挽救婚姻，是一件需要坐下来好好谈的人生大事

　　nanrenhenvrenfenshouyihouzhuangtai，zainanrenhenvrenfenshouzhihou，tadezhuangtaihuichuxianmingxianbianhua。fenshouzhihoudeqingxudimihejingshenyalixingchengchangtai，bicixianghuyilaizhijiandeguanximanmanwajie。takenenghuiqinshenjingliyoushang、fennuhegudandengfuzadeqingganqifu。zheishi，duifangcunyoubuhuizaitianbuneixinshenchudequekou，fanershibianchengyixiliewentishenghuozhongdemaodundegenbenyuanyin。yigexindeshenghuofangshijiziworentongdebianhua，chengweiwomenwubiyingduidekaoyan。yiner，nanrenhenvrenfenshouwanghoudezhuangtaidaduoshichanzade，xuyaoyiduanshijianhejiqiziwodiaojielaimanmanhuifu，houzhongxinzhaodaozijideyigexindeshenghuoheziwo。

　　分手之后的情绪变化

　　失望疑惑：

　　nanrenhenvrenfenshouyihouzhuangtai，nanrenhenvrenzaifenshouhoutongchanghuixianruyizhongshiwangheyihuodezhuangtai。tamenyexujuedecuozongfuzaqingxu，buzhidaogairuheyingduishenghuodebianhuahebicizhijiandelikai。fenshouhouyiqiedouyuelaiyueshengshu，tamenxuyaoyiduanshijianlaigenghaodishiyingshenghuojiezoudandudeziworentong。

　　沉浸于忧伤：

　　fenshouhou，beishangshiwufabimiandexintai。nanrenhenvrendouhuijuedefeichangdadeshiwanghenanguo，xiangnianyiwangdemeihaohuiyi。tamenyaojinglixiangnianlingyifangdekuchu，zhuiyiyiqijinglidemeihaoshike，naizhiwanglefenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin。youshangshishikekekunraozhetamen，xuyaoyiduanshijianlaiquanyuxinlingdechuangshang。

　　挣脱焦虑情绪：

　　zaifenshouhou，nanrenhenvrentongchanghuixianruyizhongzhengtuohejiaolvbuandezhuangtai。takenenghuisisuofenshoudeyuanyinjizishencunzaidebuzu，duiyuweilaigandaobuanyubuan。yiyuqingxushidetamenwufafangsonghezhiliyuxianjieduandeshenghuo，xinlichongchizheyihuo，bixuxunzhaofangfalaijiejuezheiyangdejiongjing。

　　再定位：

　　fenshouhou，nanrenhenvrenbixuzaidingweiziyideshenghuohezhenshishenfen。takenenghuidulimianduixintiaozhanhepanduan。zaicirenshiziwo、zaicizhuixungerenguihuajiushitamenbaituofenshouheiyingdeguanjiansuozai。zheiyiguochengbixutamenzhongxinrenshiziji、zhongshizixin，erqiezaicigoujianqishejiaomeitiheshenghuoshejiaoquan。

　　释放出来拾起随意：

　　suizheshijiantuiyi，nanrenhenvrenmanmankeyishifangchulaiyiwangdeqingxu，shiqisuiyiduli。fenshoujiletayigezhongxinlaiguodehaojihui，tamennenggoudongdexiangshouanjing，zhuixunzijideaihaoyujiqing。congmimangzhongbaituo，takaishizaicifajueshenghuodemeimiaoyugailv。

　　接纳与成长：

　　fenshoubingbudengyuwanbi，ershiyigexindefazhanjieduandekaiduan。nanrenhenvrengenjuzheixiejingli，bujinkeyigenghaodelejiezishen，haikeyichengzhangyuzouxiangchengshu。fenshourangtamengaoqingchuzhenzhengdeaiqingbixuyunyinghefuzhunulide，bingqieyejiaojitamenzainijingzhongjianqiangdixiangqian。

　　nanrenhenvrenfenshouyihouzhuangtai，fenshouzhihoudenanrenhenvrenzongyaojinglizhexintaidebianhuaheneixinshenchudezhengtuo。danshi，fenshouyeshiyizhongjihui，rangtamenhaiyoujihuizhongxinsikaozijideshenghuo，fajueyigexindegailv，fazhanchengweizuihaodeziji。genjujieshouyiwang、shifangchulaiqingxu，tamenkeyishiqisuiyi，jinerdedaozhenzhengdekuaile。