买了花镇一个月服务，比出轨更可怕的是不会好好说话

shehuixinlixuedediaochafenxifajue，xuduo qingganchuxiannanti，bingbingbushiyouyuzaishibushienaizheizhongguanjiandenantishangchuxianlemaodun，mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，fanguolai，ganqingliehendaliangshiyiyixiefeichangrongyibeihushidesuoshigangkaishide，lirubukeyishuohuazhidao。

xuduo rendaoqingganzhongtourulexuduo ，keshizaihelianrenjianghuadeqingkuangxia，yaobuxiaimaiyuan，yaobuxiaitiaomaobing，chizetaren，yaobushiyouyuxingziji，jianghuafeichangrongyishangdaotaren。

yingguodexinlifudaoquanweizhuanjiapaleixia·yiwensibazhishangzheizhongzhuangkuangchengzhiweiyuyanlingnve。dajiadoulejierentilingnveshiyijianhenyanzhongdeshier，danshishishang，yuyanlingnvezaochengdejingshenshizhishangdewaishangyidianyewuxurentilingnvechanshengdesunhaigengxiao。

美满婚姻必需要素：开心地闲聊

duitiqianzhunbeijiechengfufudeyinanyinveryan，zuizhongyaodewupinshisha?

ganqingjiben、jingjifazhanbiaozhun、xinlichengshu、fenbiedandu……

dui，zheizhongquanshihunyinshenghuoxingfukuailedebixuyaosu。danyeyouyixieqianzaixingyinsushibeidabufenrenhushide，lirushifoukeyishikaixindixianliao。

cengyouyigefensixiangwoqingtu，shuozishenhunhoudejiaoda fannao，laiziyulaogongdeduzui。

youyitianwanshang，laogongjiabanjiadianhuijiale，tabiankandianshijubianlanglangshangkouxunwendao：“nichifanlema?”

“nijuedeni?”yixiangbudaolingyifangqichongchongdidafuta，tayiting，bianyishengbuxiangdizhanqiqurefanshi。

jinguanxinlinanshou，danhuanshijielidianweiziji，tagongzuozhongpilaoshoulebiequ，zuolaopode，yingdangduokuanrongjianliang。

kelaogongmanhengwuliqilai，duirehaodefanshitiaomaobing，xianshucaibuzuxinxian，youchongzheyipanhongshaopaiguhuomaosanzhang。

“wopengrenjishusuanbushanghao，mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，danshifoukeyishihaohaodifabiaoyijian?”laopowukenaihe，“tafayanshi，yizhidaizhusanfenbuxieyiguqifenjiaoxiao，lingrenyouqixinlibushufu。shijianyijiu，queshiganjuehunyinshenghuofawei。”

woyizhijianxin，kaixindixianliao，shimeimanhunyindezuizhongyaozhibiaozhizhiyi。

youyuyouzhangcishengyaohexianghuxiangban，wenroudexianyansuiyugengfeichangrongyixiaomosuiyue，tigaomanzugan。shijishang，hunyinshenghuogoutongjiaoliucaisuanshiyishengzhongzuizhongyaode、zuihongweideyurenxiangchu。

burongyishuohuazhidaodeai，lingrenwufarenshou。

haoguimibeibeidenanyoubianshineileiburongyishuohuazhidaoderen。youyicidajiayijingyiqiguangjiegouwu，beibeihuranmiansecangbaijijikewei，dajiahaoduogeliantuodaizhuaidegankuaibabeibeisongjinyiyuanmenzhen，xiazhetenglehaoduogezhongtoucaisuanzuoanzhuanglechulai，ranhoujibeibeidenanpengyoudaguodianhuatongzhitalaiyiyuanmenzhen。

beibeinanpengyoulaiyiqian，dajiapatahuitaiguodanyou，bianzaidianhualijiutizaogaozhiletabeibeishiyouyuchixugaoshao，caihuihundao，erqiezaoyimeiyoufengxianle，shitabuyaohaipa。

