男友对我越来越冷淡 分手后一个月我成功挽回了他

fenshoudi5tian,meitianwanshangdoumengjiantagentafuheyoufenshoule,yiciyouyicidikuzhexinglaile;

fenshoudi7tian，qingxushihaoshihuai，zhengtianhuanghuanghuhu，wuxinyinshi，

fenshoudi15tian，haishiwangbulefangbuxia，meitianzhanzhuanfancetongdaozhixi……

hentayuanta，keyourenbuzhumeitianxiangta，jiuzheiyangyileiximianmeitianfanfu。

zhidaoyujianlingyigenanren，wocaicongfenshoudetongkuzhongzouchulai，shenzhi，zaicifuhuotadexin，chengweiletalibukaideren。

 wohewangpingshizaixiangqinwangrenshide，zaiweixinliaoleyigexingqihou，faxianbiciliaodehenlai，ranhoujiuyuelejianmian。jiandaotadediyiyan，jiuganjuetayougaoyoushuai，jianzhijiushiwodelixiangxing。zhihou，suizheyuehuidecishuyuelaiyueduo，womenhenziranjiuchengweilenannvpengyou。

 ganglianaineihui，womenyecengrujiaosiqi，henbudemeitiandoubufenkai，ranertianmideshiguangzongshineimoduanzan。woquanshenxintourudaotashenshang，meitianxiangzheta、guanxinta，weitashiqulepengyouquan，taqueduiwoyuelaiyuelengdan。faxinxizongshihuidehenman，yaomobujiushi“haoba，nijuedinghao”gezhongfuyanleshi，dianhuayeshicongyiqianmeitianyigedaoliangsantianyige，shenzhifazhandaozuihoudianhuadoubujie，lianwoshengqiledoubuhong。

他是不是不爱我了?

 weilecongtaneihuoquanquangan，woyitianwensanci“niaiwoma”，taquecongmeizhengmianhuifuguowo。tayuezheiyang，wojiuyueganjuetabianxinle，chatashouji，yaoqiutafashipinduanxinquerenxingcheng，yidantashaoyoubuleyi，wojiuku，zhiwentashibushibianxinle，taqueshuo：“wogongzuomang，yalida，nibienaoxingbuxing?”

 wochanzhetazhanzheta，zhishixiangzhengmingtashiaiwode，taquemeitiandouduiwoailibuli，shenzhihaibeizhewozaiwangshangheyinvdeliaosao，tashuozhishikaiwanxiao，yihoubuhuile，danwoquewufazaixiangxinta，zhinengtongguogengjiapinfandechagangxingweilaihuoquanquangan。

 neitian，tabumenjucan，wojitadaleshijigedianhua，tajiubaofale，shuoyaofenshou，wojiushuofenjiufen!ranhoushuowandediertian，wojiuhouhuile，qiuzhetabuyaofenshou，taquebuguanwozenmowanliudoubudaying。

 wobumingbaiweishenmomingmingxiangaiderenzuihouhuibianchengzheiyang?baitianwoqiangyanhuanxiao，yidanyeshenrenjingxiangqiyiwangdetianmi，jiuwufakezhidiliulei。wobuzhihainengzenmozuocainengwanhuita?

 woxiangguimikekeqingsu，taqueshuo“nibuyaoxiangzhewanhuile，chenxianzaifenlezaizhaoyigejiushi，meijiehuntadouzheiyangle，sheizhidaojiehunzhihou，tahuibuhuigai!”

wokuzheduikekeshuo：“wozhidaoa，kewojiushifangbuxiataa，wonengzenmoban?”

看着我哭肿的眼睛，可可叹了一口气说：“既然这样，你去咨询一下专业情感师咨询师吧，我刚好认识一个,他叫 冷爱 ，从 挽回恋情 daoxiufuhunyintadoufeichangshanzhang，huoxutakeyijinijianyi。

我抱着将信将疑的态度联系了他，在我交代了事情的来龙脉后，冷爱老师告诉我：“你这种情况，从依恋角度分析，就是焦虑型与回避型的组合，既具有致命的 吸引力 又矛盾尖锐。”

 woyilianmimangdiwangzheta，tatingleyixiacaijixushuo：“zheiyangba，woxianjieshiyixiashenmoshijiaolvhuibixingrenge，yinweizhiyouzhidaolebicishishenmoyangderennicainengduizhengxiayaoquwanhui。”

 jiezhe，laoshijiujiwozuoleyixiefenxi，neiyikewocaizhidaozijishijiaolvxingrenge，tashihuibixingrenge，doushiyouxinggequexianderen。

焦虑型:

qinmigan:xihuannianzaiyiqi

chongtu: fashengchongtuhou，yanxingbuyizhi，xiwangtongguogengduodeyanxingquedingtashiainide

qingxu: mingan，duifangyouyidianqingxubianhua，nijiufeichangjinzhang.

chanshengyuanyin: yuanshengjiating：xiaoshihou，nifuqinmangyugongzuo，shuhuduinidechengnuo，nikongjubeipaoqi

