倘若老公变心出轨了，如何真正地原谅？

 nanrenbianxindebiaoxianyounaxie？zhangfuchuguigaizenmeban：duinvshengeryan，xunzhaoyigeyizhongrenshiyibeidedashier，nvpajiacuolang。jiaruzhaodaoyigehaodejiezhu，neimaqimanenggoushuxin。jiaruolaogongyouwaiyu，zenyangcongxinlizhenshidikuanrong?yaoxiangdajiagangzaiyiqishineiyangxinlai，kuanrongta。

大家都会说，即使情投意合了还会有裂缝，创口好啦也会留有疤痕。无论是什么东西要是遭受过损害就难以再返回原先的模样，那麼内心呢?人的心被伤后还能修复如初见吗?

 duinvshengeryan，xunzhaoyigeyizhongrenshiyibeidedashier，nvpajiacuolang。jiaruzhaodaoyigehaodejiezhu，neimaqimanenggoushuxin。jiaruolaogongyouwaiyu，zenyangcongxinlizhenshidikuanrong?yaoxiangdajiagangzaiyiqishineiyangxinlai，kuanrongta。

一，我们要在心态状态上从处于被动的接纳变成积极的宽容。

 jianghuizhangfuchugui，duidajiameiyigereneryanduoduoshaoshaodedouzaoshoulesunhai，zaixinzhongmianbuleyouyidiandezenghen。ruguowomenzaixinzhongzaoyijitamenpanlesihuanneimayouzennengcongneixinyuanliangni。womenyaozaixinzhongshangjijidequyuanliang，xiaxiangyixiedajiayiqianzaiyiqidehao，xiangdangniantashiduomededeguanzhuni，aihuni，weinishiruhedebuguyiqie，xiaxiangyixietadehao，jinkenengbubixiangtadewaiyu，neimaneiyangxintaizhuangtaishangqimabaozhenglemeiquhenta，xiangyaojitamenyicizishen，jianjiandidequyuanliang。

二，终究这类事儿对一个女人而言严厉打击也是很大的。

 womenyaoduoweizijiyixieshijian，jianghuidajiayishibanhuishiwufajienade，zheigeshihoudajiabubizheji，qianwanbiezaifahuodeqitoushangdeqingkuangxia，hefeichangnanguodeqingkuangxiaxiajuece，youyuneiyangdejuecedengzhenipingjingxialaileyihouniyidinghuihouhuimoji。yinci，womenyaoduorangwomenzishenduoyidianshijian，rangzishenjianjiandidepingjingxialai，zhidaoyibuzenghenhefahuodeqingkuangxia，zaikanyixiataniyejiuburongyineimadehenle。zhongjiutashiyaopeiniduguoguoyibeiziderena，jinguanyishizuocuoshi，danshiyuyibeiziduibiqueshishitaiduanzanxingle，debuchangshi。jibulixing，yehuabulaia。jiusuanshitianshangyeyoushihouyoulianyinyudeqingkuangxia，genghekuangshiren?

三，学好自身疏导，自身激励，自身说动自身。

 chuguinanren，nvxinggaizenyangpingfuxinqing?rutongdajiameiriqilaiduizhejingzixiaorong，erqiegaozhizishenwozuibangyiyang，dajiadexintaizhuangtaiyizenghenzhangfuchuguizheiyixiangfamaochuyihou，dajiajiugaozhizishenyaokuanrongzhangfu，gaozhizishenzhangfujianghuijinjinyishideqingmi，yishichongdonghereqing，zhangfudexintaizhuangtaishijishanghuanshihenaizhenide。neiyangdexintaianshizishen，zhangciyiwangniyejiunengpingfuxinqing，shuodongzishen。rutongxinbingruwuhaixuxinyaoyi，yuanyiyouniweizhi，neimayezhiyouyounierjiaomie。

四，有时什么事都不做比成全都会来的合理。

 nanrenbianxindebiaoxianyounaxie？nixuyaobaozhengbuhendoubukuanrong，ruguonibaozhengbuzenghendeqingkuangxianeimashengyudejiujiaodaoshijian，ninengfajuenibujinbuhenlebingqieyekuanrongle。dajiabuyuanyizhibazenghenfangzaixinshang，yaoshishijianguodejiule，danhualedajiadezheifenguzhijijian，neimashengyudebianshibeishijiandejingtaohailangqingxiliuyoudeqingliang。rengjiuderichangshenghuo，rengrandeguanxintitie，ninengfajuenizaojiuxiguan。