花镇情感是真是假？如何聊天让对方觉得你有趣？

huazhenqingganshizhenshijia？“wobuaishuohuajiaoweimen，bushanyanci，buqingchuruhegennanhaizigoutongjiaoliu。”“yikaishinanhaizijingchangzhaonvshengliaotiantian，danbuqingchuweihe，zhihoujiubianlengle，shiyouyuyuwoxianliaoganjuefaweima?wohaoxiangyebuzhidaoruheliao。”“woyuyigenanshengliaolehaozhangshijianle，dantachibuchibugaobai，ruheliaonengrangxianghuzhangwojiazhong，tuidongguanlianni?”

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budannvhai，zuoriwohuiyingde“laolaoshishinan”detichuwenti，yeshiyouguangaobiedanshenquanguochengzhongruheliaotiandenanti，kanguotadexianliaochehuoxianchangjieping：

yifangmianwojianyitakanyikanwoxiedeshu，lingyifangmianbixuchuangjianxianliaojiagou，zheilibianzuizhongyaodeshishuogushi，yougushicaibianchengyouxiuderen。

01讲故事会让相互更掌握

renrendouaitingbierengushi。dongmandianying《fengkuangyuanshiren》libianjiuhuiyouneimeyigeqingjie，buguanlibianderenwujiaosepingchangwandeduomedefengkuang，dangyouxierentiqianzhunbeishuogushishi，dahuoerjiulikeweidaojianggushiderenshenpang，zhuanxinzhizhi，qingjingqingting。

yinci ，liangzhezhijianpaxianliaoshenxianxiangchaxunhukouyiyangdeyiwenyida，haiburugenjuxiaogushilaizaochenglingyifangliuyi。

大家为何要说故事?

xiaogushiyoulianggecengmiandegongxiao。

weilegenghaodinenggougenghaodizhanxianzishen

shuowanzheigegushiyihou，yaorangtarenzhangwoni，ranglingyifangconggengduofangmianduinizaochenghaogandu，xiangdaliangdizhangwoni。

weilegenghaodinenggougenghaodizhangwolingyifang

zaiwomenshuowanyigegushishi，rutongbashikuairenglaidaoshuili，tahuifanqixuduo yilian，meiyigerendefanyingshibuyiyangde。

womenkeyigenjuyigegushi，zhenshilejieyigerendejiazhiguanyurenshengguan，shiwomennenggoulejiebicishifouzhenshishihe。

nixuyaoheyigejiazhiguantongyangderenzaiyiqi。jiaruliangrenyouhendajiazhiguandemaodun，neimananyichuangjianyigexingfukuailedeguanlian。xiaogushiyouyigehenzhongyaodezuoyong，bianshiquzhangwolingyifangdejiazhiguan。

jiarunidezheigegushinanyizaochengneimeshencengdeganenhuikui，lingrenmeiyoushenmexiangshuode，huoshitinglexiaogushiguanhouganermeifa，zhishidachadaoluan，zheijiubingbushiyigehenqudechenggongdexiaogushi。

02

小故事的常见问题

①xiaogushidekaichangciyaozunzhao5wbiaozhun

“5wbiaozhun”bianshidajiachangshuo“who(shei)、where(naer)、when(heshi)、what(fashengshenmeshi)、why(weihe)”。

shuogushishi，chufeishishigongbuyanshuohuozaidutechangsuo，bixuzhengchangjizhongjinglilaitingnijianghua，buranbuyong“jinriwojidahuoerjiangyigeshenmegushi”zheileidekaichangci。ruguoshipingshixianliao，zheileikaichangcihuiguoduzhuangzhong，bushihe。lijigangkaishi，ru，“qunianxiatiana，wohepengyouzaihangzhoushi……”jiushizheiyangkaiju，lijixuanze。

qidairenherendoushiyouyizhongquanshoudejingshenshizhi，yaobubushuogushi，yaojiangjiuxuyaoxiangzaizhengbasaishangchuangdangyiyang，bataren“jidao”。gaoduzhongshizheiyijianshierzishen，lejiezishenzaiganma。

 zaixiaogushijiaosedeshejifangancengmian，nixuyaoliuyihepinduoyudejiaose。gangkaishishuogushishi，bubishedingfanzadejiaose，jinliangdijiangdizhuanyemingci，nidegushiyinggaishiyigeputonggaozhongdaxuebiyeshengdounengtingdedongde。

