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jinqizonghuiyoutongxuemenxiangwodiaokanshuo，nanyouyizhibutingzishendehua，shuochengwangdongyingyaowangxi。zishenzuoweiziliziqiang，mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，lingjiarongmaodaqidechicxiaoguniangyiweizhe，youbuxietazhengchao。genwoshuochukaishuifuta，youshenmehaodefangshishuodongnanyou，shitaduizishenweimingshicongni?

jinriwoyeweidahuoerchanshengyibenquweiyouhaoyong，youyingguozhimingdezaichuanboxuezhuanjiajiaoshoutuoni•kemingsisuoxieshuodongmiji《xiyinaofaze》，jiaodahuoerzailianaizhongqingqingsongsongshuodongnanpengyou，shitaguaiguaitinghua。

qidaidahuoernulixuexi，liaowankaixin。

基本原理剖析

nanpengyounaozhongjiujingshifoumianhu?weiheyoushihaoxianghuozaiyiciyuan?youshizenmehuishizaocheng tayierzai，zaiersandizuochuzheibanmeiyouqiushengyudexingweini?reliehuanyingguankanzoujinkexuexinpindao——jiepouxueshenglixuenao。

keyanshuomingdajiaderendedanaogongfenchengsanceng，zuiwaibianshidajiayanbianshuipingzuidadedanaopizhi，shidajiarendedanaodangzhongzuinianqing、jiaoda deyibufen。guanjianchengdanyoumudedesiweimoshi，lirugengduofangmiandesisuo、xiemaobizi、yuyan、jiqidajialuojituilihepouxidegongzuonengli。jianyidishuo，quanbulixingsikaodeguanlijuece，quanshiyoutachengdanda。

zhengzhongjianyicengshinaobianyuanxitong，yechengweiburuleidongwunao。guanjianchengdanxuexipeixunhejiyili，ganqingdebiaoshu，jiqijiangyiwangdeexingshijianhemingxiandeganqinglianluozaiyiqi。lirunihuixiangdaoheqianrentichufenshoudeqingjingshifendenanguo，bianshizheiyibufenrendedanaoyunxingdejieguo。

zuilibianyicengbianshidajiachangshuode“shexinao”，yechengweinaoxiachuiti。tashidajiacongyuanguchuanshuoshidexianzuneilijiyinyichuanhuodederendedanao，fuzerenqianyishidesiweimoshi。liruzuichudexingdong，xiangxiqi、xinlv、junhengdengjibenyaosu。liruruguonishenpangchuxianyigenanhaishi，yishunjianbeitaxiyinzhu，huxikunnan、xintiaohenkuai、rentitiwenshangshengzheizhongzhuanbianquanshi“benzhishexi”caozongde。

congrendedanaodezhizefengongfenxikanlai，youdanaopizhizuochudefanyinghuishifendekeguan，huyounanduxishugao，gongzuoliangda;buruleidongwunaojiaoweiwulunshiqing，gengheshibeichunshangqiu;er“shexinao”caozongbuyouzizhuluojisiwei，shuodongnanduxishuxiao，shizuiheshibeidajiayongyuchongfenfahuizhimingdudeyibufen。

shuodaozheier，xueshengmenhenyoukenengbianhuibuzhidaozenmebanle，nandaoshuodajiademinglingnengtouguoqianshuangcenglijifasongdao“shexinao”ma?neiyangbiaoshubushihenzhunque，danyibaneryanrendedanaoduiwaibujienadexinxineirongdequehuixiangenju“shexinao”jinerzuochudiyifanying。birushuo，pengdaotarenyunizhengchao，nidouhuixiguanxianmahuilai，zhidaoyishidaozhengchaomeifajiejuezheijianshiqingyihou，nicaihuiqusisuozenmejiejuezheijianshiqingduima。

zheishiyouyurendedanaoyeshixiailanduoda。chengdandeqianyishisiweimoshijiejuenantide“shexinao”chengxuliuchengfeichangjiandan，jisuansulvgengkuai，erdajiadedanaopizhichengdandeyoumudesiweimoshi，shujukuchaxunhenda，jisuanchengxuliuchengfanza，jinyoudangqianyishisiweimoshijiejuebushangshitacaihuitongyijiejuekunnan。yinci youshinanyoujinguankanshangquhenkeguan，danshijishangtadejuedaduoshujuecequanshigenjushexinaolaizuode。

睡服说动秘笈

1.第一计：更改个人行为比更改心态更合理

juedabufenrendoushiyouyigebuzhengque，bianshijuedeshuodongtarenbianshigenggailingyifangdexintai，zongjuedexijiejuedinggerenxingwei，taidugaibianle，gerenxingweiyehuisuizhegenggai。danshijishangyanjiubiaomingdajiayizhixianzuochumouleigerenxingwei，suihouzaiyijugerenxingweiquhelixingdajiadexintai。

yongtongsuyidongeryanbianshi，dajiadouhuiweidajiadegerenxingweixunzhaoshihedetuoci，birushuonijintianguangjiegouwuhuranjiandaoyigeyouqixiaidanpianguidepinpaibao，xiangyixiangzishendeyue，fajuemaiwanhoujiuzhishengerweishule，jiarunijiangbaomailai，maiwanhouhenyoukenenghuineiyangxiang“gongzuozhongneimejianxin，feichangzhidekaoshangyixia，bingqiegongzuozhongbianshiweilegenghaodizhengqian，zhengqianbianshiweilegenghaodiguodegaoxing，mailaizheiyibaowoyehenkaixin，yinci zheiyibao，zhi!”;jiarunijujuelecicidehuaxuewuzhiyinyou，nihenyoukenengjiushizheiyangxiang”meiyouzheiyipinpaibaoyemeifabianruowowuchuzhifangdefengcai，guihaizishenshengleyidabizhichu，jianzhiyigelixingdenvhaizhi～”。zheijiushidianxingxingdegenjugerenxingweilaigenggaixintai。

neima，zenyanggenjugenggainanyoudegerenxingweilaishuodongtani?

