情感咨询不肯退款投诉有用吗？怎么判断对方是否适合结婚？

 lingwoduiyucishihuatitaolunzaochengxingquaihaodeyuangu，laiziyuzuijinheguimideyicigoutongjiaoliu，haoguimigangwanhunbujiu，qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？zhaolishuolidangshiyoushangerxiachongyingzhejiehunhouxingfukuailedexiaonvrenyang，dankandaotaquefajuejinyouyuyuguahuandeshenqing，burongzhiyi，tadehunyinshenghuohenyoukenengbingmeixiangxiangzhongneimaxingfukuaile。

 guozhen，wohaimeiyoukaiwen，zheiyipingchanglikailangdenvhaijiuhenyichangdegangkaishigenwomaiyuan，duitazhangfudezhuduobingbushi，jiqiduihunyinshenghuodegezhonggeyangbushihedatukushui。kehaoguimiyoubushishanhun，dangshilianaiqidetaneixingfudemoyangyeshiyibuxiaoxinkanzaiyanzhong，yagenbingbushizhuangchuqude，zenmelianaihejiehunhouqubiezheimedani?

 wowurenweishinanshihunhoudechabiejiongranbutong，yincigangkaishiduitamenlianaiqizaochengxingquaihao，henyihuodexunwendao：“lianaizhongdenifeichangshaomaiyuan，jibian zhengchaoniyemeishuoguotashuoxianhuaa，dangshidajiashizenmejiaowangde，yeshiruhezhunbeiwanhundenini?”

 tahendangrandehuiyingdao：“hainengruhejiaowanga，bianshiyiyoushijianjiuyuegehui，chigefan，jiaowangqilaihenshufu，yinciguoquledabannianshangxiajiujianbabamamalea，bicibabamamahenyuanyi，yincizhangluozhejielehun……”

 “nandaoshuoniqueshiganjue，tanlianaibianshidanchunxingdetanyitanai，shuojiangqing，yagenburongyizaihudajiaderenshengjiazhiguan、jiazhiguannianhexiaofeiguanniandechabie，doubukanyixialingyifangshibushiyoujinquxin，jiqikandaigongzuozhongheshenghuoguannianma?”

 “a?nandaoshuochuduixiangyeyaoneimefanzama，bushishuolianggerenjiaowangdegaoxing，bicijiazhongdouyuanyi，yincijiukeyibenxianghunyinshenghuolaidaoma?”

zheiqueshishilianaizhongdediyidacuowuguannian!

 tangruochuduixiangjinjintantanqingshuoshuoai，lianggerenzaiyiqihenkaixin，yincijiukaolvdaohunyinshenghuo，neijianzhibatanlianaihehunyinshenghuodangzuoguojiajiayouxile?!shiqiyuewanshan，dajiakandaiganqingdelejiefandaoyueqianlou，jianjiandidezhizhiliuzaibiaoceng，yibushencengcidechupeng。gengbuyaoshuoxinlizhuangtaizuishenchudejingshenjiaoliule!

 zaiyiqigaoxingjiukeyile?neimanizhuixundaohenyoukenengjinjinyiweiyixing，keyipeizheni，jiejuegudu，danzaimeiyouquanfangweiheshencengcidechupengyiqian，shizhongbierangzheiyiduanganqingtishengchenghunyinshenghuo，youyunengpeizheniderenyouhenduo，danzhenshiheshipeizheniyishengde，weihuqiwei。ganqingzhongjiaoda dekebeibingbushilinshiwufaxunzhaoairen，zhishibuzhengquedebalingyifangdangzuozishenzhenshideyishengairen，kehenyihan，tabingbingbushi。

 neima，ruguonichuduixiangshi，zenmepanduanlingyifangshibushiheshiwanhun?yejiushishuoruherangzishenhenqingxidegaoqingchu，zheiyinanhaizifeichangzhidezishenxinlaiyishengdeni?

1.看清大家中间的三观差别

 tanlianaizhitugegaoxing，wanhunshiyouyulianggerenjiazhongdouhenlingrenmanyi，neibushihunyinshenghuo，jinjinzhaoyigekanshangquhaibucuoderen——guoshenghuo!

