冷爱原创：分清真性假性分手，制定有效挽回攻略

前言：有效挽回攻略，避免情感痛苦，把握真正幸福

 lengai zaiyuanzhu《jiunianji》zhongyouyiduanguanyufenshoudeyulu，weiweidaochuleguanyufenshouhouxinlingsixinliefeideleileishanghen：

 “fangxiani，haidefangxiazheiyiduipengyou。dayingledewanglaidoukeyituidiao，zhishizheixieqingfenyinweiyiduanguanxierwudaobiedegaozhong，xinlinanmianbushe。

wozijixinliqingchu，nandebujinjinshiyaofangxiani，haiyaofangxiazijixinkujianlideyizhongquanxinshenghuo。”

 duihenduonvxinglaishuo，qingganshangdetongkuyouqianqianwan，zuitongkudeyizhongmoguoyushiquzhenai。zaibuzhibujuezhongshiquyiduanganqing，dengdaohuiguoshenlai，zaojiuyijingmeiyoujihui。jintiandezheipianwenzi，guanyuwanhuideyouxiaogonglve，laizilengaiyuanchuang，mudejiushiranggengduonvxingbimianqinggandetongkuzhizui，bawozhenzhengdexingfu。

挽回前需要清晰的分手概念：假性分手、真性分手

这些年，在冷爱看过上万案例，并亲自跟踪过上千案例中，关于挽回情感关系的，有成功也有失败。根据真实反馈，冷爱提炼出了一个非常重要的核心技术点： 如何识别假性分手和真性分手。这也是挽回前需要清晰的分手概念，才能做出有效的挽回攻略。

 jiaxingfenshou，fenshouqishishiweilebeiwanliu。qishizheizhishinanrenxiwangyongfenshouzheizhongfangfayinqilingyifangdezhongshi，tongsudianjiushihehuduifang。zheishihounanrenbingmeiyouxinhuiyileng，ershibaozhe“duyiba”dexintai，yicihuanlainvrendegengduoguanzhu。ruguonvrenzaizheishihouyiweishuofenshoujiushizhendeyaofenshou，yushifangqi，huozhequzhaobierenzhileide，jiuhuizhuchengdacuo。yuanbenxiangaideren，yuezouyueyuan，daozuihou，dajiadoumeiyoujihuiwanghuizoule。zheishizuizuikexideyizhongjieju。

 zhenxingfenshou，shuomingnanrenyijingsixinjuewang，xiangjinkuaibaituozheiduanguanxi，guoxindeshenghuo。beizaizheishihou，nvrenchuyuduishiquzheiduanguanxidetongkuhekongju，gezhongsichanlanda，quebeiduifanglahei，zaiyebuli。zheiqishiyefeichangkexi，suiranshuozheizhongzhenxingfenshoudewanhuinanduhenda，danshizhengyinweininvrencaiyonglemengzhuibufang、sichanlandadengdengcuowudefangfa，caidaozhibenlaiyoukenengwanhuideneiyisixiwangdoubeipomie。

 suoyishuo，wanhuiyiduanguanxidehexindian，shouxianzaiyushibiefenshoushijiaxingdehaishizhenxingde。yinweizheiliangzhedewanhuicelvewanquanxiangfan，shenzhikeyishuoyoutianrangzhibie，zheijiuxiangjiaxingjinshiduoxiuxijiuhaole，danzhenxingjinshiyaodongshoushucainenghuifu。

关于假性分手和真性分手，应该如何识别？

 qingxilejiaxingfenshouhezhenxingfenshoudegainianhou，naxiefangmiankeyishibiepanduannanrenfenshoudezhenjia，lengaiweinvxingpengyoumentigongxiamiandejigezhongdianpanduanyiju：

