老公出轨了怎么沟通？如何和丈夫良好沟通？

laogongchuguilezenmegoutong？fuqixiangchulibulegoutongjiaoliu，fuqiganqinggoutongjiaoliuzhiguanzhongyao。helidefufugoutongdejiqiao，youliyugaijinfuqiganqing，yeshihunyinshenghuoderunhuaye。youqishizainidehunyinshenghuoli，danglaogongyouwaiyu，“goutongjiaoliu”jiugengweishiyimenbujiandandejishuhuole。laogongchuguibianxinlezenmeban ？yijuwojin２０nianlaisuocongyezaoshouhunwailiandehunyinwanjiugongzuozhong。jinri，bangdahuoerhaohaodihuizonglehechuguidenanren“haohaodi”jianghuade１２gezhao，jianxinshinenggoubangdaozhuweizhengshilaopodeba……

第一招：还记得用语言表达来爱的表达和感谢。

laogongchuguilezenmegoutong？henduorendoujuedewoduiwoduinideai，tayingdanglejiea！woxiangta，tayingdanglejiea。woganxieta，tayingdangkeyijuededaoa！kejieguoshizheizhong“yingdang”tayemeiyoujuededao，yebuzhidao。fufubenbianshilaiyuanyubuyiyangjiatingfenweixiade，duiyixieshierdeguandian，hanyouzishenjiazhongdeyinhen，bingqieliangxingdechabie，yeshiwomenbicizhijianyagenbutaikenengshishikekedoushihuixiangdeyiyang。yinciganxie，huoshiai，sheidoubingbushiyingdanghuijuededaode。zhishibixuyifangqingxidebiaoxianchulai。xuduoqingkuangxiabiaoxianchulaidoubuyidinglejiede，hekuangshibuyongshuoni？

wolejieyiduifuqi，laogonghenyouqu，youqiaizhizelaopo。laopoyinciyouqiyouqidekunao，juedezishenruheyidianyoushidoumeiyouni？zhihouwomenyiqixianliao，woxunwenlaogong：“weiheninlaozhizetani？nintaoyantama？”laogonghuiying：“woweishenmehuibuxihuantani？tajiushiwozheiyishengjianguodezuihaoshidenvxing，keshijiaruwobuhuizhizeta，taruhegenggaitadequexianyuelaiyuegengqiangni？woyinweiaiqingta，．woguidinggengyankede。”zheijianzhiqingzhishenhenzhiqiea！yinweiaiqingta，qidaitagengqiang，caiyaozhizeta，danshilaogongmeiyoushuochulaiyiqian，laopohaiyiweizheiyilaogongminganduoyini？yinciyidingshuoqichuqu，youqishizishendeai，zishenweilingyifanghaodekaolvdao，zishendeganxie，buyongshuochuqu，lingyifangbuqingchu，naizhizaochengwujie，duiqingganyounaxiehaochunini？shuochulaiba，buguanshenmeshiqing，zhixushuochulai，baifangzaizhuomian，huoxuhuizhengzhi，keshishuochulaiyihou，jiumeiyoubunengchulideni？hekuangzhenai，shiganxieni？

第二招：切不可主观臆断的觉得他了解或搞清楚

rendoushiyouyizhongquxiang，bianshiduilejiedeqidaizhiguogao，zaihunyinguanxizhongtebieshizaizheiban。wochupengguodeyiduifuqi，lianggerenjiehunshinianle，laopolaoshuo，womingbaitaruhexiangde，woliantaxiangshuoshenmehuadoulejie。erlaogongqueyulaiyujianmo，weihe？youyulaogongyouzishendeniantou，erlaopoyouziyiweishidejuedezishenzhangwolaogong，jiarulaogongjiangchuzishendeniantou，bianhuihelaopochanshengzhengzhi，yincilaogongtiaoxuanleyigejiaoweiyouyidefangshi——jianmo。

biemorenshezhiweihuichuxianxinyoulingxi，jiusuanniyoushiqueshijuededaotadecunyou。bubimorenshezhiweidajiadepinweitongyang。taohaonideairengaohaodefangshi，shiranglingyifangjuedenishiqianbingbulejietadeniantou。jiarutadehuidayunigouxiangdebuyizhi，bubizuochuwuliaodebiaoqing，fangfotadeyiqiedoujinzainidecaokongdangzhong，yaoranglingyifangjiandaonideyukuai，youyudajiayougongxiangleyigemimi。

