidetouru，baohanyouxinghuatouruhewuxingzhongtouru。

shuobailedeyouxinghuatouru，bianshishentilixingshangdezijintouru，lirusongli，weilingyifangtaoqian，xiezhulingyifangchuliyixieshierzheixie;erwuxingzhongtouru，zeshijingshenshizhishangduilingyifangdeyizhongzijintouru，lirusinianlingyifang，danyoulingyifang，jililingyifang，qianjiulingyifangzheixie。

zheiyejiushiweihezhiqianjiaoweishixingyidiliandeqingkuangxia，xianghuxianggeqianli，jinguanmeiyouweilingyifangzuoleshenmeshiqing，doumeiyouhelingyifangjinglizhenzhengdechupeng，danfenshoushi，rengranhuihennanshoudeyuangu。

neimazenyangzhengqueyindaoyigenanrenduinikaizhanwuxingzhongdetouruni?woqianglietuijianxialie4gefangfa：

使他常常想着你

weishenmeshuoxuqiuganqiangdenvxing，yizhihuijidaonanshenggongzuoyali，bingqiechangchangwufadedaonanshengdezaiyi?

youyuxuqiuganqiangdenvxing，yitiandaowandoudianjizhenianzhenansheng，shitameiyouyurenxiangchudeshineikongjian。

bingqiexuqiuganqiangdenvxing，huijingchanghuichuxianzainanshengdeyanqian，qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？qineinanrenshitihuibushangrisiyexiangde。nvxingyijinghetahudongjiaoliu，tayoumeiyoushenmehenxiangde?yinci gengburongyiyouzheixiefangmiandetourule。

nanshengjiuzheiyang，ruguoniyitiandaowanzaitayanqianyaohuangneishihou，tahuiganjuefan，erruguonizhangqibuchuxiandeqingkuangxia，tabianhuigangkaishisisuonizaiganma。

yiner，nvrenyaoxuehaoguanlizijidexuqiugan，ruguonishidudiweichihetajiaowangdejianjuyihou，tabianhuikongchusiniannideshineikongjian，zheigeshihou，tadewuxingzhongtourujiuchuxianle。

适度使他等候

weiheneimaduoderenfangandenghou，youyuzhidaobingbuzhishijinglishangdeyizhonghaofei，yeshijingshenshizhishangdeyizhongcuican，denghoudeqingkuangxia，nanshengyizhihuixiang“tahaolameiyou”、“ruhehaimeiyoulai”、“shifouchushenmeshiqingle”zheixie。

“bixu”shiyizhongqianjiadexintai，dantouruyoushibianshiweilegenghaodijiejuetaerzuoyixiezishenzishenbuyuanyizuodeshier，shidudeyunyongzheileiqianjiadexintaishimeiyouwentide。

chukaizaiyouhuideqingkuangxia，nenggouyouyiwandaoshiduofenzhongyiwai，niyenenggouzaiweixinliaotiandeqingkuangxia，youyiwanhuishiduofenzhong。

youmuyoufaxianniyuaiderenxianliaoshi，faxiaoxiyiwangyizhihuichixukanxinxineirong，xiangyaozhidaotahuiyinglemeiyou?shijishangzheigeshihou，nizaoyizaizuowuxingzhongdetourule。ruguoniyouyiwanhuiyingxinxineirongdeneishiduofenzhongli，tayeyiyanghuichuxianzheileixinjidexinlizhuangtai。

适度使他惯着

shijishangzheiyibieshuo，dabufennvrendoushiyaonanyouguanzhezishende，youyuzheirangtayouyizhongchongzhedejuede。keshinishitaguanzhedefangshi，yongzhengquelema?

juedaduoshunvxingrangnanyouguanzhedefangfaquanshijiaoweiqiangshide，liru“nigenbugenwo，meiqutichufenshou”，youhuoshi“nidaodimaibumai，bumaiwoxianzoule”。

yiqianghandegoutongjiaoliufangshiranglingyifangguanzheni，jiaruzheigenanrenneishihoushihenaizhenide，jinguanzuizhongyehuimanzunideguiding，keshitadexinlihuizhongxiafumianxinxidexintai，erzheizhongfumianqingxuhenkenenghuibianchengzhihouweihaidajiaqinggandezhadan。

xiangrangnanshengquguanzheni，bunengyongqiangshideyuju，zhishideyongruanrouyueerdeyuyan，liruzailianggerenzhengzhixiaoyequchishenmedeshihou，ninengyongmaimengdefangfashuo：

“qinaidede，bierenrujinaichihuoguochuanchuanma，nizuihaole，tongyibierenla~”(jianghuabuyidingyaoneimazhanni，niyenenggouyizhaozishendejieshoududiaojie)

xuduo nanrenshidaozizuidoufuxinde，nijitamenchongzudeqingmianyihou，tayehuijinihuodeniyaoxiangde。

恰当使他示弱

zhengzhi，shitanlianailibiandebixiuke，buguanqingganduomehaodelianren，jiaowangjiuledoushihuichuxianzhengzhi，jinjinzhengzhidefangfabuyiyangbale。

zaizhengzhideqingkuangxiashiruo，yeshiguishuyuwuxingzhongtourudeyizhong。erzhengzhishijishangbianshiyigezhengshengfudequanguocheng，youyumeirenxiaishude，neimalingyifangyidanfushu，bianshiyizhongshiruodexintai。

dabufennvxingzaizhengzhideqingkuangxia，douxiaiyongqiangshidexintaiqurangnanshengshiruo，liru“shibushininanrena，laoshigenyigenvrenxiaodujichang”，youhuoshi“ruguonibuzhiqian，dajiajiudaozheiliba”。

ruguodangchunanshengduiniyeyoujiaoqiangdexuqiugan，neimazuizhongtahuitiaoxuanshiruo，keyiyanghuizhongxiafumianxinxidexintai。erjiarunanshengneishihouduinidexuqiuganbingjiaoruo，neimazuihounixuyaozaoyudebuliangyingxiang，bianshifenshou。

 shijishangzaizhengzhideqingkuangxia，nvxingnenggoushidudichongfenliyongdeyoudian，bianshiruanruo。nvxingderuanruoshiyushengjulaide，zheibingbingbushiyijiancuodeshiqing。

zhengzhizhong，ninengzhuyaobiaoxianderuanruoyidian，biequdechouqihuoshizhuangzuoyibuxiaoxindiedao，zheizhongdounenggoujifayigenanrenduinidebaohuyu。

erdangtachupengnideqingkuangxia，nizaiyongbiequdeyuqiquhetagoutongjiaoliu，zheishinanshengdebaohuyufanlanchengzai，jichubianhuibaquanbudeguoshiwangtazijidedeshenshanglan。

youshishiduderuanruo，bingbingbushiyizhongrenrang，zhishiyizhonggongji，zheijiao“yirouzhigang”。

ziran，bulunshishijixingdetouru，huanshixugouxingdetouru，doubixuyouyigechengdu，nibunengyiweidixiangyoulingyifangdetouru，youyujiaruyigerenzhangqitouruquezishizhizhongwufadedaoshouyideqingkuangxia，bianhuizaochengqingchunqipanni，congerzhongzhiduinidequanbuzijintouru。

yiner，nixuyaoxuehaoshidudishouyilingyifangdetouru，birudangtarangniyibeiwenkaishuideqingkuangxia，qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？ninengjitamenyigejiewen，neiyangdajiadehunyinguanxicaikeyihemu，yecaikeyichijiutianmeidiyunyingxialai。