导师精选：跟家人观念不同 这种边界问题要如何处理

　　fenshouhoujinanpengyoufaxinxibuhui，shijishangshiyigeziwobaohudegerenxingwei。zheileiwuhuiyinghuoxushiduilishiguanliandeyizhongjieshu，yizhongyouyizhizaochulaideshuligan。ruguotadaibiaoledajiabuyuanyizaibeishanghai，buyuanyizaishenxianneiyigebeishangdexunhuanxitong，jiuxuanzelechenmowuyan。yexu，yeshiwomenjizijizhaodaoyifenbaituohesuixinsuoyudefangfa，rangwomennenggoucongtoukaishi，weizijideaiqingerhuozhe。

　　fenshouhoudechenmowuyan：sangshiniudaidewuyingoutongjiaoliu

　　表述的必要性

　　zaiyiduanganqingzhong，goutongjiaoliushiweixiguanxideqiaoliang。buguanshihuayanqiaoyuhuoshizhengzhi，doushiweijiqiqingxudegongming。danshi，dangfenkaibianchengweiyidexuanzeshi，qingxufuzahuaershenru。fenshouhoujinanpengyoufaxinxibuhui，yexuyiweizhezhexuduowufayanshuodexintaiyutongku。

　　隐含的心理状态

　　fenshouhouzhuanglongzuoyakenengshiyizhongziwobaohudefangfa。zheileiwuhuiyingbujinshiduiyiwanglianxidejieshu，gengshiyizhongbaohuhaozijidefangfa。tayiweizhedajiabuyuanyizaibeishanghai，buyuanyizaishenxianneiyigebeishangdexunhuanxitong。wuhuiyingdeshuju，chengweilewomenzaicikaiqixinshenghuodeyidaomen。

　　分歧交错

　　danshi，fenshouhoudechenmowuyanyexubingbushizhenzhengdebaituo。shenmaizangzaixindideqingxuhehuiyi，yiranhuifuxianzaiyanqian。chenmowuyanshidesixu，yexushiduiguoqudehuailian，huoshiduiweilaibuquedingxing。zheizhongmaodundexinxu，cushiwuhuiyingdeshujuxiandegengjiabaogui、gengjiajuyouyuyi。

　　自身复建

　　fenshouhoujinanpengyoufaxinxibuhuiyekenengshiweilenengzishenfujianduli。dangzheizhongquedingbuzaiyilaiduifanghuiyingshi，rangwomenyiqilaizhaodaozijideneizaideliliang。zheizhongziwozhongjiandequanguocheng，kenengshitongkuermanzhang，dantahaiweiwomendailailejiyu，yizhanxindemianmaozhenshishenfenzhanshiziji，shenzhichengweigengyouzixinheneixinqiangdaderen。

　　重新定义关联

　　fenshouhoudechenmowuyan，yexushiweilezhongxindingyicongqiandeguanlian。tongguozhudonglakaijuli，womenjiangyaoyiwangdeshangtonghebuyuepaozhinaohou，erburangtahexinwomenderichangshenghuo。zheileizhongxindingyijiyulewomenzhongxinkaishideyongqi，bangwomenxiangzhegengjiajiankanghejijidefangxiangqianjin。

　　沟通的意义

　　suiranfenshouhoujinanpengyoufaxinxibuhuikenengshiyizhongziwobaohudexingwei，dangoutongjiaoliuyijiushichuliwentihetuidongxianghuxinrendeyigezhongyaofangshi。lizhidizuoxia，tanrandibiaodazijideganshouyuxuqiu，yexukeyiweiliangrenzaiwanbiganqingyihouzhaodaoyizhongdiaojiehedegongshi。

　　结束语

　　fenshouhoujinanpengyoufaxinxibuhui，yexuwuyinquepojuyuyi。zheishiqingxu、qinmiwujianhefenlidejiaocuo，shixiangnian、fujianhezhongxindingyideyigeguocheng。buguanchenmobeihouyinzangzheruhexinlizhuangtai，zuizhuyaodeshidangmianduiqingganwentishizhaodaoshuyuzijidepinghenghesuiyi，weiweilaidexingfuerfendou。