买了花镇一个月服务，如何让对方主动升级关系？

kellyjiushiwodeyiweiqiuzhuzhe，tagongzuozhongpengdaolejason，lianggerenchupengyoudabannianle。mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，lianggerenzhudediqushifenjin，bingqieyouzaitongyijiaqiyegongzuozhong。yinci ，youshikellyhuiqujasonjiazhongbaifang，naizhihuichangchangzaitajiazhongliusu，jasonyehuichangchangweikellynongfan，songzaocan，yiqiqukandianyingdeng。

zheidabannianzhongmeiyouchanshengyiqiexingshenghuo，shuzuiduoyejiushixiangbaorushui。yiqiankellyhuizhuangzuorushui，fajuenanxinghuiqiaoqiaodiwenzishendeqiane。

jiaowangquanguochengzhong，kellyhuiqukankanlingyifangdeshoujishang，hendanyoutagenbiedeyixingpengyouxianliao，zaiqiyezhongyehuiyouyulingyifanggenyixingpengyoutangongzuozhongerfapiqi。

kellyshuo，jasonyizhimeiyoushuoguoyaozuohaozijidenanyou，tayehaipaxijiulingyifangbushengjiguanliandeyuangu，youshihuitixindiaodandiwendao，anshizhelingyifang，danmeiyoulijigaobai。

jinqijasonhaiduizishenlengdanle，buqingchugaizenmeban，xiangxunzhaowodexiezhu。

另一方不推动关联的缘故

zuixian，kellywangwangshenxianxianjieduanchuyubeidongdechujing，yuanguqujueyumeiyourenqingxizishenzaizheiliduanguanlianzhongdebuweihezhenshishenfen。

weihelingyifangjinguanduikellyyouxiangjinnanpengyoudexingwei，quemeiyoufashengxingguanxi，yeyizhimeiyoumingquetichujianliqinglvguanlian?

zuixianwomenyaoyouyigeguannian：

shifoulingyifangzhiqiandeyixielijingshitahaipamairuhunyinguanxi?

erqie，douhaimeiquedingguanlianjiujuyoulenvyoudegongzidaiyu，quebuganxie，yedouhaimeishizhequlejielingyifanggerenxingweishenhoudeyuangu，zhiguanxintarujinshengshuwole，erqiehaiyongnvyoudezhenshishenfenqucaokonglingyifangdeshejiaomeiti，nanxingshifouhuigengweihaipazheiyiduanhunyinguanxini?

rendouquxiangsuiyi，douhaimeimingqueyiqi，jiugangkaishixiandinglingyifangqueshihaome?hekuangzheiyixiandinggerenxingweizaihunyinguanxizhongnengbunengzuo，dajiahaiyaodashangyigeyiwen。

yinci ，ruguonifajue，dajiachuzaitongxueguanxiquezuoqinglvdeqingkuangxia，nijiuxuyaozhuyile。

cizhi，zheiyiduanguanlianzaimeiyoubianchenghunyinguanxiyiqianjiutaiguojunhengle。

duinanxingeryan，mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，rujindeguanliangenqinglvmeishenmechabie，bingqieqingqingsongsongdangran。danjianliqinglvguanlianhou，henyoukenengzuizhonghuifenli，huisunhaidaolingyifang，shiyoufengxianxingde。

zheileizhuangkuangxia，renweilegenghaodibaohuzijihuifangfanfengxian，ertaobizhenshideguanlianchuangjian。

gairuherangnanshengxiangyaotuidongguanlian?

