男人恋爱秘密：男人约炮究竟出于什么心态？

　　zuonvpengyouquedingfenshouhou，wanhuitadexinhenyoukenengzuonizuipoqiedexinyuan。wanhuiqiannvyouzhongdianzaiyuchengxin、goutongyugenggai。chuandachuduiyutadeshiquganyuduifenshouderenzhi，danbuyaotaiguoyuxintaishan。genjumiqiegoutong，lingtingtaxiangfaheganshou，tanxunjiejuewentidefangshi。zhanshiziwofazhanziwogaibianjuexin，rangqijiandaonidejinbu。danqiejibuyaozhuiqiuta，jitashijianyukongjianqusikao，yejizijizhongxinsikaoganqing。jianjiandifujianxinren，jianlixindegongtongdemubiao，zaizheigejichushangqinfenwanhuiqiannvyouxin。jilao，wanhuishiyigejiannandeguocheng，duodiannaixinheyili，buguanjieguoruhe，douyinggaizhongshitadexuanze。nvpengyoufenshoulezenmecainengwanhui，bixufuzhunulihezhencheng，yebixujieshoukenengxingdejielun。

　　nvpengyoufangqini，zheishiyizhonglingrenjiuxindetihui。danshi，ruguohaiduitayouyidingdelianlianbushe，xuyaowanhuitadexin，neijiuxuyaoyouyixiefanganhexingwei。xiamianwomenjiuweinintigongyixieyouguan“nvpengyoufenshoulezenmecainengwanhui”deyijian。yidingyaojizhu，wanhuiqianrennvyoubingbushiyicuerjiude，xuyaoshijianheqinfen。

　　1. 慎重考虑，保持冷静

　　fenshouzhihoudexintaihuirangnizuochuyixiechongdonggerenxingwei，danshinibixupingjingxialai。jishuangfangkongchushijianyukongjianqusikao，zhongxinsikaoganqingdaodizhibuzhidewanhui。baochilengjingnantiyouzhuyujiangdimaodunhewujie。

　　2. 思考本身，找出原因

　　huiwangnimenzhijiandeguanxi，tanxunzaochengfenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin。tanrandishenshizijinanti，bingchengrenzijidecuowu。zheijiangbangzhuniyishidaolexuyaogaijindedifang，bingzhanshichunijinbuyuchengzhang。

　　3. 复建沟通交流，表述心里

　　hezuoshichuliwentidehexin。henvyoupingdengjiaoliu，biaodazijineixinxiangfa。zhanxianchuniduitashiquganyuduifenshouderenzhi。danshitongshi，yezunzhongduifangdeganshou，binglingtingtadeganshouyuxuqiu。

　　4. 修补信任，复建联接

　　xinrenshiguanxidezhongyaoqianti。jiaruxinrenzaifenshouzhongshoudaosunhuai，womenxuyaocaiquyouxiaocuoshilaixiufuta。tanrandirencuo，bingzhanxianziwogenggaijuexin。genjuxunsuxingdong，manmanhuifuxinren，bingfujianganqingdeqiaoliang。

　　5. 追寻个人提升，展现自信心

　　gerentishengshiyouhuolideyoulai。nulitishengzijideshuipingyumeili，zhanxianchunidezixin。zheijiangrangqianrennvyoukanjiannidejijibianhua，zheikenenghuizaicibeinidadong。

　　6. 重视她的选择，给与室内空间

　　lijieduifangdetiaoxuanshihenzhongyaode。jiarutahaimeiyouzuochujueding，jitayixieshijianyukongjianqusikao。buyaotaiguoyuzhuiqiuta，jiyuzugoudesuiyi，rangqikanjiannifazhantongshihaikeyisikaozijideganqing。

　　7. 重构共同的目标，憧憬未来

　　jianlixindeyitonglixianghebaofu，rangqijiandaonimendeweilaigailv。gongtongdejihuaheqidaijiangbangzhudajiazhonglian，bingzhanshinimendeguanxigongtongjiazhiguanyumubiao。

　　8. 接纳可能性的结论，维持重视

　　buguanzuizhongdejiejuzenyang，douyaojieshou。tayaoshijianchibuxiefenshou，zhongshitaqueding，bingyuyitashiyong。bubiduitashiya，yinweizheigezhihuizengjiajiedi。xuehuimianduibuchenggong，bingjixuqianxing。

　　nvpengyoufenshoulezenmecainengwanhui，wanhuiqiannvyouliuchengshijiankude，xuyaoshijianheqinfen。bingbushimeiyigeqinfendounengchenggong，danshiniyingdangaixizheixiejingli，congzheidangzhongxuedaodongxi。buguancuowushifou，zuizhuyaodeshiweichizunzhongyufazhan。nvyoufenshoule，buyidingfeiyaowanhui，dankeyitongguozheiyiguochengzhongxinshenshiziji，bingzhaodaoheshidefangfachuangjianxiayiduanganqing。