花镇情感咨询是诈骗吗?男人的朱砂痣VS白月光

huazhenqingganzixunshizhapianma？doushuogongdouxibianshiyibuxinsuanleishangtaishi，neima《ruyichuan》yebuhuichuwai。

suidiaokanshengchixu，dan《ruyichuan》li“laiquziru”deandilijiaofenghuanshirangrenhushufu。

danquanbudejiaofeng，fangfodoulibuleyigeguanjianzi——“duizishengouhen”。

liru，ruyiweilegenghaodiliquyeting，fushiduyaozhidu，duhuangdideqingyi。

 jiezhe，hailanhezhusha、jiapinchibiziyao......weilegenghaodinengzaigongliqiudeyixizhidi，tamenkaodequanshi“hen”。

danhougongdecunhuozhiji，nandaoshuojinyoukurouji?

duibiqilai，《yanxigonglve》jiugaochaodeduo。

 nvzhujiaobingbushipiaoliangdexinjibiaole，danyebujinkaozinvelaihuodenanshengdetengai。tazuilihaidediqushijishangbingbingbushifeifandezhilihechusedeyanjiangkoucai。

——erqujueyuliangzi：“fencungan”。

zaijiandanhuayixia，tiandiwanwuzuishizhidedadaoli，bianshiyige“zhong”。

huanjuhuashuo，bianshiqiaruqifen。

conggongjiedaoshiji，“qiaruqifen”sigezinenggoubeiyanbianweixiabianzheiwugejueji。

第一招：半我半你

jingqueeryan，diyizhaobingbushijiliang，zhishixinshu。

xinshushiyigerendelishenzhiben，xinchanghuai，shibidingbule。

zheiyibujuzuijingcuideyibufenshizaizuihouyiji。

xianwanghouzaibianguanyetingyihou，wenweiyingluoyigenanti：

weihewolaihuangshangganlezheimeduo，neimeaita，danniquandoumeizuo，quehuodeletadexin?

shijishang，xianwanghoudeqiannanyou，fuchahuanghou，yecengzaisiqian，tabenkuidizhixuewenhuangdi：

tayishengmeiyouzuolecuoshi，weishenmeluogezheibanjieju?

jiarunishenshendibeitamenbeicandeyujuchudong，biaomingniyehetamenyiyang，shiyigebuxingxingdelaoshinvren。

renshengdaolushibushixingfukuaileyunitiaoxuandepaodaoyouguanjianxingdeguanxi。

jiarunitiaoxuanleyitiaosilu，neimadengnide，bianshibuleguandezhitu。

jiarunitiaoxuanleyitiaoqingshanlu，neimaniyejiunengjizijichongchuyipiantianlai。

neimadajiazenmexuanzeni?

shisihutonghuanshishenglu，jiukanzhenishiziyiweishihuanshizishen。

什么叫做自以为是?

ziyiweishibianshixiangzheilianggewanghoudesanguan：

1)shanrenguan：fuchahuanghoujuedehaoxinyouhaobaoshanezhongyoubao，yaoshiwoyixinxiangshan，woyehuichuxianhaojieguo

2)touruguan：xianwanghoujuede，chengxinyingtianxia，yaoshiwoganyufengxian，yaoshiwoyixinyiyi，zuiainideren，bianhuiyouhaojieguo

zheilianggesanguankengqushilebuqingchushiduoshaotianrandainvxing，qijinrengranzainvrendeshijieliyeyoufeichangdaxiaoshoushichang。

wodezixunshilichongyileneiyangdenvxing，tamenyishangqubianhuisuku：

renherendoukuawoshihaoqizi，naizhitayeshuowozhaobuchuwenti，danshitazenmehuiainageyishenshiwentidedisanzhe?

wolaitatourulewodefazhanqiantu，womendeqingchun，wodeshenxinjiankang，danshitazenmehuiyijianshizheibanjueqing?

nandaoshuoyixinxiangshan，heganyufengxianyouwuma?