②留意情景重现

xiaogushizhongdeqingjinggenjuyuyanzhongxian，ranglingyifangjindaonidegushi。dajiadeyuyantongchangshihenpinfade—xushuyigeqingjingdequanguochengyibanbutaixuxurusheng。nixuyaojiangniqidaitarenlejiedewupinzaixianjidahuoer。

nijuedezishenqingxushifenyukuai，guanzhongbuqingchunineixinjiujingyouduoyukuai。nixuyaoqueligaozhilingyifang：

“woneishihouxinlvshifenkuai，quanburendouchuanbushangqile。”

guanzhongcaizhidaoyuanlainiyukuaishishineiyangde。

随后你再告知观众：

“wocongbulejieyuanxianwoshounenggoulveweiduosuo……”

zheizhongquanshiguanjiandian，genjuguanjiandianjiukeyigouleyigeqingjing。

nixuyaomiaoshuzheigedifanghenmei。chukaishuo“gaoshangkongjiandaodejingsehenmei”zhiwai，shadoumeiyou?neidaodishiduomedehaokanni?zuipubiandegoulefangfabianshijiangniwuguandetihuimiaohuichulai。

huazhenqingganshizhenshijia？jugeshili，xushuniyicigaokongtiaosandelijing，niyejiuxushunijiandaode：

 “wokanjianleyizhengpianhai，neihaideyanseyuwopingshisuojiandaodeshibuyiyangde，yuandediqushilanhuise，hecangqiongjiehezaiyiqi。wozaishangbiantiaoxiaqudeqingkuangxiatingdaolefengpaoxiaodexiangsheng。”

lingwaijiangnijuedeqitishinaxiede，nidechuganshinaxiede，cong2000migaochutiaoxiadeqingkuangxia，nidejifuheqitichupengdeqingkuangxiashinaxiede，zheixie，baguanjiandianduofangweidimiaohuichulai，jinerdajianqiyigeqingjing。buran，tarenjiumeiyoubanfajindaonidegushi。

③少犯“红领巾病”

zheiyidianzhenshishidahuoerdechangjianwenti。ershi，womenzaimeizhangwenzhangneirongdezuizhong，douyaoxie：

“woxiongkoudehonglingjinhaoxianggengyanlile!”

yejiushizaiwenzhangneirongmoweiyidingyaotishengguannian。zheizaidajiashuogushishishiyigeshifenbuzhengquedezuofa。

huizongdehuayingdangyoutingdereneryan，erbushishuoderen。yaorangtarenyoudaliangyijianfankuideshineikongjian，youyuniyaoquzhangwolingyifangdeniantou。

tiyishuogushizhishuogushizishen，buyongkaishiyebuyongmowei。jibuyaoshuo“wojintianjiangyigeshenmegushi”，yebuyaozaimoweiganshenmehuizong。

yeyou，shuogushishiliuyibubixiaokanguanzhongdelijienengli。ruguoniyaoduiyigerenshuogushishi，biaomingtafeichangzhidenijiangzheigegushi。jirantafeichangzhidejiang，biaomingtadelijienengligenniyizhizaiyigeshuizhunshang，nibuyongdanxintatingbumingbai。

④留意展现自身

ruguonijiangyigegushishi，yaozhanxianchusuoyoudeni。

biru，niyizhizaishuonizhizhuyigerenhuoshizuolecishanjuanzhuzheileideshi，zheigegushishuomingnihenshanjierenyi，yehenyouaixin，danzaizuihouyifenzhong，niquehuranbiaoshulezishenhenfuyou、jinjinsuibianwanwaneryideniantou，zuihoudeshijixiaoguohuiyiluoqianzhang。zheizhengshilenidetilianchufangshiheshijiaoyoushenmewenti。

nenggouziwodiaokan，keshishizhongbubijiangzishenduomedeqiangda，tarenduomededuiniyouganjuehuoshihenniuderenweiyinsuniganleshashi，zheileizhongleidexiaogushiguoduanbukeyijiang。

youxierenduiniyouganjuezheiyijianshier，zhiyoutarenzishenqufajue，shizhongbubizishenjiangchuqu。guanzhongdetihuicaisuanshizuizhongyaode，nidetihuibuzhongyao，womenyaoyiguanzhongweiguanlizhongxin。