有在花镇退款成功的吗?怎样再次抓住他多变的心？

youzaihuazhentuikuanchenggongdema？henduorendoushihuijingliguolengbaoli，ganshouguoneileijiaolvqingxu、fanzaobuandexintai。

mingzhidaolengbaolishiyizhonghaofei，querengranneimezuo，zheiduiliangrendejiaowangjinyoubiduan，meiyouyichu。

yiner，jinriyijieyuniliaoyiliaoyingduiyunanyoudelengbaoli，nigairuhequzuo?

冷暴力时的主要表现有这几个方面

1、缄默逃避

 lengbaolizhongzuidianxingxingdegerenxingweibianshijianmo，zaimengliedezhengzhihou，liangrenxinlidoutianmanzheyuanhenhebumanyi，jibian dajiarichangshenghuozaitongyiwuyanxia，quedoubuyuanlicailingyifang。

gemanggede，balingyifangzuoweiqiti，jiusuanshizuozaiyiqichifan，yeshigechigede。

pingchangmeiyouxinyoulingxideliangrenzailengbaolideqingkuangxiaquefenwaitongyi，yongjianmobiaoshuzhewuyindeqiangliekangyi。

2、语言赌气

 zhengchaohoudelengbaolibenbianshiyizhongdouqidegerenxingwei，youshiqueshibiebuzhu，bianhuixiangyaoduiliyouyideyuyanqucijixinglingyifang。

 jibian bulijihelingyifangshuo，yehuiguaiwanmojiaodejiangchuyixieduqidehua。liru，zaihepenyoutongdianhuadeqingkuangxia，bianhuijiangyixiefumianxinxidehuashuojilingyifangting，zuodaofangkongzijidefumianqingxuhecijixinglingyifangdemudi。

cikederen，xinlizhuangtaigengxiangjiandaodebingbushijiejuewenti，zhishilingyifangbiniyaoqi。

3、buwenbuwen，naizhiwanxiaotui

zheiyingdangsuanzuohenyanzhongdelengbaolile，yibanzaichuxianzhongtedaganqingweijideqingkuangxiacaihuichuxiandeqingkuang。

cikedeta，henyoukenengzaoyiwanquanfangqileyiqieyunihuifu、wanjiuguanliandezhunbei。

怎么会冷暴力?

 congshangbianjileilengbaolixianxiangnenggoukandechu，lengbaolishiyizhongshifenbujiankangdejiejuekunnandefangfa，youyudahuoerdouhuihuijuegoutongjiaoliu，neimazheileixiangchumoshiyidanchanshengxiguanxing，neimaduiqinggandesunhaishishifenjidade。

lengbaolineime“huai”，weiheyeyaolengbaolini?

 xuduo nvhaizaizhaoyijiedeqingkuangxiadoushihuishuo，womenzaimengliedezhengchaohou，woyixiangzheneimechaobingbushifangfa，debanantijiangmingbai，dannanyoudexintaibingbushijianmobianshixuanzelikai，zheirangnvhaishifendefushang，tajuedenanyouhenyoukenengzaoyisheqihetagoutongjiaoliu，jiejuekunnanle。

shijishangnanhaizineimezuo，buyidingshisheqi，zhishiyizhongtaobidexintai。

 dangnvshengxiangyaobajiejuewentideqingkuangxia，jianghuadefangfaqueshishifenxingfende，poshide，yinerhuixianggenju，lengbaolilaijianqingxingfenxintai。

 youxinlixuezhuanjiacengzhuanyeduiyouqingganjinglideqingnianrennannvzuoguoyixiangdiaochawenjuan，fajue80%zhishangdenanhaizidoubukenzaizhengchaoshiyunvpengyoubutingdizhengchao，tamengengquxiangyulengbaoli。

 ernvhaizebuyiyang，chanshengfenqishi，yidingyaozaineishihoubanantijiangmingbai，yaorenzhendichulizheijianshiqing，bingjuedezheicaisuanzuoduixianghuchengdan。

gengshiyinweizheierzhongbuyiyangdexingqingfangshijueceletamenyuwaibudebuyiyanghudongjiaoliufangfa。

 tiaoxuanyaojijizhudonggoutongjiaoliudeyifang，daduoshuzaixintaishangbiaoshudegengliji，bukenyanzangyebuzhidaozenmeyinzangzishenzhenzhengdetihui，suoyouxinuailedouxiezailianbu，zailianaizhongyeyizhijiaoweijijideyifang。

ertiaoxuanlengbaolideyifang，zebukenguoshaoxianluxintai，naozilizhiyouyigeniantou：

 “woxiangjingjing，woxiangjingjing，wojuedeqingjingdiyigerendaizaijiali，nibuyaoshuole，wozhengdanshini，woyijingfeichangleile……”

 danglingyifangrengzaichixuzhiwen，chixutishengtanengchengshoudedaodedixianshi，tazhiyoutiaoxuanzhaoyigemeiyourenfantadediqudaizaijiali。

zheiyeshiweishenmexuduo airenzaizhengchaohouxuanzelikaideyuangu。

怎样摆脱冷暴力的困局?

1、diaojieqingxu，lixingfenxifenqidian

zaidiaojieqingxuzheijianshiqingshang，yijiehaijideyijuhuashuodetebiehao：

 ruguonihelianrenchanshengzhengzhideqingkuangxia，nixuyaoxuehaocaozongxianghudexintai，bubirangxianghujizijidebuzhengquefuchuyingyoudedaijia。

weiheyizhizhuzhongdiaojieqingxu?

 youyuzainiqingxujidongdeqingkuangxia，niderendedanaoshimeifalixingsikaode，cikenijuededemeiyijuhua，zuodemeiyijianshiyidingshilixingde，hanyoufumianqingxude，zheizhongxinxidechuandijilingyifangdeqingkuangxia，zongshirangdajiadeguanliangengjiduan。

 youzaihuazhentuikuanchenggongdema？yiner，zainiyizhizaisisuoruhejiejuedajiazhongjianfenqiqingkuangxia，yidingshiwendingqingxudeqingkuangxia!

2、主动进攻，更改沟通方式

dangliangrenjindaolengbaolideqingkuangxia，quanshihenaimianzi，sheidoubukenzuoneigexuehuifangxiashenzijijipobingzhilvderen。

 cikecaijiushinizhudongjingongdeqingkuangxia，congtakeyijienadefangfaweitupodian，rangjiaolvbuandefenweihuanjiechulai，zaiqifenshidangdeqingkuangxia，jijidepouxidajiachanshengfenqideyuangu。

 youyunishijijimingquetichuzheiyimingancihuideren，yinerniyizhizaiyuyanbiaodanenglishangyidingshijijizhiqian，chengzhijiangchuzishennantideyifang。

 jiaruliangrenkeyishuokai，neimaninengkeyijiecijihuihelingyifangyiqichengnuo，zhihouchanshengzhengzhi，linshidelizhixintainenggou，danyidingbukeyichaochusantian。

 zhudongjingongrutongxianfazhirenyouxidedadaoliyiyang，nidejijibingbingbushiyizhongfushu，zhishiyizhongkeguandesisuojieguo，nimeiqidaizishenhuoshengqipo，queshudiaoganqing。

3、找技术专业的教师，从这当中协商

 jiarudajiazhongjiandeguanlianzaoyibukeyiyizhaonizijiyaoxiangdelaifazhanqushi，zainiganleyixiliedeqinfenyihourengranmeiyouyong，neimaniyaoyidingyaoyinqizhongshi，youyuzuoweibeigaofang，xuduo shierjiushinimeiyouzhuyidaohelejiedaode。