结婚20多年我和老公经常吵架 我该离婚吗

　　gaoqingshangnvshengzenmetifenshou？duiyutaeryan，fenshouzaiyebushiyichangzhanzheng，ershiyicichengshuerlixingdeguanlijuece。tamendongdeyongrouhedekouqigoutongjiaoliu，bimianercishanghailingyifang，yucitongshijianchibuxierangzijibaochizizun。tamenhuizuohaochongzudezhunbei，shensishulvzijidexiangfahejiaowangxiankuang，suihouyongzhenchengertanchengdefangshihelingyifanghuihua。zuizhuyaodeshi，gaoqingshangnvshengmingbaifenshouhouxuyaoguanzhuzijidexinqing，weizijishijianyukongjianlaizhishanghezhongjian。tamenmingbai，jibianzaibuyiyangderenshengdaolushangfenlichulai，yenengbaochizouxiangchengshuyoushandexintai。

　　以冷静和重视为原则：怎样高情商地提出分手

　　1. 塑造积极情绪：zaiquedingmingquetichufenshouyiqian，gaoqingshangnvshengshouxianhuijingxiaxinlai，shenkelijiezijidexinqinghedongyin。tamenhuilingtingneixinshenchu，baozhengzijizhendexiangyaowanbizheiduanganqing，bingtiqianzuohaozhunbei。

　　2. 选择适合自己的时长与环境：gaoqingshangnvshengmingbai，mingquetichufenshoushiyijianminganerzhongyaodeshi，yincitamenhuixuanzezaishidangdeshijianhehuanjingliheduifangkaizhanjiaotan。bulunshizaigerenchangdihaishiyigexiangduiqingsongdefenweizhong，tamendouxiwangnenggounengrangduifanggandaoshushihefangxin。

　　3. 用温和而真诚的表达：gaoqingshangnvshenglejie，zhijiebaxiaojiqingxuqingxiedaobierenshenshangzhihuiyinqizhengchaohesunhai。yiner，tamenhuixuanzeyongwenheerzhenchengdebiaodabiaodazijidexiangfaheganshou，fangzhipipinghejingong。tamenhuijiangshuzijideguandian，erbushijiangquanbuzhizeguiyinyulingyifang。

　　4. 重视别人的感受：gaoqingshangnvshengmingbai，fenshouduilingyibaneryankenengshiyigelingrenchijinghebeishangdexinxi。yiner，tamenyaojinkenenglijiehezunzhongbierendeganshou，jibicichongzukongjianheshijianqujiejuezijidexinqing。tamenhuilingtinglingyifangfanying，bingjiedaduifangnanti，yijianqingduifanggulvyubuan。

　　5. 保持尊严友善：gaoqingshangnvshenglejie，mingquetichufenshoubingbudengyuyaoxiangchengweiduishouhuobaochichengjian。tamenhuinulibaochizunyanyouhaodexintai，fangzhizhengchaohechize。tamenhuiqiangdiaozijiheduifanghuandudemeihaohuiyi，bingbiaodaduilingyibanweilaizhufulianghaodezhufu。

　　6. 自我关注和治伤：gaoqingshangnvshengmingbaifenshouhouxuzhaoguzijiqingxuganqingheshenxinjiankang。tamenhuijizijiyixieshijianyukongjianlaizhishanghesikao，tanxunneixinshenchudejunheng。tamenhuixunzhaodalizhichiheqingtu，yuyaohaodepengyouhuozhejiarengongxiangzijidexiangfahegushi。

　　7. 向前走，复建生活：gaoqingshangnvshengmingbai，fenshoujinjinshenghuozhongdeyigexinzhengcheng。tamenhuijijimianduizijiderensheng，zhaodaoxindegerenaihaoyumubiao，jizijijianliyigefengfuheyoujiazhideshenghuo。tamenshicongguoqudejinglizhongjiqujiaoxun，bingbuduanchengzhanghefazhan。

　　gaoqingshangnvshengzenmetifenshou，zaitichufenshouzheiyiminganjuedingshi，gaoqingshangnvshengzhongshiningjingyuzunzhong，yongwenheerzhenchengdeyuyanbiaodazijidejueding，yucitongshizhongshibierendeganshou。tamenbaochizunyanyoushan，buxufenshoubianchengzhanshi，ershiyicizouxiangchengshulixingdeguanlijuece。erqie，tamenmingbaizhaoguzijiqingxuganqingheshenxinjiankang，ciwai，jijizhudongtansuoxinderenwuhefengfuzijideshenghuo。zuizhuyaodeshi，gaoqingshangnvshenglejiefenshoubingbudengyuxianghuzhijianbianchengchouren，fanershiyingyiyizhongyoulidexintaixiangqianzou，jizijigenduifangweilaidefazhanzhuyuan。