不对。

错在哪儿呢?

cuozaihuozaizishendequanqiuli。

niyixinxiangshan，youmuyouxiangguozheishijiebuyinnidexinnianweiqianyi，yeshiyouyixinxiangederena?

youjuhuashuodedui，yueshanjierenyiyuebixuconghui，yueconghuiyueyougongzuonenglishanjierenyi。

jiarushanjierenyierwuziwobaohuzhishou，wuzhengdezhineng，neimezheiyishan，jinjindaizaiyanggao，renrenyurouzhishanbale。

niyixinyita，danshiniyoumeiyouxiangguo，taxiangyaonineiyangdeaima?

zheixiemangliugaohaorenyumangliutourudenvxing，shikanbujianlingyifangdeyaoqiude。

 tamendouhuozaizizaiwodeshijieli，duitameneryan，nanshengjinjinyigexuwupiaomiaodezhuanyoumingci，yigenenggoubeiwujintaorudegongshijisuanbale。

而结果呢?

tamendouyayiganlezhenzhengdezishen，xuezushilvdichangshirangzishenheairenjindaodaobeishiqianshezhidewaiqiaoli。

shijishangjiaoda debuxingbingbushisangshi，zhishishiqu，doubuqingchuweihe，haichenmizaizidingdebubaizhiyuanli。

zheiyangderen，jitawujinpincide“huohongjinshouzhi”，jieguoyeshiyiyangde。

 erweiyingluochushengshijingshenghuo，nannengkeguibaocunlechongzudezishen，yinci tazaizheilijidadeqiulaodangzhong，caihuizheibanxuanliduocai。

yinci ，yiqieshejiaoguanxi，congqiandaoshen，douwubizunzhaoyige“jiaohuanjiazhi”biaozhun。

huanjuhuashuo，jiaruwomenbunengxianghukaolv，zheiyiguanxibianhuizaoyuweiji。

zheishininazaiduodeshuobailedeyiwu、shehuidaode、beilianglaicaozong，zuizhongdejieguoyeshinanyiweijide。

第二招：喧宾夺主

jinguantazuodeyixietaiyouyile，danyigerenyaoxiangjizijihuodequanyi，zuixianyaorangwutaijuguangdengzhaozaizishendeshenshang。

meiyourenzhidu，jiumeiyouyouhuoli，jiumeiyouziyuan，meiyouziyuan，niyejiumeiyoubanfawenbufazhanzishen。

ziran，zuihaoshiniyeyaoyouzhengtishili，burannizhiyoubianchengyikehuixing，youyuniqianquefazhanqushidehoujingtou。

 weiyingluoyouchaorendezhishang、qingshangzhishang，dantazhenshishenfenbeiwei，jiaruyaohuodefuhengchengnianrendexin，diyibuyaozuodebianshichuangjianzishendejiagou。

fuhengyeba，huangshangyeba，quanshimeigerendouxiangchongshangqudemubiao。

tamenliangquanshijiduanhuaziyiweishi，zhongshibiaozhun，yejiushishuo，bianshizhuangzhijideren。

huazhenqingganzixunshizhapianma？weiyingluoyaoxiangxuanbinduozhu，jingongdeganghaoshitamenjiaoda deruanzhu。

dajiarenherenbixuzhuiqiuwanmei，wopianyaoyaolenglian。

neiyangbianhuidaozhimuranhuishoudeshenxiao。

第三招：欲扬先抑

zaiwanghouguoshihou，weiyingluohehuangshangyouyiduanhuihua。

zheiyiduanhuihuali，weiyingluoyiyuzhongdedishuozhonghuangshangzuiqipanbeimingbaidejuede，danlingwaiyoudihuitadeshiwenqueshihencha。

zheidazhonglehuangshangzuibixudelianggedian：

一是必须被明白。

二是必须被挑戰。

zheijiushinanxingsiweihenvxingsiweidejiaoda chabie。

nvxingzaigoutongzhongzuizaiyideshizishenshibushihuobao，yinci nvxingyizhichangshishiyantongqingdaliderenwujiaose。

nvxingzhongjiandegoutong，tongchangquanshixianghuzhijianqingsuxinside，gaozhixianghuxinlizuimingandediqu。

 ernanrenzaigoutongzhongzuizaiyideshizishenshibushibeizhongshi，nanrenzhijiandeqinmiwujian，tongchangshigenjuxianghuzhijiandabipinhejiaofengjinxingde。

yinci nvxingzhongjianshuozheshuozhehuitongkuliuti，nanrenzhijianshuozheshuozhehuituituisangsang。