danshishishangdajiashengxingduoyile。tatuikaimenzhihou，jiandaoshoubeizhachuanmandadiandizhendebeibei，qixianlengleyixia，zhuankoumaoyibianhoulechuqu，“niyoumeiyoutounao?debingnikendingbuhuikan?feiyaotuodaohundaojinyiyuanmenzhennicaigaoxing?duozhanijizhenzuihaoshi，zongzhinizheizhunaozizaoyimengle。”

taziyaliezuidemoyangmoyangbadajiaheleyitiao，yizhuanyangankuaikanbeibei，beibeibiequdefangyanwangquhanzhelei，wanglewangtashoushangzhuanyeweizijidaidezhou，huanshijidehenbunengxianchangtichufenshou。

jinilaishiqidainikeyizhaoguhaozijianweizijide，bingbushilaitingnimaiyuanjiaoyude，nvhaizhaodeshinanyou，bingbushipengjijia。bushuohuazhidao，zaihaodeqingganyehuiyidianyidianxiaomodaijin。

zheixiesuikoushuochudepipingjiaoyu，yudiaoshangdesunhaishiya，caisuanshisunhaiqinggandemuhouheishou。

rutongzhihoubeibeishuodeneiban，jiandaonanpengyouzhuanyedaidezhou，tagaoqingchulingyifangbushibuaita，danshiaideneimeshen，jiarubukeyihaohaodibiaoshu，neiyeyidingyiranglingyifangxinrusihui。

weihedajiayizhijiuchanbuqing?

neima，daodishizenmehuishizaocheng ，yuefaqinmiwujianderenhenyoukenengjianghuadeqingkuangxiayuefeichangrongyi“huxiangsunhai”?

jianyideshuo，womenkeyibayuangufenchengerzhong：

1.不愿好好说。

xuduo rendaoyubierengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，nengbaozhengkeguan，rouhehekuanrong，keshizaiheqinrengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，yaobuchangchangkanqilaiyanfan，yaobubianshijianmohejiatinglengbaoli。

zenmehuineiyangni?zheishijishanghegoutongjiaoliudeqingjingbuyiyangxiangguan。

zaiyuluren、yibanpengyoudengfeihunyinguanxiderenxiangchushi，youyubuzuzhangwo，lingwaigoutongjiaoliuzhonghuicunyouxuduo kebianxing，weilegenghaodigoutongjiaoliudechenggong，dajiahuijifazishenquanbudexinlizhuangtaiziyuan，baohanlixingheganxing，laibaozheng goutongjiaoliudechangshun。

neiyangdegoutongjiaoliubiaocengshanghenyoukenenghenshifangyali，keshixinlitongchangchuyuyizhongjiaolvbuandeqingkuang，yincibuzijuedehuichengdanyidingdegongzuoyali。

keshifanhuijiali，dajiadexinlizhuangtaihuidiaojiedaoyizhongwanquanshifangyalideqingkuang，qidainenggouxuehuifangxiaxinlizhuangtaishangdefangyulihemianzhao，zhenshidezuohaoziji。dangliangrendouxiangzuohaoziji，douhuiyonglixingdexintaikaizhangoutongjiaoliushi，pengdaomaodunshideqingxubuwendingbianshiyizhonghenyiqiezhengchangdezhuangkuangle。

ziran，henyoukenengyeyouxierenhuiyouyiwen:weiheliangrengangzhuiruqingwangdeqingkuangxia，zaiyiqishiyehenshifangyali，danfeichangshaozhengzhini?

