老公出轨闺蜜,我该怎么办？

zhangfuchuguiqizizenmeban？liuyanbanliuyanzhe“yuzhongmanbu”，shushuozishendebeiju：jinqitaouranfaxianzhangfuchugui，erzhangfuchuguidemubiaojuranbianshitashidehaoguimi。tahezhangfuyoukuyounao，zhangfulishishuozishenshiyishihulihutu，zhihouyaoheguimiduanjuelianluo。

tashuoganjuezishenzaoshouleshuangxiangpanbian，neixinfeichangbushufu，tabuqingchuzishenyinggaizenmeban，shierfashengle，ruguotayaozhizeyigeren，tayingdangxianmashei?

wojiang：liangrendougaima，zheihaowuyiwenyiqiezhengchang。danniyoumeiyouxiangguo，weiheshierhuifazhanqushidaozheiyibu?zhangfuchuguiguimi，zheizhengzhongjianyouduoshaojiyu，jiushinizaibangtamenshengchanzhizaode?niyizhizaizheiquanguochengzhong，shifoudiuqilezuoweiyigenvrenyingdangyoudejichujingxinggan?

“zhangfuchuguiguimi”，tingqilaihengouxueju，keyaoshinvxingshifangyalisongxie，naizhiqianyishijitachuanqiaodaxian，jitashengchanzhizaojiyu，neiyangdeshi，chanshengqilaiqueshiyefeichangrongyi。

zheishiqingnenggoufenlierdianeryan：yishizhangfuchugui;ershichuguiguimi。

zhangfuchuguiguimi,wonengzuoshenme?

zhengchangqingkuangxiajiang，haiyoujihuinanshengdoushiwaiyu

先说出轨男人的难题。

shizhongbubixiangxinnanrenyingduimeimaodezikongnengli。

woyougepengyouxiaoc，feichangwenrouhaokan，tazhangfupingchangyekanshangquhanhoulaoshi，juedeshigehenkekaodenansheng，xiaofuqiyizhidouhenxiangai。danshisheidoumeiyouxiangqi，wanhundisannian，tazhangfujuranjiuchulegui，hejintaqiyelideyigenvjianxishengfashengleguanxi。

xiaocyuanbenduitazhangfuhenxinlai，duitazaiwaibianrenjijiaowangjiaojijihuwulunbutan，tashuodaonaxietadouchedijianxin。wodouyiqiantishiguota：“nizhangfurujinkaigeqiye，zhuanledianqian，yesuanzuoshiyechenggongle，zhibudingshiduoshaorendaodanizheishangpinzhangfudexiangfa，niyitianduitawulunbutan，queshiduitaneimeanxinma?”

xiaocshuo：“zheiyounaxiebuanxinde?tabanshijinxiaoshenwei，yemeinagedanliangtoushiwaiyuya。”

keshi，tashimeidanliangjijiwaiyu，kebierenjijisonghuoshangmenlai，tabuyidingyouzikongnengli，nengzhangquanshoudelea。henagechuanzhedabandeenaduozidenvjianxishengchangchangjiaowang，bierenruguoyouyigouyinni，nikeyiquebaonizhangfushizuohuaibuluandeliuxiahuima?

zheijuhuaneishihoumeijiangguochurukou，zhihouxiaochouhuibuyi，gaosuwo：“wozhenshihouhuimojineishihoumeitingnidehuaa。”

doushuo“nanrenshixiabanshensikaodexiaodongwu”，zheijuhuashuodehuanshiyoudianerdadaoli。

以前听过一个学心态学的盆友说，从进化心态学而言，一个滥情好色的男人，会出现大量的繁殖机遇，在沒有合理避孕方法和小产技术性的远古传说，理论上他产下的子孙后代会大量。伴随着时间流逝，这一社会发展上滥情好色的男人，肯定是占大部分的。针对一个男人而言，沒有外在的拘束，这类天性随时就会有将会显现出来。

ernvxingdejingxinggan，bianshinenggourangnanshengzhuyaobiaoxiandeguidinglaoshibajiaodejushu。danyebushishuoyitiandaowanbazhangfudangzuifanyiyangzhaokanzhe，zhishishuo，nvxingchediqianquejingxinggan，duinanshengwulunbutan，nanshengjiufeichangrongyidandawangwei。