zheizhongbianshinanhaihenvhaizhenduibianjieganjiaoda dechabie。

nvxingganjuezuihaoshideguanximoguoneiqieyuan，ernanshengganjuezuihaoshideguanximoguojiaochadeyuan，huoshi2gedandudeyuan。

yinci ，nanrenshigenjujiexiandemaodun，genjukangzhenglaijuededaoqinmiwujiande。

ernvxingtongchanghuiduizheileimaodunhaipakongju，ganjuemaodunbianshibutaihaode，shiweihaiyuguanxide。

fuchahuanghou，yaobiedaohenzhirugudiqingkuangxia，caihuigenhuangshangshuo，zishenyagenbuyuanchengshouwanghoudefuming，duansonglezishen。

danzheishitazaoyiduihuangshangyoushenshendideyuanhenle，erhuangshangqueduitadetongchuyiwusuozhi。

erweiyingluozeshishikekedouzhuzhongzishendebianjiegan，ningyuantourudiaonaodaidefengxian，haiyaojianchibuxiezishendejiexian。

jinguanzaijuliyixiefukua，danshishishang，nanshengzheileixiaodongwujiushinibukangzhengtamenshibuqingchunideyaoqiude。

jixiwangyunanshengxiangnvxingneibannenggoukankediwanzhuandixizhidilejienidekuchu，neishuodaoditianfangyetan。

yinci weihejiehunhounanshengjiushiqushenmigan?

zheileishenmigantongchanglaiziyunanshengzuiaidekangzhengdejuedeshiqu。

第四招：欲迎还拒

aishuochurukou，niyejiushudiao。

tashiweiyingluoshuodeyijujingdianduibai。

fanyiyixia，jiushi，sheixianaidebiaoda，sheixiantouruai，sheijiushiquguanxidezhudaoquan。

真的是这般吗?

kanjuli，fuhengweiyingluotouruxuduo ，huangshangweiweiyingluoyetouruxuduo ，yinci tamendoubianchengweiyingluoshenpangdezhongquan。

haoxiangzaiguanxizhongqueshiyouneiyangdejibendinglv，sheitouruduo，sheijiugengbixulingyifang。

zheiyebalejie，youyuzhaiquanrenhuigengbixuqianzhangde，burantourude，jiulangfeile。

 yinci zaiguanxizhong，rezhongyutouruderenyidingyaodangxin，guanxishibushinengchijiu，zuihaoshinixuyaoxiangjinbanfarangnanshengtouru，ziranzheileitouruzuihaoranglingyifangganxinqingyuandijinitouru。

lingyifangruheganxinqingyuanni?

ranglingyifangshizhongdoushiyouyizhong“meiwanchengqinghuai”。

“wufadedaodeshizhongzaizaodong，huodeledetuierqiuqici”。

youyunanrenshilieren，tamenjiaoda dexihaoshiliebu，ernvrenshigengdizhe，yinci zheibianhuidaozhiqingganzhongdeyiwei。

nanshenghuizailiebudeqingkuangxiazuiqinfen，liebuzhihou，lieshiduitajiushiqushijiyiyi。

ernvxingzaigengdiqianbunuli，yidanmingquezheifangmiandideyongyishengqugengdile，bianhuiyufaaixi。

yinci zongtilaishuo，nixuyaoshizhongdouhenanshengdayouxi，shitazhuiqiuni。

ninengshuo，gujini，danshishaoshuowoaini。

 danbubiwangjile，weiyingluoshuozheijuhuadeqiantitiaojian，bianshitahehuangshangdeyingxianglibingbugongping，tameiyoujichudegongminquanli，yinci wubibukeyibazijibenzhidezhenshimingandediquchengxianjilingyifang。

jiaruliangrendoushiyoujichudegongminquanli，neimaliangrenzhenshichijiudeguanxilaiziyuminganxiangduixing。

第五招：以我为主

weihezishenzaiguanxiliyulaiyujiji，erlingyifangqueyulaiyuchuyubeidong?