yuangushi，zailejieqianqi，liangrendouxiangzhanxianzishenzuihaoshideyimian。dangliangrendouzhanxianzishenhaodeyimianshi，yifangdetouruhuizhaolailingyifangdaliangdetouru，yincigoutongjiaoliubianhuijindaodaoyizhongwenbufazhanqingkuangzhong。keshibansuizheqinggandeshencengci，fenbiedequexianhebugougangkaishipulu。dangliangrengangkaishixianglingyifangbiaoshubumanyishi，zhengzhihechizebianhuiyinqimengliedehaiji，zheishihougoutongjiaoliujiugengfeichangrongyixianruebiandexunhuanxitongqingkuangzhong。

yiner，aiduoshen，zaiyuliangrengoutongjiaoliuzhongdewenbufazhannengduoshen;erainengbuduanduozhangshijian，zezaiyutamenzaigoutongjiaoliuchuzailiangjihuadeqingkuangxia，kefoulijidequanzubingniuqugoutongjiaoliudefangwei。

2.不容易好好说

yaoshidajiashenxinjiankang，neimajianghuajiubingbushiyijianduomenandeshi。danhuijianghuahehuibiaoshuhaibingbushiyihuishier，xuduo rendaozenyanggengqiangdebiaoshuzishenzheixiefangmianzailegendou。biru：bukeyiqingchudebiaoshuzishendezhenzhengtihui。

zaiwomenbukaixin，youxintaideqingkuangxia，yibanfeichangshaohuiqingxigaoqingchudejiangchuzishenweihebukaixin。fanguolai，dajiahenyoukenenggengshanyugenjuhanhubuqing，naizhiluanqibazaodefangfabiaoshuzishendetihui，lingwaichechubiedexuduo youguannantinaizhibuyouguandenanti，rangnantibiandegengweifanza。

jieguo，goutongjiaoliudehuatitaolunjingchangpianyizhutifengge，congdangjindenantichedaoxuduo laozhangzhongqu，goutongjiaoliuchedishiqujiejuekunnandeyuanyi，bianchenglexintaishangfaxiehedikang。

henduorenzhiweibiaoshuzishen，erbushanyulingtinglingyifangdezhenzhengniantou。

goutongjiaoliuzaishizhishang，shibicigoutongjiaoliufenbiedeniantouhetihui，suihoudachengxieyi。keshiyaozuodaozheiyidianbingbuyi，youyujinyouliangrendouchongzuyizhi，xinlizhuangtaishangyechongzujunheng，erqiebazhuanzhulidoufangdaojiejuekunnanshangbianshi，caikeyiwancheng。

keshizaishijideqingganshenghuozhong，jiaowangdejiulehuirangliangrendouganshoudaobumanyinaizhibiequ，erqiejuedezishendebiequlingyifangshikanbudaode。yinerdangpengdaonantideqingkuangxia，dajiahuibennengfanyingdejiqiebiaoshuzishen，yongqingxubuwendingdeyuyancijixinglingyifang，xiangranglingyifangzhenshirenshizijidetihui。

爱一个人一定要学好说话之道

mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，haijidejindongcengcanyanyibudianshiju《womendeai》，libiandenvyihaodingxueshenaizhejindongbanyandexuguangming，shubuzhitabianshizuichunburaoren，meiyouduixuguangmingshuoguoyijuhaotingdehua，haoxiangshishikekedouhuihou，douhuichao。

haijideyouyiciliangrenchaoleyijiahou，xuguangmingyiyeweigui，lianggerenneixinshijishangdouhenyumen，dingxuejueceshiruoyici，xuehuifangxiazishiyaogenxuguangmingzhiqian，danshiaijinxuguangmingshixiudaotadeshenshangyouxiangwei，likeyouquandouwangjile，bulejiebiaoshu，lijitongma。

zuihouliangrenqingganmeifafangzhidizoulaidaozhongdian，daobushibuaini，yebushidisanzhechazu，zhishimeifagoutongjiaoliu。

yinci a，zaikanleneimeduoyouyubiaoshushouzuertichufenshoudeshilihou，qingyidingxuezhehaohaodigenshenpangzhenzhengainiderenshuohuaba，bubitaiguodijiangyuyanbianweishenqi，yicicicixianglingyifangzuimianruanzuimingandeweizhi。

doushuo“nijianghuadewendu，bianshidajiaganqingnengzoudezhangduan。”