为什么懂得享受单身的人更有勇气走进婚姻

 weishenmeshuodongde xiangshoudanshen deren，gengyouyongqizoujinhunyin?yinweizuijinwokanleyipianwenzhang，neirongdagaijiushigaojieguangdanvxing，30suiqianbuyaojiehun，zaohunzaoyuzaolihun，fuchuleqingchunzuihoubianchenghuanglianpo，buzhide。

 zheipianwenzhangkansihenyoudaoli，danzuozheyong30suizuoweiyigefenjiedianlaidingyixingfu，neishibushi30suiqianjiehunbuxingfu，30suihoujiehunjiuhuixingfuni?zaiwokanlai，yongnianlingqujianhuafenxingfuyufoushibugongpingde。

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（为什么懂得享受单身的人 更有勇气走进婚姻？）

 qianzhenzi，womayuzhongxinzhangdigenwoshuo：“ruguoyudaoheshidenanhaizi，keyikaolvfazhanfazhan。ruguohaimeiyudaoyebuzheji，duokankanshu，ququlvxingyetinghao。fanzhengqianwanbuyaoyinweinianjidaole，jiucouhezhaogerentanlianai。”

 wonenglijiewomadeyongyi，taxianggaosuwodeshi：haohaoliyongdanshenshiguangjinxingtisheng，yihoujiehunyidingyaojiajiaiqing。rangxingfubuzaiquexi

bunanfaxian，hulianwangshidaikuaisufazhan，hailiangdehunlianxinxirangxuduoshilingjiehundenianqingrengandaozhixi。

 youderenkanlehaoxiejiabaoxinwen，congerduiaiqingchanshengkangju，youderenmutaisolole20jiduonian，cong“guolairen”kouzhongtingshuo，guole30suijiudiaojia，yushiganzhemobanchebaziji“tuixiao”chuqu。

 pengyougenwoshuoguo：dangshenbianderendouzaitanlianai，ernihaishidanshen，jiuxianggeyilei。dangshenbianderendoukaishitanhunlunjia，ernihaizaixiangqin，jiuxiangbuhequn。

 zaiwokanlai，chiyouzheizhongxiangfaderen，zhishibahunyinkanzuoyixiangrenwu，xiejinzijidetodolistli，jixieshidiwancheng“lianai-jiehun-shengzi-ertai”buzhou。

 yeyourenbahunyindangzuonuoyafangzhou，shiturangtalaizhengjiugududanshendeziji。zaiwokanlai，zheizhongxiangfayefeichangkepa，bijinghunyinzhishiyigemeijie，nengzhengjiuzijidezhiyouniziji。

我一直相信，能把婚姻经营好的女人，无论单身，热恋，结婚还是离婚，她都能把日子过成诗。

 zheirangwoxiangqiwobiaojie，dangniantajianchiyaokaoyanjiusheng，erzhancaikaoshangxinyidezhuanye，yanjiushengqijiantayibianrenzhenzhuanyanxueshu，yibianchoukongdaochuqulvxing，xiaoriziguodekezhengouxiaosade。

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 neizhenzi，biaojiezaixinyidegongsizhanwenjiaogen，yangleyizhimaohejipenlvzhi，baolejianshenbanhehongbeikecheng，youkongjiumaijipiao，yigerenshuozoujiuzou。zaiwokanlai，tasihaomeiyoudasuanyaozhaoduixiangdeyisi。

 jiangzhen，wodoutitazheji，wendao：jie，nandaonibuxiangzhaogenanpengyouma?pingshizhengtiankanniyigerenquwan，zhenxiwangniganjinzhaogenanrenpeipeini。

 biaojiemanyouyoudishuo：nanpengyoubushishuozhaojiunengmashangzhaodaoheshide。zaishuo，woxianzaiyigerenguodeyetinghaode，xuededongxiyuelaiyueduo。zhiyutanlianai，yudaoheshidejiugenghao，meiyudaoyeok。

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shoudaoqingtiedeshihou，wodaquwenbiaojie：zheimekuaijiudingxialai，nandaoniyoubaobaole?

 biaojieshuo：bushifengzichenghun，ershiwozhidaozijixiangyaoshenmeyangdelingyiban，xiangguoshenmeyangdeshenghuo。tafuhewodeyaoqiu，bingqiewomenbicixiangai，zaodiandingxialaimeishenmebuhaode。

 biaojiejiehundiernianbianshengxiakeaideshuangbaotainver，meiciqutajiazuoke，doushibiaojiefuzaimanglimangwaixicaizuofanweibaobaochinaihu。

 danglemamayihou，biaojieyijiunengbagongzuoheshenghuoanpaidejingjingyoutiao，bierenjiehunhoudoubeiyouyanchuihuanglelian，taquehaishishaonvbandemoyang，zhishishencaibizhiqianyuanrunlexiexu。

 jidebiaojiecenggenwofenxiangjingyan：danshendeshihoubuyaozongqidaizhetanlianai，gailaidezonghuilaide，zaineizhiqianhaohaoxiangshouyigerenziyouzizai，tianmaxingkongderizi。dengdaoniyaokaolvjiehunshengzizheixieshideshihou，nijiubukenengxiangdanshenshihouneiyangsatuole。

 duchudeshiguangnengrangnigenghaodirenshiziji，qingchuzijixiangguoshenmeyangdeshenghuo，xiangchengweishenmeyangderen，cainenggengyoudiqigenlingyigerenxieshouzoujinxingfumeihaodeshenghuo。

先自沉稳，而后爱人。这就是为什么懂得享受单身的人，更有勇气走进婚姻。 (本文作者：橙马良)