警惕！不想孩子有自己小时候的遗憾思想有毒！

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wohennenglejiezheileiqingxu。

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一、‘不愿小孩有自身小时候的缺憾’这观念有害!

1、填补小时候缺憾?别以为的新发展理念，但是是拷贝上一辈思维方式

woyexiaodeneishihoujiazhongqiong，yincixiwangwokeyirenzhengongzuo，zhuandaliangdeqian，rangxiaohaibuyongzaichengshourenmenyiqianaiguodeku。

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你见到了没有?

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2、你对小孩不感兴趣，只对怎样成好妈妈感兴趣

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本文作者：  chenzhaowei，yongyousanjixinlizixunshiguojiazhiyezigezheng， huazhengaojixintaizhiliaoshi ;shanyupengyouguanxijiejue、chongtuguanli、qingxukongzhi。

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