老师原创：如何在一段恋爱中掌握主动权

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老师的回复：

yinixianzaideqingkuang，wojinidejianyishi，jixuyongnidewenroutitielaimabita，zhihounihuiyudaozheisanzhongqingkuang：

1.taheqitadenvhaihaole，danyinweinidewenroutitie，nihetafenshouzhihoutahuiduiniyousuobuchang

 2.taheneigenvshengqishimeishenme，niduoxineryi。danyouyunidewenroutitiehuirangtachanshengkuijiuzhixin，zhihoutajiuhuiduinigengjiahaole，ruguoyouyitiannimenfenshou，nikeyibadoubazheixienachulaishuoshi，ruguonizanshibuxiangfen，neinijiuzanshihetaduifuzhe，fanzhengniyijingbatadangchengbeitaile，tabufangainizhaoxindenanpengyoujiukeyi。

 3.taturanxingwudaonishiduomedehao，zheigeshihoujiushinizhanjuzhudongquandezuijiashijile：youshenmetiaojiannidoukeyiti，baokuoshoudai、zuanjiedengxiangyaodedoujinliangtichulai，ruguotazhendexiangyaohenihao，tadouhuidayingnideyaoqiude。

 zuihouxuyaozhuyideshi：shangmianzheixieqingkuangdechuxianshijianlizai“nidasuanfangqita，shenmeshihoudoukeyizhaodiergenansheng”dexintaijichushangde。dangnideneixinzugouqiangda，nizailianaidangzhongjiuhuiyongyouzhudongquan，ruguonideneixinfeichangdexuyaota，yilaita，nizaizheiduanganqingdangzhongjiuhuichuyubeidongdeweizhi，zhudongquanjiuhuidaoletadeneibianle。