第三招：先会聆听ＴＡ，再规定ＴＡ聆听自身。

zaihunyinshenghuozhizhong，womenkeyijiandaoxuduojianmodeairen。zixunquanguochengzhongwofaxianle，daozhineiyangdebuliangyingxiangyibanshiyinweijianmodenayifangzaiyuyanbiaodadekangzhengzhongbeijibaile，yincibiancaiyonghuxianglaiwangdexianxingzhengce。yinci，bubigoutongjiaoliuyuguosheng，yifangnideyanjiangbianweiyichangfengbao，cuihuiyanxiadeyiqie。

第四招：爱沒有对与错胜负，沒有必需争吵时非得想有优势

xuduofufu，zaipengdaozhengzhideqingkuangxia，feidebiangeduiyucuo，lungeshengfu。ganqingzhengzhidequanguochengzhongnaliyoudayingjiaa！zaizhengshengfudequanguochengzhong，shijishangdajiadoushudiao。youyuwangdiaozuikaishigoutongjiaoliudemudile，doumeiyouzuodaoyugudegoutongjiaoliushijixiaoguo。bingqierichangshenghuodeshierxuduoquanshishimeifachuli，meiyouduiyucuode。yincipengdaojianyibufuhe，genairenshuoyiliangjumianmianbujuenuanxinqinghua，xiangyixianghuligongyingdejiejuefangan，biwujiezhidezhengzhiduiyucuo，shengfuyaoxuduole。jiazhongyoubushifayuan，fufuyoubushixingshibianhulvshihedafaguan。

第五招：夫妻之间莫玩权利游戏。

“niweishenmeyizhibuhewoshuohua？”

缄默。

“shibushinifanwole？”

“沒有！”

“neiniweishabuliwo？shifouwofancuoshenmele？”

“nihenqingxizishendouganlenaxie！”

zheileishoujiyouxinenggoubuduangebuwanmeiyoule。tiwenderenqidaigaijinyixiarichangshenghuo，chenmoderenquebuyuanzuochuhuifu。youyuzheigewentiweihaidaoganqingdegaoya。bulunshitiwenderenhuoshichenmoderendouxiangzaiganqingguanlianzhongzuoshishizhe，jieguoquezaochengleerrendeshuyuan。jiusuanbeizishendeairenxiedai，yebuyongqubiaoshuzishendegaoya，zhishizhengpandejieshouhezhongshi，zheiyiquanlizhizhandangranjiubaituole。jiaruyiyanhaiyan，nenggouweihubaoyangzishenxinlidechonggao，keshiqueganzoulerichangshenghuodewennuan。zhenzhengdeaiqingbicizhijiandezhongshiheyuanliang，gongpingcaihuiyingzaoshuangying。

第六招：尽量减少表述负面情绪

kaixindeshikaixindeshierheairengongxiang，buyukuaideshier，youqishiairendailainidebuyukuai，keqianwanbiexinzhikoukuaishixiabianshuochuqu。jiarumeijiasikaojiuxieloulezishendexintai，zhihouniyidinghuijizijidehuajuedehouhuimoji。huoshi，jiusuannihengaoxingneishihoujianglezheixiehua，erqieganjuelingyifang“jiuyouziquzheiban”，danshiruguonifajuelianggerendeguanlianzaoshouleweihaideqingkuangxia，niyehuiweineishihouchanshengdeshierjuedexiaochen。yijianyifuchuandehenjiule，mianliaohuibianruanhuoshishidamolandong，qingganyeshineiyang，taiduodefumianqingxuhuizaochengqinggandexiaoshi，zaishendeqinggan，yemeifachengshoufumianqingxudefushi。yincijinkenengrangzishenjudongqiadang，fangzhiguohouhuihen。

ruguonijuedenanguoxiaochen，qingtingliuyihuier。jiaruneng，denghouzishenzaicijingxiaxinlai。rangwenzhongbingfeixingfendexintailaihexinjushi，neiyang，nijiangbianchengneixinshenchushizhongdezhuzaizhe。sixuningjingdeqingkuangxia，ninengchuandichuxinlizhenzhenzhengzhengsuogan，jiusuantayanzangzaiyishidexiaochenxia。neiyang，jishinirengranyuanyanchixu，nideairenzhixuchongzulingminhuoshikeyijuededaoniyucitongshiyezaishuo：“wozhendehenaini。”