 chuduixiang，bujinshigexiangyoudequanguocheng，shijishangtanlianaideshizhimudishixianghurenzhinengli，huxiangmoheqideyigejieduan，zaizhangwoxianghushifouzishenyaozhaoderen，yishidaodajiazhongjianyishichabieduijiaowangdeweihaihou，zaizuochuzishendetiaoxuan。

 jibian zaizheigemoheqiqinei，mianbulezhengchaohemaodun，danyaoshiyiqiedouzaichengdanfanchouyinei，erqienengchenggongdebajiejuewenti，neimadajiadeguanlianhuishenggaoyigejidadejieti，daoshihouyebujinzhiliuzaibiaoceng，erhuicunyoucengjigengjiashenrudeshengmingzhong。

 yinci ，zaichuduixiangshi，zaidianjizhebatanlianaibianweihunyinshenghuoyiqian，yidingyaochedidelejieqingxitaderenshengjiazhiguan、jiazhiguannianhexiaofeiguannian。

 yigerendesanguan，tongchangzaijiehunqianyichengxing，jibian jiaowanghenkaixin，danzhenshidelaidaoguoshenghuoshi，ninengsanguanbuyizhi，meibanfajiaowang!

 juhaoduogejianyideshili：tanlianaiqineidajiajiaowangdeshifenkaixin，yongcan、kandianshiju、shuajie、gezhonggeyanghigh，danzaijiehunhouquechajuezijishijishanggengzaiyiwendingpingfandeshenghuo，ertaquezhuiqiuwanmeicijixing，xiaipiaobo;nihenxihuanxiaohai，dantashifendichuxiaohaizidedachaodanao，xiangbianchengdingkeyizu;nijianchibuxiedexingquaihao，taganjuemeiyouyiqieshijiyiyi，danniyouduitarezhongyudexihaobuxieyigu;yigeaicunkuan，erlingyigexiaixiaofei……

 nikeyishuosheiduidaodishisheidecuoma?renshengjiazhiguan、jiazhiguannianhexiaofeiguannian，meiyousheiyidingbianshiduide，sheiyidingbianshicuode。nitiaoxuan，nijianchibuxie，yaoshibuweihaibieren，neibianshiduide;taxiai，tayuanyi，yaoshibufangaidaobieren，jiuyidianmeiyoucuo。

 nimeicuo，tameiyoucuo，dan2gesanguanchabiedadaobunengdiaohechengdudenanhaihenvhailaidaoyiqi，zishenbianshiyizhongbuzhengque，jiaruolianaizhonghaiguannianbushangzheigewenti，zaicizouxialai，ganjueyaoshigaoxingjiuhao，yincibatanlianaitishengchenghunyinshenghuo，neizhongjiangshiyizhongfeichangdadebuxing!

 jiazhiguannianbuyiyangdelianggeren，jibian zailiruyongcankandianshijuzheizhongrongyideshikeyijiaowangdekaixin，danzhenshidejiaowangqilai，richangshenghuozhuduofenqihemaodunjiaocuozaiyiqishi，liangxinqueshinanyiyinghedaoyiqi。richangshenghuobingbushichuduixiangzheimejiandan，zaihunyinshenghuozhonglianrenbixuyingduideyouhenduo，shangdaohunyinshenghuoyishi，xiadaoyimaoqiandexiaofeihaoquchu……sanguanbuhedelianggeren，pengdaodaxiaoshidoushihuiyoumaodun，yidanzhaobuzhejunhengdian，ganqingduiyunilaishuo，jiangshishenxinpibei、paichibujiderichangshenghuokunhuo。

 xiaofeiguannianyoubei，shiyongjiazhihexinlinianmaodun，huiranghunyinshenghuopinzhikuaisujiangdi，zaikandaitongyijianshidebuyiyangguandian，zaikandaihuaxuewuzhishangjiongranbutongdeguandian，huidaozhiyitanqiancaijiuzhengchao，yishuojiazhiguanjiujuedemeiyouyigepindaolanmushang，queshishiyizhongcuican!

chuduixiang，qingshouxiankanxianghusanguan，sanguanbuhe，bietan!

2.掌握另一方的逻辑思维意识

 luojisiweihexinlinianshihoutianxingchanshengde，zaidajiatanlianaishi，yaozhuweiguanchalingyifangdeluojisiweihexinlinian，youqishitakandaishierdeguandian，jiqizaipengdaonantishidejiejuexintai。

 yibanlaishuo，nanshideluojisiweiyishiyouerzhongzhonglei，yishipengdaonantijijizhudongjiejuelei，lingyizhongshituixiezerenmaiyuanlei。qianmianyizhongguishuyuyouyiwuyongyudandangdezhonglei，kandaishier，pengdaonanti，nenggoujijizhudonglumiandui，zhendingziruodepouxiquanbushierdeqianyinhouguo，haohaodigoutongjiaoliuhejiejuekunnan，bingzaiguohoufanshengziji;lingyizhongshizaipengdaonantijiuduobi，bayiwuchedituijibieren，zishenzongshibuduandimaiyuan。