1、通讯：通讯是否隔离

 yibanlaishuo，jiaxingfenshoudehuananrenbuhuibanilahei，haihuijienidianhua，bieguantataiduyouduocha，zhiyaotahailini，zaijienidianhuahuiniduanxin，neimezhishaotahaizaigennigoutong。zhenxingfenshoudehua，zeshidianhuabujieduanxinbuhui，weixinweibotongtonglahei，wanquanbulini。

2、情绪：对方情绪波动

 shibushitongxunfangshilaheilejiuyidingshizhendefenshouni？zheiyebuyiding，ruguonanrendefanyinghendabirudachaodanaoshenzhimanizhileide，zheizhongqingkuangyeyoukenengshijiaxingfenshou。chaonaobukepa，chaonaodaibiaohaiyoujihui，yexuzheihaishixiangyinqinizhuyi。zhenxingfenshoujiushi，genbenbudalini，nizhenggerenzaitaneijiuxiangkongqiyiyang。tasuozuodejiushichenmo，genbenwushini。yinweinanrenduinizhendejuewangle。

3、社交圈：是否在社交圈宣布分手信息，宣布的形式是什么

 jiashenanrengennishuolefenshou，dantazaitadeshejiaoquanlimeiyouxuanbuzheigexiaoxi，neiyoukenengshijiaxingfenshou。danshiruguoyiquanrendouzhidaole，shenzhishuangfangfumudoujiedaonimenfenshoudexiaoxi，neiyoukenengshizhenxingfenshou。tongchanglaishuo，nanrenmeiyougenshurenjiang，shishishangshizaijibicijihui。youdenvrenbuzhidao，yidanbeifenshoujiudaochuqiuzhushuofenshoulegaizenmebana，zheishihoujiudacuotecuole，dahaodejihuijiubeiwanquanzangsong。

4、网络状态：观察对方的社交网络动态

 jiaxingfenshou，nanrenkenenghuiouerzaishejiaowangluodongtaishangtutucao，xiwangyinqinidezhuyi。ruguoshizhenxingfenshou，takenengweibo、weixinshenmedoubufa，yipianchenmo，jiuxiangshisihaiyipiandejijing。

5、邀约情况：能否邀约

 jibianshinanrenlaheinile，nitongguobiedetongdaoquyaoyueta，tayirandayingnijianmian，zheizhongqingkuangyoukenenghaishijiaxingfenshou。danshiruguotabikaihenijianmiandeyiqiejihuihechanghe，zheizhongqingkuangxiajiuhenkenenghuishizhenxingfenshou。

qingzhuyi，yishang5diandoubushiweiyidebiaozhi，dajiayaozhuyizonghepanduan。

两种情况：如果识别出了是真性分手还是假性分手，该怎么制定有效的挽回攻略？

如果是假性分手，女人应该怎么做？

 jiaxingfenshoudehexinshinanrenhaiduinixincunxiwang，zhishitarenweinimendexiangchumoshishitawufajieshoude。suoyicaihuiyongfenshouzheizhongxingshilaizhuaqunidezhuyili，jineryoukenengdehuadiaozhenglianggerenxiangchudefangshi。juticaozuofensanbuzou。

第一步，是穷追不舍。  zheigeshihou，nishouxianyinggairangnanrenzhidaonizhongshizheiduanguanxi，buhuifangqi。yinweinanrenbuzhidaofenshouhouniyaowanhuidejuexin，suoyixuyaonvrenyaoxianbiaotaijiyuzugoudezhuyili。

第二步：建立安全感。 zaizheijieduan，zaiaiqinglimian，kenengnanrenhenvrenyiyangjiduquefaanquangan，xuyaoshuangfangcongwaibujiyuzugouduodeanquangan。