1.不必同居生活，

shiqinglvhaiyaojinliangjianshaotongjushenghuo

xuduo renjuedehunqiantongjunengdiaochaxianghushibushizhenshinengyulingyifangyouhaoxiangchu，danshijishang，tongjushenghuohuitishengfenlichulaidefengxian。

tongjushenghuodelianrenxianghudefuwuchengnuobibushangjihunfufu，guishuyukongbaizhipiao，youyuxianghuyeyouhouluyeyoutiaoxuandejiyu。

zheiyihuanjiedeliangrenyouyuguishugandequeshao，bidinghuiyongxiweidefangfaxianglingyifangxinxichuandi：

快点快点一个承诺。

lingyifangpobudeyigongzuoyalipobudeyirangni。keshipobudeyigongzuoyalijidefuwuchengnuobingbushizhenzhengniantou，feichangrongyihuimie。

fuwuchengnuomeihuimieyici，dajiadeguanlianjiukailieyici。

zaitongjushenghuodequanguochengzhong，dajiayehuizaoyudaliangdenantihekebianxing，jiqizaoshoudaliangdemaodunhejingongzhuangkuang。

yinci ，tongjushenghuodeshijianyuezhang，dajiaduihunyinshenghuodejiqingjiuyuedi。

wozhizaiyizhongzhuangkuangxiatiyiqiuzhuzhenenggoutongjushenghuo，neibianshihunqian3geyuedeshijian。

2.nenggounuanwei，danshiyoujiexian

yexudajiahuichimishixiadeguanlian，youzheleyibufenhaixiangyaodaliang，xiangyaolingyifangdesuoyou，nuanweihaibugou，zuihaoshihainengshizhijinkoujiewenlingyifang，youyuneiyangwokeyiyougentazhenshizaiyiqidejuede，qinglvdejuede。

danwomenyaogaoqingchuyidian，guanliandeshengjishijishangshixunsude，zaimouyigeshijianfanweitishengjiukeyile，bingbingbushidajiajuedede，wogentaguanlianyuejindejiuyuenengquedingguanlian。

zaishengjiguanlianyiqianjiexiangandequeshao，henkenengranglingyifangzaiqianyishizhonglijuedeniqueshifeichangrongyihuode，yaolejiedajiazenmehuixihuanyigerenyijianshi，shiyouyudajiabixuchengbenheqinfencaikeyihuode，buyongchengbenhuodedeshiqing，womendoushibutaikenengzhenshichijiudexiaide。

nuanweizaijiashangjiexianganhuishitayulaiyuxiangyaoni。xiangfan，tananyixiangyaofuchuyingyoudedaijialaipeizhenizourugengjiashenrudeguanlian。

3.确立自身的真实身份，

shenmejiaoshixiazuibixuzuode

mailehuazhenyigeyuefuwu，ganqinglaoguqiechijiudaibiaozhedajiaguanliandepingwen。

xuduo dehunyinguanxizhongjinyouganqingdeguanlian，keshiganqingzishentabingbuwending，nenggouneiyangshuo，jibian nishifenhaoyundezhaodaozhenzhengdeaiqing，xingfukuaileyebuhuichijiu，youyurenyidinghuijiaowei，jiaoweibianhuizaochengqidaiyushijidechabie。

liru，nidemubiaoduinishifenhao，danshituranyouyitianyouyutazaimanghuoshiyoubiededeshierwanmeiwuxiaguanxinni，dajiaxinlimianbulebianhuichuxianxinhan，neiyangmanzuganbianhuiyuelaiyuedi，yinci jishitameiyouyiqiegenggai，zheiyiduanguanlianyehuijiniyulaiyubumanyi。

yinci dajiabixuchuangjianciwaiyigeguanlian——laogudeyouqing。

quelizishendezhenshishenfen，rujinqiahaoshichuangjianyouqingdehuangjinshijian，quzhangwotadaliang，shitazhangwonidaliang，youyudajiaxianghuzhijianzhangwo，huirangdajiadeyouqinggengweinonghou，weidajiadeganqingqueligengjiangudejiben。

gaoqingchuzishenshipenyoudezhenshishenfen，bubiqutiyixietaiguodeguiding，dengjihuilaidao，zaizhengqueyindaotishengguanliancaisuanshishangshangce。