 tanlianaipingchangdejiaowang，jiandandexingfu，shijishangjinjinganqingdeyizhongbiaodaxingshi，bingbushiganqingzhenshidewaimao。shijishangtanlianaishiyigemoheqidequanguocheng，lianggerendeyishihesiweimoshizonghuiyouchabie，zaijiaowangzhongxianghudamopaoguang，huxiangkuanrong，jijizhudongdezhangwolingyifang，zuihoubianchengxinyoulingxidexianghu，tadeyijuyidongnidouzhangwo，nidezhuduogerenxingweiburongyishitayouyidianmaiyuan，，jibian taduinizuodeshimeishenmexingqu，danyekeyichongzulejieni，xiaorongzhejiaoguanzheni，zheicaisuanshitanlianaidezuihaoshiqingkuang，caisuanshiganqingtishengdejiben。

 tangruonipengdaoyigenansheng，yingduinantijiutuixiezeren，yidaogaimoheqishijiutingbuzhuzhengzhi，bayiwuquantuirangni，neimajibian pingchanglijiaowangdehenkaixin，zongshilingyifangbiaozhunzaihao，yebuyongkaolvdaolingyifang，neiyangdenanhaizibuyini。

3.看这个男孩子是不是有进取心

 youdenanhaizihenhuihongnvsheng，huayanqiaoyu，feijinxinjidawanlanman，banvshengtaidegaogaodi。neiyangdenanhaizibianshifeichangzhidexinlaidema?

 nixuyaogaoqingchu：tahuihongren，yehuihongbiedenvhai。zhenshifeichangzhideniyonghunyinshenghuoquxinlaidenanhaizi，chukaixintengni，yeyaoyouchongzudejinquxin，bingqie，tadeqinfentouruquanshiweini。yigeyoujinquxindenanhaizi，jibian rujinkanshangqubiaozhunyiban，danneiyangdenanshiburongyiqiongyibeizi，youyutahuihenqinfendegongzuozhong，neixinlichuaizhezheni，xiangjinirichangshenghuoyuebianyuehao，yincifenwaichuangdang。

 chuduixiangshi，duoguanchataduigongzuozhongdexintaiba，kanyixiazheiyinanhaizishibushiyoujinquxin，qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？zheilijijuecezhekefourangnimeihaodeweilai。

4.别的 关键 点层面

chukaishangbianzheizhongneirong，biewanglezaiguanjiandianchuguanchalingyifang，yifenbianzheiyinanhaizishibushifeichangzhidenijia。

 tadejiazhong：rendediyitangkelaiziyujiazhong，naxiedejiazhong，naxiedebabamama，jiuhuiyinjijihaiziruhedexingqing;zaikanyixiatazaijiazhongzhongjiejuenantidexintai，youqishidangtadejiazhongyunimaodunshi，tahuizhanzainaeryimian，tanlianaishiburenqingzheizhong，feichangrongyidaozhijiehunhounigujunzuozhandechujing。

 chengshounengli：tanlianainenggouxipixiaolian，danhunyinshenghuoquepobudeyiyingduiyigeyouyigedenandian，zhenduinanshieryan，hunyinshenghuochanshengdebuzhishixingfukuailehetianmei，yeshiyiwuhegongzuoyali，wanhundaibiaozheyouyigederendeqingqingsongsongyouxian，kuaisudezhuanhuachengliangren，shenzhibaohanxiaohaiyineidesangerendezhongren，youchongzuzerengandenanshicaikeyikangdezhuzheiyiqie。yinci zaitanlianaishi，fenwaiguanchatadechengshounengli。

 tanlianaibingbingbushiyitiandaowandanao，yaoshigaoxingjiugengjinyibu，guojiajiayouxidexinlizhuangtaibukeyiyou。nixuyaozhangwolingyifangshiruhedeyigeren，biezhiliuzaibiaoceng，yaoguanchagengshencengcigengweixiaozhichu，xianghuzhangwo，huxianggoutongjiaoliu，xuehaosikaolianaizhongdebugou，qinfendetianbu，rangshieryuelaiyuegengqiang。tanyitangezhonggeyangyishi，liruzaiqiancaihexiaofeishangdehexinlinian，fufubicishibushiyaofenliguoshenghuo，shuoshuoxianghukandairenshengdaoludeguandianhezhuiqiuwanmei，tanyitanlixianghua，shuoshuoduijiawulaodongdeguandian，yuerjiaoyudehexinlinian，shuoshuorenshengdeganwu，tanyitanxinwenshijian……

 qingganzixunbukentuikuantousuyouyongma？tanlianaichukaikaixindejiaowang，yeyouxuduo yaotan，zhiliuzaishuomingxiagongfu，meiyouguoshaodesisuojiuwanhun，bushenzhongdexuanzemubiao，queshishiyijianduixianghuyebuchengdandeshi。