谈恋爱很累，如何继续下去？

 youshihou，zhenxinjuede tanlianaihenlei ，mingminghenai，quebuganmingquejinlidiaihebiaoda。tayijuwuxindehuadouhuizainaolilianxiangdaowuxiangezijihaipadejieguo；huixinximanyifen，yisibunaifandebiaoqinghuozheyuqidourangrenhuangkongbuan，jierzhetengkunaoqiuzheng。

一、自身本来就是疲惫的

zaizheiyijieduan，ruguonizijizhuangtaibuhao，kendingkanshenmedoubuhuishunyan，gengbuyongshuolianaile。

解决方法：  xianjizijijianjianya，jiandiaofumianleizhuideqingxu、duoyudefudan、zaogaodexinqing、bushundeshiye。diaozhenghaoxintai，bazheixiejiejuehou，zaijizijizuojiafa，manmanzaiqushizhetanlianai，zhiyouxianbazijizhenglihao，cainengquaibieren，zheiyangbicijiubuhuigandaolei。

二、以“为对方好”为理由，把自己的意志强加给别人

 zailianaideshihou，qishimeigerendouxuyaozunzhong，zheiyeshizuoweiyigerenzuijibendexuqiu。henduorentanlianaiguochengzhong，zongbaozhegaizaoduifangdexintaizaitanlianai，buzijuedizongxiangbazijideyizhiqiangjiayuduifang，haijuedeshiweiduifanghao。youguniangshuo：“yaofeijinxinsiquxiediaoshuangfang，zhendehenlei”，keshiweishenmeyaofeijinxinsiquxiediaoni？zheiyangbiranhenlei。

解决方法：  qishi，bicidoushichengnianren，douyouzijichuliwentidefangshi，genbenbuxuyaoxiediao，qishizheishihouyaozuodejiushizunzhongduifang。xianghuzunzhongcaihuiyoumohe，xiediaozhihuichanshengmocahemaodun。yinggaijibiciyixiekongjian，zheiyanglianggerendouhuishufu。xuyaotebieshuomingdeshi，zheilidezunzhongjueduibushitaobiwenti，buqugaibianbierenhenhao，dannibixuyaorangduifangzhidaowentizainali。jutijiushiniyaorangtazhidaonishengqide、bumanyideyounaxie，taruozijidiaozhengjiudiaozheng，taruobuyuanyidiaozhengniyebieqiangzhi，zheicaishiqiadangdezunzhong。

三、和自己想象中的恋爱对象差别太大

 wozhidao，qishimeigerenxinzhongdouyouwanmeidelianaiduixiang。nanrendouxihuan“baifumei”，nvrendouxihuan“gaofushuai”，danshiduiyudaduoshurenlaishuo，zheidoushibuxianshide。ruguoyiweidexunzhaozijixinmuzhongwanmeidelianaiduixiang，neijiuhuijuedehenlei。

解决方法：  shouxianshikeyijiangdizijideqidaizhi，diaozhenghaoxintai，chengrenxianshizhonghennanyudaonixinmuzhongdelixianglianren。lianaihou，buyaozongnalianrenyunizijixinmuzhongdelixianglianrenduibi，ruguoxiangchudehaisuanyukuai，jiubuyaoguofenkeke。ranhoushiruguozijifeiyaozhaodaoxinmuzhongdelixianglianren，jiuyinggaidangfaxiantiaojianbupipeihou，jinkuaifenshou。ruguojixutuoxiaqu，lianggerendouhuijinpilijin，rangbicishangdegengshen，fenshouzhihou，fanerkeyijixuxunzhaonixinmuzhongdelixianglianren。xuyaozhuyideshi，zheiyangzuodejieguoduobanhuishizhongdaofuzhe，suoyihaishiguaiguaididuizijideyaoqiuzuoyixietuoxie。