只有在亲密的时候我们才像是情侣

　　nvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshou，nannvpengyouzhijiandezhengzhishichangjiandeshiqing，danshi，youyixienvyouzaimeiyicizhengchaolidoubuduanzhongfutongyijuhua：“fenshou。”zheizhongzuofajiaiqingzengtianlebuquedingxinghegongzuoyali。wenzhangjiangtaolunzheizhongxintaishencengyuanyin，tongshitigongyixiejianyiquchulizheiyangdeshiqing。genjulejiehejiaoliu，dajianenggoubangzhubicichuangjiangengjiajiankang、xiangduiwendingdeguanlian，jianshaobubiyaodefenshouweixie。

　　nvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshou

　　posundechengnuo：qinggandekaoyan

　　探寻情感的波动

　　zaiyiduanganqingzhong，zhengzhishizaisuonanmiande。danshi，dangnvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshou，zheishifouyiweizhetabuzaiaixiwomendeguanxini？womenkeyicongshenduheguangdutanxunzheileixingweibeihoudeqingganbodong。

　　沟通交流的衡量

　　hezuoshisuoyouguanxizhongzhiguanzhongyaodeyihuan。dangwomennvyouzaichaojiashijiangchu“fenshou”zheici，shibushizhendedaibiaozhetashenzhongkaolvlefenshouni？keneng，neizhishitachangshiyinqiwomendeliuyi，xiwangwomennenggengrenzhendiduidaiduifangdeganshou。

　　情感安全要求

　　dangnvyoujingchangjiangchufenshouzheicishi，youkenengshitazaizhuixunqingganshangzugoudeanquangan。tayexudanyouwomendeguanxibuwenhuodanyousangshidajia。genjutiexin、guanhuaihezhenchengdejiaoliu，womenkeyixiangqichuansongwomenzijideqinggananquanxing，bingbangtaxuehuifangxiazheileizhiyihezaodongbuan。

　　情感多元性的理解

　　nvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshou，zheiyekenengshitaduiyuwomendeguanxikunhuobuyihebutaimanyi。takenengxiangyongzheizhongfangshilaibiaoxiantabumanyihuoqidaidajianenggaibianmouxiexingwei。dajiayinggaizhudongzhengqiutadeshengyin，shenrutantaonanti，bingxunzhaojiejuefangan，yibaozhangwomendeguanxi。

　　自我反思和成长

　　nvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshou，shiwomenziwofansizijizaiganqingzhongdeduanliandejihui。womenshibushichangchanghulveleduifangdeganshou？cunbucunzaiwomendexingweihuoxintairangqixingchenglebuanhegulv？genjuziwofansi，womenkeyifazhanweilegenghaodeairen，binggoujiangengwendingdeguanlian。

　　建立联系的牢固根基

　　womenyaochangshiyunvyouchuangjiangengjialaogudeguanliangenji，genjulijieyuzhichilingyifang，yiqichengzhang。xianghulijie、yichengxiangdai，qinfendadaobicizhijiandeqingganyaoqiu，shigoujianqinggananquanganzhangqiguanliandeguanjiansuozai。

　　寻求专业协助

　　jiarunvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshoudeqingkuangchixucunzai，tongshiduiwomendeguanxixingchenglebuliangyingxiang，womenkeyikaolvxunqiuzhuanyexiezhu。xinlixuezixunshihuoqingganquanweizhuanjiakeyibangzhuwomenjiejuekunrao，bingxiezhudajiachuangjiangengjiajiankang、xiangduiwendingdeguanximoxing。

　　情感的波折之途

　　nvyoumeicichaojiadoushuofenshou，bujinkaoyanlewomenqingganxixin，yerangdajiashenrulejielebicizhijiandeyaoqiuhexiwang。tongguojijidejiaoliu、shencengdelijieyiqichengzhang，dajiakeyikefuzheileiqingganjianxin，maixianggengwending、yuanmandejianglai。

　　（总篇幅：497）