男人出轨了，咋办？发现男友出轨怎么办

 jinqiyouhenduowangminbangwoliuyanbanliuyan，shuozishenzaoshoulechuguinanren，henbenkui，yinggaizenmeban？faxiannanyouaimeicongmingzuofashishenmeni？shijishangzaixuduojiazhongzhizhong，youhenduonansheng，zishenbenlaichuguile，querengranzhenzhenyouci，yidianyebuhuigai，naizhitamenhaixiangdaodayipa，“wobianweineiyang，quanshinihaide。”faxiannanyouchuguizenmeban？chuguidenanrenhainengyaoma？wulunshizhangfuhaishinanyouchuguiyaozenmezuoni？nvrenyaozenmeyingduicaishizhengquedeni？faxiannanyoupituizhengquezuofayounaxie？

 jiarunidexinnianbuzujiandingbuyi，feichangrongyishouzheilei“wucuobanlun”he“beihailun”deweihai，shenxianbuzhengquederenzhinenglizhong。

一、遭受外遇后的3种不正确认知能力

1.doushiyouyuwozuodebutaihao，tacaihuiwaiyu

 chuguinanrenhou，tongchangbuyuanyicongbenshenzhaoyuangu，baquanbudeyiwudoutuidaolaopodeshenshang。rangzhangfuzishenqujiejuehedisanzhedeguanlian

shousidisanzhedeshier，nibuyaocanyu，rangzhangfuzishenqujiejuehedisanzhedeguanlian。

 conghunyinxinlixuedeshijiaokanlai，wangwanghuifashenghunhouchugui，shiyouyuniyunizhangfuzhongjianfashenglenanti。keshilingyifangni，burongyijiejuezheizhongnanti，zhinengbazhuanzhuliqianyidaodisanzhedeshenshang，laijianqingliangshijiandegongzuoyalihejiaolvbuan。zheijiushixinlizhiliaogaoshoumorui.baoen(murraybowen)suomingquetichudejiazhongsanjiaoguanxi(familytriangulation)：jigenjudisanzhedeganyuerqianyiliangrenzhongjiandemaodun。

yincinikankan，disanzheshizaochengfuqiganqingpoliedeyuanguma？bingbushide，disanzheshifuqiganqingpoliedejieguo。

 dangzaoshouhunyinpoliedeqingkuangxia，danchunnaxiadisanzheshimeiyouyongde，youyuniyebuzhidaoshifouhuiyeyouxiaosi、xiaowu、xiaoliuyoumaolechuqu。

ninengyingyongtuilamenjishuxing，shinidezhangfuzishenqujiejuegendisanzhedeguanlian。

tui：fourenlingyifang，genjutucao、dajidengfangfa，tuiyuangenlingyifangdejianju。

 liru，womenkeyigenjushehuifazhanzhongduanruanjianlaiyinqilingyifangdefenlijiaolvzheng。xiangqinren、qinpenghaoyou、penyou、pengyoudeng，zheizhongdoushuyunideshehuifazhanzhongduanruanjian。ninengduitashuo，“jiazhongdelaonianrendouzheimedanianjile，jiarulejieniwaiyuzheijianshiqing，rentishoubuchidexiao？”“jiaruqiyedelingdaoganbuzhidao，ruhekanni，shifouhuiweihainidegongzuoa？”

la：haowuyiwenlingyifang，genjuchengzan、haowuyiwendengfangfa，lajingenlingyifangdeguanlian。

shidujilingyifangyixiefuwei，changshiqulejielingyifang，jilingyifangyixiejiliheshiyong。

 faxiannanyouaimeicongmingzuofashishenmeni？zhongguotaiwanzuojiaxuchangdetijiguoyigedingyi：ruguonidelingyibanwaiyushi，nixuyaozuodebingbushizaitazhengduimian，zhishiyaogentatongyibian。yongwenwantongyangdefangfakandaita，dangtayuwaibianlingyirenzhengchao，bianhuixiangdaonidehao。