liru，niqidainanyounenglaijienixiabanle，danshitazongshuohenlei，liangrendeqiyegedetaiyuanle。niyifahuotazongshijianghao，xiayiciqujie，keshiqueconglaibuxingdong。neidajiahebuba“qinaidenilailaijiexiabanle    “huanwei”qinaidewomenxiabanlequxxxyuehuiya“，erqiezaizheizhongyuehuizhongzaojiuyixielanmandezhuiyi。

zheileigenjugenggaigerenxingweidefangfashuodongtalaijieni，jidadaolezongtimubiao，youtishenglelequ。jianjiandidetayehuimishangzheilei“lanmandezhuiyi”dangzhong，zhihouyebianhuishifenxiangyaolaijienini。

2.第二计：说动与更改心愿不相干，与实现愿望相关

kanaijishuo：“zheiyiquanshijieweihaitarendeweiyifangfabianshiyutarentaoluntamenyaoxiangdewupin，binggaozhitamenzenyanghuode。”

 zheiyijianjiezhayitingfangfoshifendeguaiyi，gengshiyouyudajiadetiyihetadexinyuanbuxiangfuhe，dajiacaiyaoshuodongtaya。weihezheieryouyaobangtashixianyuanwangni?

youyudajiadeshexinaozuochudeguanlijueceshifendebuyigenggai。suoyishuojiranzaijieguoshangwomenbunengzuoshoujiao，neimadajiajiuzaiwanchengzheiyiguanlijuecedequanguochengzhongqianrudajiadeniantou。

shijishangzaidajiadeyounianshiqijiuchangchangbeizijifumujiaoshineiyangzhaoshule，birushuocengjingdewomenhenxiangyaoyigexiaowanjuya，babamamabianhuineiyanggennijiang“yaoshizanshangpinqimokaoshidiyiming，woyerangnimaizheiyixiaowanjuzenmeyangla”。babamamagenjuyanchimanzunixinyuandefangfa，laibatamendeniantouzuoweimanzunixinyuandefangshi，jinerjiniduitamendeniantouweimingshicong。

yuanxiandajiazaoyibeiyishenzuozele，zhiyuanshenchulushanzhong(xiaorong)，haozailingwubuchi，qiahaoyongzainanyoudeshenshang。lirunanyouyouyuganjuezaiqiyegongzuozhongtaiyayiganle，meiyouyidiansuiyi，yaoxiangcizhi。suihouxiexiyiduanshijianzaizhaoxindegongzuozhong。zheigeshihoujiaruniyaoshuodongta，shitabiebulizhizuoshi，yaozenmequandaotani?

mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，ninenggaosuta“yinweinixiangzhengshizishen，genjuqinfenxunzhaogengqiangdegongzuozhong。danshirujinyouyizhongfangfashinenggoujiniyoukuaiyouyouzixindeliqujiazushiqiyede。bianshizaiqiyexunsujileijingyan，jileirenmaiguanxi，yidangongzuojingyanzankeyile，likenenggouliqu。jiarunirujinlikai，henyoukenengzhaodegongzuozhonghaibibushangzheiyi。”

neimeyijiang，jiyanchimanzulenanpengyou，youshitaduiniweimingshicong。

3.第三计：時刻关心另一方的体会，依靠希望感提高具体感受

shuodongzuihoudemudibianshishitaduinizanbujuekou，yejiushishitadeshexinaozuochudeguanlijuecechedichuyunidecaokongdangzhong。keyanfajueshexinaozuochudeguanlijuecegengfeichangrongyizaoshouxintaideweihai，suoyishuorangnanyouzaixintaishangrenzhidaonishifeichangzhidetaweimingshicongdeyeshishifenguanjiandi。

 feichangjiandandefangshibianshigenjuyuyanlaiyingzaozheizhongganjue。feichangjiandan，gennanpengyouzaiyiqideqingkuangxia，bubiyiweidebiansunta，shuotazheizuodebudui，neizuodebuduizheixie，yebukeyiyiweidezanmeita，shuonizuodezhenbang，neiyanghuishitaganjueniyizhizaitaohaota，haoxiangyaoxiangdadaonaxiemudi。

yaokuayixiasunyixia，zaiyuyanshangshengchanzhizaochuyizhongyituiyiladejuede。ranglingyifangyihuiganjuenihenfangan，yihuiyouganjuenihenquwei，neiyangjuededangranjiuchulai。

suiranxintaikewangerbukeji，keshitanenggouweihaininanyoudeshexinaozuochujuece。changchangzainanpengyouyanqianxianshixinxizijizuodeguanlijueceyouduomedeqiadang，erqieyongchixuzhuzhongdefangfalaiyingzaozishenzainanpengyouxinzhongzhongconghuidepinpaixingxiang。neiyangjianjiandidenanyoujiupobudeyiduiniweimingshicongle。