男朋友总是说忙不理我 我该挽回还是该放弃？

　　fenshouhounanrenshuoyaobuchangni，dangliangrendeganqinghuashanglejuhao，fenshouhaoxiangshizaisuonanmiande。danshi，youshi，fenshouyihou，nanrenquechurenyiliaodijijifuwuchengnuoyaobuchangni。zheileibuchangnengshiwuzhishangpeifu，haikeyishijingshencengmiandetianbu。bulunshiyouyukuijiu、neijiu，huozhejiyuduicongqiandeganqingdehuibao，zheileifuwuchengnuohaowuyiwenhuidaoneixingouhuachuyisizhuanjideqidai。danshi，womenyeyinggaigaoqingchu，buchangbunengwanquanmibusangshidekongbai，tazhishiyizhongjiejinquanlikefudefangfa，danzhenzhengdequanyuhaiyaoshijianchendianhexinlingshenchudeziwoliaoyu。

　　一 意料之外的补偿

　　fenshouhounanrenshuoyaobuchangni，zheisihushiyichangyiwai。niyijingzuohaojienafenshoudezhunbeigongzuo，yiliaozhezaigaobiedeshikehuitingdaoyijubukewanhuizhiqian。danshi，chuxianleshinilingrenjingyadezhuangkuang，nanrenzhudongyaoqiuyaojiyuniyixiebuchang。zheiyeshirangrenjingxiyouyihuodebianhua，shinikaishikaolv，zheiyinanrenjiujingzaibuchangnishenme？

　　二 补偿的方式

　　buchangdefangshijuyouduoyuanxing。takeyishiwuzhishangpeifu，birujiyuniyibijinqian、zhenzangdewujian，huoshifukuanyibufenyinweifenshouerchanshengfeiyong。zheizhongbuchangdemudeshiweileniyizhizaijingjishangzhanjuyidingdeyoudian，tianbuyixiesunhai。ciwai，buchanghaikeyishijingshencengmiandetianbu。nanrenkenengqingtuziyidekuijiuheneijiu，shituyongjingshencengmiandedadaolaidiaojiezijineixindewaishang。

　　三 愧疚与回报

　　weihenanrenhuizhudongyaoqiubuchang？kuijiuhuoxushiyigeguanjianxingdeyuangu。dangyiduanganqingzoudaozuihoushi，nanrenyexuhuifanshengzijizaizheiduanganqingzhongshiyandejiaose，xiangqizijicengjingdelengdan、taobizerenhuoshishangguonideshi。yiner，yingduifenshouzheiyishishi，neixinshenchudeneijiuhezizeposhitamenfuzhuxingdong，shituyongbuchanglaidiaojieziyideguoshi，weicihuibaoyiqianbeishanghaideren。

　　四 补偿的局限性

　　suirannanrenshuoshiyaobuchangni，danbuchangbunengwanquanmibusangshidekongbai。zheileibiaotaifayansuodailaideqidaijirongyibeiguodulixiang。xiangduilaishuo，buchangzhishiyizhongwuzhihuojingshencengmiandetianbu，wufazhenzhengpingfuneixinshenchudewaishang。weiyouzijijiena、zhiyuyuchengzhang，zaikongjiandeguochengdangzhong，fangkezhujianzouchuyinying。

　　五 彻底改变补偿

　　fenshouhounanrenshuoyaobuchangni，huoxushiyizhongchedigaibianbuchangdexingshi。buchangbuzaijuxianyuwuzhihuibao，bianbuzaijinxianqingganshangdedadao。tagengshiyizhongduiguoqudesisuohesikao，duiganqingzunzhongyuhuibao。genjubuchang，nanrenchangshizaizheiyifenshoujiedian，jiyunigengduofuweiheguanhuai，zhanshichutaxinlingshenchudeqianjiuyuxinyuan。

　　六 补偿与平衡

　　buchangzaiganqingzhongshiyandejiaosehaositianpingdeliangduan，wuyijinanrendailaileyizhongneixinshenchudejunheng，yejinizaifenshouzhihoudeyixiekuanwei。tahuoxumeifazhonggouyuanxiandeganqing，dannengbianchengtamenzhijiandeyigexianjie，yibiangenghaodimianduiweilaiderichangshenghuo。

　　fenshouhounanrenzhudongyaoqiuyaobuchangni，zheizhongxingweijiyixiangbudao，yourangrenkunhuo。danshi，zaizheiyangdeqingkuangzhong，womenyexuyingdanghuanyigejiaoduqurenzhihejieshouzheiyibuchangdechuxian。zheishinanrenkuijiu、huibao、guanaihefuweideyizhongbiaoshu，gengshiduiyiwangganqingdezhongxinshenshihechanshi。buguanzheiyibuchangdailailenazhongfangshidejunheng，tadouzhidewomenyongbaoronghelejielaihuiying。