 anquanganyoulianggedadelaiyuan，waibulaiyuanheneibulaiyuan。zheilizhuyaojiangdeshiwaibudeanquangan，dazhishangkeyifenliangzhong：yangxingheyinxing。yangxingdeanquanganshiguizemingxi；liru，yihouzhiyaofanmougeleixingdecuowu，jiuhuishoudaoshenmeyangdechengfa。nvrendejianliyigefeichangmingxideyouxiguize，yaorangnanrenzhidao，yihouchuxiantongyangqingkuangdeshiqingdeshihougaizenmeban。gengzhongyaodeshiyaorangnanrenzhidao，niyihoubuhuizaifanle，yinweiyijingyouleguizele，niweifanleyouxiguize，huiyouchengfa。yinxingdeanquanganzeshibulibuqi。zheizhongbupaoqibufangqideganjuejiuxiangshi：“wulunnishifouyoujibinghuozhepinqiong，wulunniyihoubianchengshenmeyangzi，woyiranhuiaini，wohuiyongyuanaini。”

第三步：重新调整并且巩固你们的关系。  suoweidiaozheng，shishuoshuangfangnengzoudaojiaxingfenshouzheibu，yidingshichuxianlehenduowenti。bujiejuezheixiewenti，yihouhaishiyaomianlinfenshoudewenti，suoyiyidingyaojiejuezheixiewenti，diaozhengnimendexiangchumoshi。suoweidegonggu，shiquanfangweidegonggu：wulunshixing，haishijiangshangxitong，haishizhenzhengdeyilianguanxi。zheilijiubuzhankaile，zhitixingyidian，gongguzhongzuizhongyaodeyidianshishuangfangyidingyaogenghaodetourudaozheiduanguanxizhong，gongtongqutouzi。nitouzidetongshi，duifangyebixuyaotouzidaozheiduanguanxizhong。

在假性分手的各类问题里，向各位女性朋友提供一块免死金牌，你可以撒娇地说：老公，我错了，我会改的！

shangmianshuodeshijiaxingfenshou，neimeruguoshizhenxingfenshouhua，gaizenmechuli？yetongyangyaofensangebuzhou。

第一步：断联。  congxianzaikaishi，likemashangtingzhisuoyoulianxi，zhongzhiyiqiesichanlandadexingwei。nvrenyuesichanlanda，nanrenzhihuiyuetaoyanni、yuejuedenizheigerentaishale，le，gengjiayiwenbuzhi。zheizhongqingkuangnvrenbixuxianwanghoutuiyibu，cainenghaikuotiankong。

第二步：蜕变。  zhiyouyizhongfangfakeyichenggongwanhuizhenxingfenshou，neijiushihualidezhuanshen。zaizheigejieduan，nibixudewanquanfensuiziji。nixiang，ruguonihaishiyiqiandeneigeni，nijuedenanrenhaiyuanyigennizaiyiqima？nvrenbixuwanchengzhenzhengdetuibian，fensuiguoqudeziji，quanmiantishengziji，bianchengyigegenghaoderen。nvrenyidingyaomingbai，aiqingbushiduixiangwenti，shigenengliwenti。niguoqushiquleta，shiyinweiniquefazheigenengli。chuletishengziji，zaizheigejieduanshenkefanshengguoqulianggerenzhijiandewenti，zhaochusuoyoudeyuanyinbingqiejiayigaibian。zheigetuibiandeguochengshizuikunande，yeshizuitongkude。danshiyidanwancheng，nicaihuoqulezhongxinwanhuidexiwang。

第三步：二次吸引。  zainvrenbianchengyigequanxindezijiyihou，nikeyichangshizhizaojiaoji，gentazhongxinkaishi。zheishihoudeni，bixushiyigequanxindeni。nibuyaozhijiequzhaota，ershitongguozhongzhongbanfazhizaoyizhongjiaoji，rangtabeigenghaodenizhongxinxiyin。

 ruguozheisanbudouwancheng，bingqielianggerenzhongxinkaishidehua，qingcankaoqianmianguanyudiaozhengguanxihezhongxingonggudeduanluo，yidingyaobawohaolaizhibuyidejihui。

zuihouduiyunvren，buguanshijiaxingfenshouhaishizhenxingfenshoudouyaojide：buyaodongbudongqutifenshou，qiexingqiezhenxi。