回避型:

qinmigan:xiwangyoudulikongjian

chongtu: taobigoutong，haipabeinishanghai，haipayinweibierendeai，zijixuyaojiabeichanghai

qingxu: duiniminganjinzhangqingxudebujie，juedenishixiangkongzhita.

chanshengyuanyin: duiniminganjinzhangqingxudebujie，juedenishixiangkongzhita

laoshidefenxiyiyuzhongde，rangwowuchuketao。

 “dangchutabeinidehuoporeqingxiyin，nixihuantadelengjingshenwen，suoyinimenhenkuaijiuzhuiruleaihe，dandangjiqingtunquzhihou，nirengxiangshikenianzaiyiqi，taquexiwangbaochiyibeizhiyao，ranhouchongtujiuchanshengle，nipinmingzhui，tapinmingtao，nibaoyuantabuaini，tajuedenibulijieta，zuihoujiuzoudaolefenshouzheiyibu。”

woshenmoleyixia“laoshi，xiangnizheimoshuo，wohetashibushimeikenengle。”

 “bu，zheishishangsuoyoudepolieguanxidouyoukenengbeiwanhui，jiukanniyoumeiyouyongduifangfa。xiangtazheizhonghuibixingderen，niyuejingongtajiuyuehoutui，suoyiniyuqiyongzijidejiaolvjiazhongtadehuibi，burutongguozheiyicideqinggancuozhediaozhengzijidequexian，yiyigegenghaodezijiquxiyintazhudongwanhui。

这样，我先给你布置些任务，按照我给你的表格去学习情绪管理和 沟通技巧 ，丰富自己的生活。这个过程可能坚持有点难，但只要你做到了，你就会发现不一样的收获。” 花镇情感 咨询师

 neicizixunhou，wobuzaifangrenzijizaitongkuzhonghuanghuduri，wobaomingqujianshen，genpengyouyiqiqutingyinlehui，yueduliangxingxiangchushuji，guankanhuazhenshipinkecheng。jianjiandi，dangwodeshenghuobiandechongshi，dongdechajuebingchulizijideqingxushi，wohenshaohuihuandehuanshile。suiranoueryedanxintahuilingxunxinhuan，danzailaoshidepeibanyukaijiexia，wozuihouhaishikongzhilezijibuyaoluanxiang，zhuanzhuyuziwotisheng。

 jingguoyigeyuedenuli，wozouchuleshiliandeyinmai，biandegengyouzixinhehuoli，guimishenzhihaikuawobuzaixiangyiqianneiyangqingxuhua，congronglehenduo。haiyou，wofazaipengyouquandezhuangtai，tayedouyoudianzanpinglun。

 dangwoyinweitadehuiyinggandaoshenglizaiwangxiangzhudonglianxitashi，laoshizhizhilewo：“nixianzaijingong，takenengmashangjiusuohuiqule，nibiezheji，zaidengdeng，tayijingkandaolenidebianhua，tahuizhudongzhaonide。”

 guoran，yigexingqizhihou，tafaxinxilaiwenwoxianzhuangzenmoyang，wobingchengzhelaoshijiaodegoutongyuanze，bujitashiya，buxiangtasuoqiuanquangan，zhishuoganshouhejianyi。manmandi，womencongtanlunxianzhuangdaohuiyiyiwang，zaidaotazhudonggenwoshuoxinlihua，liaotadeyuanshengjiating。

 zheiyangdezhuangtaichixuleyigeyue，laoshigaosuwo：“nikeyishidanghouche，jianshaohuifutadepinlv，cijitazhongxinduinibiaobai。”

 anzhaolaoshidezhidao，wobaomingqulemaerdaifulvyou，dangtiantajiudalewugedianhuajiwo，womeijie，dengdaowanshangtazaidalaishi，wogaosuta，zijiwanfengwangle，ranhoutajiuyouyiwuyidicitanwogensheiqu，qishiwoxinlizaiqiexi，danwohaishirushigaosutashigentuan，haiyushangleyixiebijiaoyouquderen。

等我回来之后，他约了我出来，在我们 第一次约会 dedifang，tashuo：“wozheijitiankaolvlehenduo,wojuedewomenkeyizaishiyixia，ninengzaijiwoyicijihuima?”

 fuhebannianhou，womenzhongyuzai2018niandexinnianlingzhengle。suiranxianzaiwomenfashengmaodun，tahaishixiguanxingbushuohuabujieshi，danwohuijingxiaxinlai，gaosutazijidexiangfa，shiweilejiejuewenti，bushiweilezhizeta。suizhewodegaibian，tayezuochulexiangyingdebianhua，suiranzuishangbushuodaoqian，danyinengkandaotadeshijixingdong，erqiexiaoguohaibucuo。

 kandaozheili，dajiakenengbijiaoguanxintashifouzhendemeiyouliaosaole?shide，womenfuhezhihou，tajiurangwosuiyikantashouji，suiranwomeikeyiqucha，danwofaxianzhendeduanganjingle，yemeijiantaheshenmonvdeaimei。

 yinci，ruguoniyeyouleisideqingganfannaobuzhizenmoban，bufanglianxiyixialengailaoshi，tingtingtazenmoshuo，yinweizhenggewanhuiguocheng，tazhendebakongdefeichangdaowei。