恋爱心态：男人为什么会喜欢姐弟恋？

　　nvrentifenshounanrendexinli，dangnvrenzhudongyaoqiufenshoushi，nanrendexintaijingchangbeijifa。takenenghuigandaobujie、xiaochenhuonaonu。nvrendeliqurangtamenzijiquchuaimoyuangu，shenshizijizaiguanxilicunzaidebuzu。youyixienanrenhenyoukenengchangshiwanhui，danyeyouyixietiaoxuanjieshouhejingjingdirenshoutongku。buguanzenyang，nvrentifenshoujinanrensuodailaidexinlijiankangzhuangkuangshifuzaqieshenke。tabujinshejidaotaduishiqudedongxihaipa，gengchudongtamenduizishendesikaoheqingganshangdejiejue。

　　心理上的挣脱：丧失与消极悲观

　　nvrentifenshounanrendexinli，dangyiduanguanxijiejinweisheng，nvrenmingquetichufenshou，nanrendexintaitongchanghuishenxianyichangmengliedexinlidouzheng。takenenghuijuedeshiqudedongxihaipa，kaishizhiyizishenzaizheiduanganqinglidejiazhihezhuyaobiaoxian。nanrenhuimenxinziwen，shifounalizuocuole，shibushiwohaibugouhao。zheileicaiyiyuziwohuaiyirangtamenkaishizhongxinpingguzijiderengetezhi、nenglijiyouhuoli。

　　情绪的波动：恼怒、消沉与无奈

　　nvrendeliqushichanghuijifananrendejijixintai，zaiqizhongzuichangjiandejiushinaonu、xiaochenhejuewang。naonuhenyoukenenglaiyuanyubeipaoqideganjue，zhenduinvrendejuecejuedeqinaohegaodibuping。xiaochenzeyinweishiquguanjiandebanlvheanwendeguanlian，mianduiweilaidekebianxingerjuedefanmenhejimo。erwunaizeshiyouyugaibianbulelingyifangdejuece，juedeshushouwucehewujiakegui。

　　自尊心的损伤：恢复与建立新的

　　nvrenmingquetichufenshou，rangnanrendezizunxinzaoshouyidingchengdudesunhai。takenenghuijuedebeiju、beifouding，kenenghuidaozhixinxindequeshi。danshi，suizheshijiantuiyihegerentisheng，nanrenzhujianmanmanhuifuzizunxinhouzhongxingoujianqizixinxin。tongguojieshouxianshi、xunzhaodalizhichiheziwotisheng，qinfenjiejuefenshouyinying，zaicizhaohuizijideshiyongjiazhihezunyan。

　　追寻讲解：寻找缘故与反省

　　nvrenmingquetichufenshou，nanrentongchangkewanglijieshencengyuanyin。tamenyebuduanxunmihuida，shenshizijizaizheiduanganqinglihenyoukenengfanxiadecuowuhuocunzaidebuzu。nanrenshicongjiyizhongxunzhaoanjianxiansuo，changshijiangjienvrendebimingheqingganbianhua。zheileifanshengquanguochengyouliyunanrenfazhanhetigao，tongshiyoushizhangwozijihetarenshencengcidejiyu。

　　解决和理解：挽回与释放出来

　　yingduinvrensuotichudefenshou，nanrenzhuyaoyouliangzhongchulifangfa：wanhuiheshifang。youyixienanrenhuijinliangwanliunvren，yiqiufujianposundeguanlian；tamenhuiwanglingyifangbiaoshiaiyi、fuwuchengnuogenggaibingbuduanxiubu。erlingyixienanrenjiuxuanzejienafenshou，wangjiguoqudeqingxuyali，xiangqiankan。buguanshinayizhongfangfa，jiejuehelijiefenshoushinanrenxinlizhuangtaizhongbijingdeguocheng，tayouzhuyugerentishenghexunzhaoxindejiyu。

　　彻底改变：寻找新的目标和价值

　　fenshouyihou，nanrenbixuzhongxindingyizijideshenghuohexunzhaoxindemubiaoyuyiyi。takenenghuijinrugongzuozhuangtai、pengyouhuogerenxingquaihao，yimibuganqingzhongdequekou。yucitongshi，nanrenhaihuifanshengzijiduiweilaiqiwanghezhuixun，zhongxinshezhizongtimubiao，xunzhaogenghaodeshenghuoshijiyiyi。jinguanfenshouliuyoutongku，danyeweinanrendailailegaibianziwodehaojihui。

　　nvrentifenshounanrendexinli，nvrenmingquetichufenshou，nanrendexinlijiankangzhuangkuangshifuzaqieshenke。congxinlidouzhengdaoqingxubianhua，zaicongzizunxinsunshanghexunzhaojieshi，nanrenjinglileyixiliehuanjiequchulihelijiefenshou。suihou，tamenzhongxindingyizijideshenghuo，bingxunzhaoxindemubiaohejiazhi。buguanzenyang，fenshouzhenduinanrenlaishuoshiyiciyiyizhongdadexinlizhuangtaikaoyan，zheiyaoqiutamenmianduibenshen，chengzhangyuxiangqian。