花镇精选：女生不该倒追男生的真正原因

　　zaifenshoudetongkuzhong，youyijuanweifenshouderendenuanxinhuashenshendidadongzhetamen。tagaosuwomen，buguanmianqianyouduowufajieshoudetongku，shijiannengjiushiwomenzuihaodebanlv，takeyihuifuwomenzijidejingshenchuangshang。zheihuachuandichuyizhongwenxin，tarangwomenlejie，jinguanfenshoushiyizhongtongku，danshiwomenbuhuiyongyuanchenzuiqizhong。jianxinziji，xiangxinshijian，xiangxinweilaidexingfu，tamenkenengzhonggouwomenderichangshenghuo，dailaigengjiameihaodemingtian。

　　1. 接纳分手的现实的残酷

　　anweifenshouderendenuanxinhua，fenshoushiyizhongcankudeshishi，tarangwomenchengshouleshiwanghetongku。keshi，womenyinggairenqingzheigexianshi，jienafenshousuodailaidetongku。zhiyoudangwomenzhenzhenzhengzhengyingduibingmianduixianshi，dajiacainengjinxingwomenzijidezhiyuzhixing。

　　2. 体会痛苦并宣泄情绪

　　fenshoudailaidetongkubimianbule，womenyinggaijieshouzijiqutiyanzheiyifenshangxin。chouqi、naonu、xinhandouhenzhengchangxinlixianxiang，bubiyizhitamen。shidangxuanxieqingxunengbangzhuwomenjianqingneixinshenchudegongzuoyali，weizijichuangzaojijizhudongdefangshiquyingduifenshou。

　　3. 探寻支持和倾吐

　　zaitongkudeyike，tanxunzhichiheqingtushishifenzhongyaode。heyaohaodepengyouyujiarenfenxiangzijideqingxu，tamenhuitigongnilijieyuguli。yucitongshi，keyikaolvxunqiuzhuanyedexinlifudao，rangzhuanyederenshibangzhuzijifenxiqingkuang、xuanxieqingxu，bingyuyijianshexingjutizhidao。

　　4. 摆脱孤单，拓展社交圈子

　　fenshouhou，wuliganjingchangpumianerlai。danwomenyaojijidibaituogudan，jijiyutarenjiaoliushejiaomeiti。canjiayixieshetuanhuodong、xiuxianhuodonghuozhiyuanfuwuhuodong，jiejiaoxinpengyou。fenxiangjibierenkuaileyujiannan，nengbangzhuwomenjianlixindeshenghuodangzhonglianxihezhongduanruanjian。

　　5. 改变自我，关注成长

　　fenshoushiyigehaojiyuzhongxinshenshiziji，zaicizuohuiziji。zijintourudaozijidefazhanguochengzhong，xuexijineng、zhuixunyigexindexihao，zheiyangkeyirangwomenfengfuzijiderichangshenghuo，tigaozixinxin。gaibianziwo，guanxingerentisheng，bangwomenxunzhaoxinderenwuheshenghuodefangxiang。

　　6. 积极主动面对挑战，维持积极态度

　　jinguanfenshoushitongkudezaoyu，queyeyingdangkanjiantadailaifazhanjiyuziwogaibian。jijizhudongmianduitiaozhan，weichijijitaidu，xiangxinweilailangsongyidingyougenghaodejihuijingjingdedengdaidajia。meiriduizijishuo，tongkuhuiyiwang，dajiahuibiandeyuelaiyuejianqianghewanshan。

　　7. 自我关怀与爱惜

　　fenshouhou，dajiayinggaigengguanxinhezhaoguzishen。zuiwennuandelinyu、yujiajianshen、yueduhaoshuhuozhexiangshouyiciduziyirendelvcheng，zheixiexiaoxiaodexingweidounenggourangwomenganshoudaozijideshiyongjiazhiheneizaizhimei。jizijiyixieshijianyukongjian，shizijimanmanshiqikaixinyuzixin。

　　anweifenshouderendenuanxinhua，buguanfenshoudailaidetongkuyouduomingxian，womenyaojianxinzijiyouchongzudenengliangduguozheiyiduanjianxindemeihaoshiguang。jianxinshijiandeliliang，shitazhujianquanyuwomenzijidetongku。fenshoujinjinrenshengdangzhongyicicuobai，jianxinzijiyehuiyincibiandegengjiachengshu、jianqiangheconghui。