女生这样挽回男友注定会失败！

为什么你付出很大的努力去 挽回男友  ，duifangquegengjiashuyuannini？qishiwanhuinanyoushiyaojiangqiufangfade，ruguofangfabuduizhihuirangduifanglinigengyuan。suoyiruguoniyaowanhuita，jiuyidingyaozhidaozhei5dajinqu。chufanleqizhongyigezhihuidaozhiniwanhuishibai。

nvshengzheiyangwanhuinanyouzhudinghuishibai！

1.勉强他复合

 nanrendouyouhenqiangdepannixin，niyueshiyaotazuoshenme，tayuebuzheimezuo。youqishizainimenfenshouhou，nanrenhuigengjiapanni，nidedaoqianheqiqiuzhihuirangtashiquduinidezunzhong，suoyiyaoxiangwanhuinanyou，niyidingbunengzaifenshouhoubutingdihetatifuhe。

2.用短信和电话骚扰他

 naixin，zheigeciduinanrenlaishuojibenshibuzhanbiande。nanrendenaixinfeichangyouxian，dangnimenfenshouhou，yexutahailiulianzhenidehao，meiyoushandiaolianxifangshi，danruguonirenbuzhufeiyaoyongdianhuaheduanxinsaoraota，neimeniyidinghuibeitalaheishanchu。

3.打扰他的朋友和家人

 lianaishilianggerendeshi，nimenzaiyiqishitahuidainijianpengyouhejiaren，neishiyinweitaaini，dantayidingbuxiwangzijifenshouhouhuigaoderenjinjiezhi。nanrenhaomianzidechengdushiwufaguliangde，suoyinibiezheimezuo。

4.到处细数你的付出

 fenshouhouhaiyouyigedajijiushihetaxishunidefuchu，ranerdaduoshunvshengzaifenshouhoudouhuiheduifangshuo“woduiniduohaoduohao……”。qishi，nidefuchutabushibuzhidao，danruguonifeiyaonachulaishuoshi，tayidinghuijuedenifantoule，bijinglianailiderensheimeiyoufuchu。

5.到处哭诉失恋

 nanrenhenvrenbutong，nanrenshilixingde、nvrenshiganxingde。henduonvshengzaifenshouhouhuizhaorenkusu，shenzhizaikongjianhuopengyouquanfabiaozijidexinqing，ranernizheiyangzuoshidebudaonanrendetongqingde，tazhihuijuedenibuziai，huigengjiajiandinghenifenkai。suoyi，fenshouhouniyidingbuyaodaochukusu，burannijibunengwanhuinanyou，haikenenghuiliuxiayiduanbukanhuishoudeheilishi。

 dangnanyouxiangnitichufenshouzhihou，duifangbuxiangjiandaoni，buxiangzhidaonirenhexiaoxi，zheigeshihounibushihezhijiehetatanhua，youxierenhuixuanzeyiduanxinhuozheweixindefangshiquheduifanglianxi，danshiruguonizaibianjiwanhuiduanxindeguochengzhong，shuocuoleyixiecuowudehuayu，henrongyijiudaozhiwanhuinanyoushibai，zuizhongbeiduifanglahei，lianduanxin、weixindelianxidianyehuishiqu。

6.避免无休止的提问对方

在对方向你提出分手之后，往往是对你态度是冷淡的，你自以为不断提问对方，你们的话题就不会终结，例如“你真的不爱我了吗?”“如果我做出改变，你还会和我再一次吗?”甚至问对方有没有想你等等。既然对方向你提出了分手，往往是你们之间的矛盾点很高，你无休止的重复问对方一些问题，甚至暴露出你强烈的 需求感 ，wangwanghuizengjiatadeyali，yidanchaoyuetaderenshoudixian，houguobukanshexiang。

7.避免把他和别人作比较

 dangduifangxiangnitichufenshou，nikenenghuiyuanhenduifang，yijijiangfadefangfashituyinqiduifangdetiaozhanyu，lirubatahebierenzuobijiao，gaosuduifangbiedeyixingduiniruhedewenrou，shenzhizhizhiduifangdebuzu，shuochushanghaitadehuayu。zheiyangjieguowangwangshideqifan，jiuruwanhuiaiqingdashikangnasuoshuo：“nanrenxuyaodeshibeixuyao。nvrenyueshiruan，jiuhuijifananrendebaohuyu，tacaihuiganjuedaozijibeixuyao。”niruciqiangshidexingwei，budanyinqiduifangduinidefanganchengdu，erqiehuigengjiahelihuahenifenshoudejueding。ruguonizishendexiyindubugou，bunengyinqitadexingqu，liyongzheizhongjijiangfalaiyinqitadetiaozhanyushimeiyouyongde。

8.避免旧事重提

如果你在编辑短信时候不认同对方分手的理由，和他争辩，甚至把责任都推卸在对方身上，这样往往会增加你们之间的矛盾点。对方向你提出分手，他已经否定你，当他还没有冷静下来或者你们之间的关系还没有缓解下来，这时候如果你不断和他争辩过去的事情，往往会让他想起你们以前不愉快的事情，更加合理化和你分手的决定，这样对挽回不但没有帮助，有可能在微信或者电话上直接拉黑你。过去的事情都过去了，要懂得享受当下，提高自身的价值， 重新吸引 对方。

 zaiwanhuiguochengzhong，jiuyaobuduandizuozhengquedeshiqing，renheyijianpohuaiwanhuideshiqingdouhuirangniqiangongjinfei，bimianwuxiuzhidetiwenduifang，zengjiaduifangdeyali;nanrenxuyaobeizunzhong，buyaobatahebiedenanrenzuobijiao，jiantatadezizunxin;bimianjiushizhongti，zhongxinxiyinduifanghuidaoshenbiancaishizhengquedewanhuifangfa。