第七招：学好一起享有缄默

fufuhenduonian，youyixieqingkuangxiadequequefahuatitaolun。jianmoyejiuyingshiersheng。rangjianmobianweiyizhonggoutongjiaoliufangfa，bingfeizhishishijiaotanzhongdejianduan。xuezheyongnibijiaomingandexinlilaitanxunairendeneixinshijie。aihuizaihemudejingmeizhonghuodetisheng。

第八招：留意自身的语气

naonuhuizhishengdaixiroubengjin，eraizehuizhizhisongchi。qinjin，fengqu，zihao，jiqing，jiemen，chanruo，qiangyouli，quanbuzheizhong，yeyoubiededaliangdexintai，doushihuimashangfanyingweixiangshengdezhuanbian。jiarunimeiyouzhuyidaozheizhongweixiaodequbie，xiayiciherengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxianenggouliuyiyixia。genggaifayandeyindiao，ninengfeichangrongyididiaozhengfumianxinxixintai。fayandeyindiaoyizhikeyifanyingrendejingshenshizhiheganqingqingkuang，qingjilao，jianghuadeyuqihesuoshuodeneirongyiyangguanjian。

第九招：学好用双眼讲话

shuangyanshixinlingdechuanghu。keyanshuoming，meiriduiwang１５fenzhongdejiazhong，bimeiyouduishidejiazhongzhenduixingfukuailedetihuiduyaogao７０％。rangmuguangbianchenggoutongjiaoliuyuyanbiaodadeyibufen。genjuyanhualaishifangdongneng，ziran，jiushiniyaoxiangchuandidedongneng。gaozhinideshuangyan，nixuyaotacanjiajinqubiaoshuniquanbujijizhudongzhengliandejuede。

第十招：对爱人的期待符合实际

bubijixiwangyuairenqiaruqifen，renmenyushengjulaijiuyouquehan。jienaairenyuanbendemoyang，buyaozaixiangxiangzhongdajianlingyigeta。jinyourenqingxianshi，mianduixianshi，dajiacaihuihaiyoujihuibangzhubierenziwowanshan。

第十一招：让文明礼貌变成表述的自然属性

dajiayizhijiangwenminglimaodangzuoyizhong“renjijiaowangfangfa”，juedezijirenneimalejiele，jiubuyongzhongshiwenminglimaole。keguanshishibingfeizheiban。zhenzhenzhengzhengdewenminglimaoshiyizhonglijiedebiaoshi。wenminglimaoshiyizhongzhongshidebiaoshu，erzhongshizezhenaideguanjiancengmian。zhenduizishenshenaideren，tebieshizaibixuwenminglimaoyixie。

第十二招：慢一点闹脾气，快一点宽容别人

zaiwojiameiyigerendoushiyouzishendechunmianmaojin，yitianwochajuezijidechunmianmaojinbujianle，feichangfeichangdefahuo，youyujiazhongjinyoulaoxianshengmeiyouyongzishenchunmianmaojindexiguanxing，wohuomaosanzhang，fengdaleiting。kuangfengbaoyuyihou，caizhidaotabadajiadechunmianmaojindouxile。wohuihendebuhao。jiaruwonengmanyidiannaopiqi，gaoqingshierdeshiqing，jiuburongyineiyangle。haixing，wozheirenjiaoweilinghuo，fajuehoulikezhiqian，zheiyijianshieryesuanzuoyiwang。

dajiadeyantanjuzhijingchangyouhenchongzudeyuanyin，yinciwomenzainaopiqiqian，zuihaoshijiashezishendeairenshikeliande。jiarunijuedebiequernumuxiangxiang，zuizhongquefajueshizishenduishierfenbianbuzhengque，neima，qingmashangrenkezishendebuzhengque。shizhongdoububizhizhedekeshouyigebuzhengque，suihouyicuozaicuo。

ciwai，laogongchuguibianxinlezenmeban ？dangairenchangshitianbuzishendeguocuodeqingkuangxia，qingjinninenggouqutixuta。jiangnuhuodangzuogunzichixuhuidong，huojiangzishenguozaizenghendepifengdoupengli，xiangdangyubalianggerendeqingganchushoujinuqi，erzheiyifennuqi，chukaibaliangrenshaodeshanghenleilei，haiyounaxiehaochunini？