让老公和闺蜜维持需有的间距

“yuzhongmanbu”zishendexiaogushi，hennengbiaomingnanti。

tadehaoguimishitadedaxuetongxue，xiangyuyihou，yongcan、shouke、chumenguangjiegouwu，doushiyiqixingdong，chedizhandaoyiqi。juedenideshiwode，wodebianshinide，zaoyixiangqinzimeiyiyangbufenbici。

gongzuozhongletamenhuanshizaitongyizuochengshi，guiminanpengyouhuanleyigeyouyige，meiyigedoukanshangyan;ertahenzaoxiangqinyuehuilejielerujindezhangfu，xunsudinglechulai，lijijiubenzhewanhunlaidao。

kanhaoguimiyigerenpiaobozaidachengshiyuxinheren，taduihaoguimijiufeichangzhaoliao：haoguimizhaogongzuonan，tarangzhangfushiyongguanlian，banghaoguimijinlezhangfudeqiyeligongzuozhong;haoguimipengdaobutaihaojiejuedenandian，tarangzhangfuqubangzhuchuli;sangerenchangchangzaijialijuhui，tazaiwaimiangenxiaohaiwan，ranglaogongheguimizaichufangzuofan;haoguimiruguoxinqingyumen，huipaodaotajiazhonglaizhu，yizhubianshishilaitian。

zhangfuchuguiqizizenmeban？jiushizheiyang，haoguimichedijinruletaderichangshenghuodangzhong，naizhilaogongheguimijiaowangdeshijian，bihetajiaowangdeshijianhaizhanghaiduo。doushuoyao“anquanfangfanfangguimi”，bufangyehaole，fanerguihaitamenshengchanzhizaolezheimeduojiyu，zheijianzhishadaozhijile。

为什么不可以让好闺蜜过多干预到自身的日常生活里?为什么不可以对好闺蜜心存侥幸?

缘故非常简单：

diyi，zhenduinansheng，haoguimiyunijianghuiyouleisidekougan。

sanguanbuhe，nanyizuopengyou;huangejiaodulaikan，yaozuohaoguimi，sanguanyingdangjiaoweileisi。yinci，zhenduinansheng，yejianghuiyongyou  leisidekougan，nishangpinzhedeneigeren，yejianghuigengshitaandilichuixiandezhonglei。

第二，社会心态学上“找对象拷贝效用”的危害。

zai“zhaoduixiangkaobeixiaoyong”degongxiaoxia，nidehaoguimikanjiannihunyinshenghuoxingfukuaile、jiatinghexie，zheileikaimodechushi，huijinidehaoguimi，juedehenizhangfuneiyangdenansheng，caisuanshilixianghuadeairen。

第三，给好闺蜜出示了乘虚而入的将会。

haoguimifeichangrongyilejienihunhoushenghuozhonggezhonggeyangwuguanjinyaodeguanjiandian，tanenggouyoulenideyoushi，ermeinizheixiezhangfukanbushangdequexian，yunyonghaogezhonggeyangxiaojiyu，tachedinenggoutidaidiaonidebuwei。

henanshengneileihaoxiongdiqingyibuyiyang，guanlianzaitiezaiqinmiwujian，tongchangyeshiyouyidingdeshuyuan。haoguimizhongjiandeyouqing，nianhuhuhuhu，jingchangqianquejiexiangan，xianghuzhijiancanyulingyifangderichangshenghuoguoduo。eryidanranghaoguimichedijinjunniderichangshenghuo，bianshizaiwuxinliweitashengchanzhizaojiyu。

人的本性比情感更靠谱

yexushidajianvxing，jingchangguodulixing，xuduo qingkuangxiatouyunmuxuannaoreqilai，jiukandilerendebenxingdezhiliangba。

nanrenshuozhehuayanqiaoyu，shuoxieshenme“cishengjiuaizheniyige”，dajialekaihua，ganjuequeshihuidijiutianzhang、xingfuyisheng;heguiminianhuhuhuhu，xianghuzhijiantanlulemimi，meirigongxiangleshangxinxiyue，xiangyouzheneileishouhoudejuede，jiuzhujianmohubuqingmeiledajiaheguimizhongjiandejiexian。

dajiaxiangxinnanrendezhongchenghefuwuchengnuo、jianxinhaoguimideshiyongheyouqing，zaitamenyanqianxiediaoyanzanghetifang，yinciganqingxiuluoshenlekeguan，queganghaowangdiaotamenzaiaiwomen，zaishiyongdajia，ketamenyeshipingpingchangchangderen，doushiyouzishenyanmaizaizuishenchuderendebenxinganmian。

yuechengshunvren，yuehuijianxinrendebenxingyoutadejuxianxing，zhenduinanshengyeba、haoguimiyeba，yebuhuichedichenmiyuqingganzhong，erwangdiaocangtianshangcidajiadekeguannengliang。

zhangfuchuguiqizizenmeban？yinci，“zhangfuchuguiguimi”，mawantamen，siwantamenyihou，shengyugaizenmezuo，mingbailema?