由于你欠考虑。

haodeguanxili，jihuquanshinvxinghuichongfenfahuichuyubeidongdejiji，ernanshengzehuishijijidechuyubeidong。

quanbudetiaodoudoushiyinvxingliaorengangkaishi，nvtuyonggezhonggeyangjianjiexingdefangfa，xiangnanshengshifangyinyouji。

suihounanshengcaigangkaishixingdong，yaoshimeiyounvxingdeanshizhe，xuduo nanshengburongyijinxingzhuiqiuwanmei。

zuixian，weilegenghaoditiejinfuheng，qitabinvjiaota“fuchahuwei”，jinyoutachengtawei“gongzige”。

cizhi，tagoujiandeyidingshilianggerenyurenxiangchudejiyu。

qixianshengchanzhizaoouranjiandishentijiechu，meiyoutaiguodeqinmiwujian，queshi“anfahuran”dewenrouyiji。

yiyangdegouxueju，zaiqianlonghuangdideshenshangyeshilvshibushuang。

jinji，zheileichupengyidingbubikanqilaitaiyouyi，gengbubiranglingyifangrenweinishijijisonghuoshangmen。

neimaliangrenchanshengfenqideqingkuangxia，yougaizenyangni?

 qianlonghuangdiheyingluozhongjianchijiudejiedishifuheng，dangquanbuhougongdouchuantamenliangyouyouyituideqingkuangxia，yingluodetiaoxuanshiwanquanbujihui。

danqueyunyongbinvhehuanguanzhikouguaiwanmojiaoditishiqianlonghuangdi——chenqiezhendeshiwuxiandea。

为什么不可以立即倾吐呢?

直接说有两个弊端：

1)yuanbenlianggerenbugongping，neimeyiqiu，bicideyingxiangligengchaju;

2)songhuoshangmendebingbushijiaoyi，zhenduixingtaiqiangdebianbonanyilingrenhuodexinren。

 yinci xuduo jiaolvqingxuxingdenvxingtongchangzaiguanxizhongqiankaolv，tongchanghuiweizhudanqiexingdenansheng，xiwangtanengdaliangrenshiziji。

 yifangmianyouyubicixintairengzaiehuazhong，lingyifangbutaikenengyoulixingting;lingyifangmiannijiqiebianbodexinlizhuangtaiyehuilingrenyoufangyuli。

yinci zaiguanxizhong，nengchushibujingderen，tongchangnengcaokongguanxi。

shuodaozheier，henduorenyaoshuo，nijiangganqingheguanxishuodehaoxiangsanshiliuji，gongshazhanshou，yindoufuji，zheihenlei。

zizunziaiweiben，taaisuibian，neiyangdeai，yibancaikeyirangkaizhanjiujing。

ertuixingdeguoshendeguanxi，tongchanghuibianweimabaonanzhiai，zuihoudejieguotongchangshibuxing。

henduorendoushuo：rujinhenduorendouguannianlaidao“yaoyouzishen”。

可是怎样有着“自身”?必须以下五个心诀：

1)变：

zhenshidedanvzhu，yishengbixugaoqingchushejiaoguanxisishui，shizhongdoushiyouchaozhangluochao，shizhongdourichangshenghuozaibianhuazhong。

erzheixierichangshenghuozaigudingbudongluojisiweideren，zuizhongdoutaotai。

2)高：

gaobianshishizhongdoushihuiyongzhuiqiuwanmeizuihaoshikaolvzishendeshenghuoxiguan。

3)真：

 yigerende“zhen”budaibiaozhexiaozhanghefangzong，jiuliruweiyingluode“zhen”bingbushiweilegenghaodihairenbuqian，zhishiweilegenghaodiguangmingleiluodiweihubaoyangzishendejiexian，guigenjiedi，“zhen”shiyizhongzhengtishili。

4)狠：

整体实力在哪儿?

qujueyunishibushichongzuhen，zheileihen，zuixianshiduizishende，suihoucaiyouzixinquhetarendou。

5)慧：

那麼如何与人斗?

yiyaoyoukuaisuxiangyinggongzuonengli：

 weiyingluozaitixianshubeihuangshangfajue，zaibeidagunzideweinanshike，tabianchuxianshubaomengdeguihualianpian，qifanyingnenglishixiantianxingerchengde。

二要善于观察：

jiarunimeiyouchongzudefanyingnengli，dannizhishaobixuyouchongzudexixin，tashihoutianxingnenggousuzaode。

 yinci dajiadeduanqineiquanyizaiyudajiadekuaisuxiangyinggongzuonengli，erdajiadezhangqixingquanyizaiyudajiadezikongnenglihenaixin。

“ziguyilaiqingshenwufaliuzhu，pianyaotaoluderenxin”。