发现丈夫有外遇聪明的办法

　　faxianzhangfuyouwaiyuzuicongmingdebanfa，danshihenduoshihou，chulihunwailianbingbushihennan，ruguonibaliyubiyunanrenfenxizhihou，taxuanzelelangzihuitoudejilvshixiangdangdade，zhenzhenzhengzhengnanjiunanzaihuiguihoudeganqingxiufu。

　　waiyuzheijianshiqingjinvrenzaochengdeshanghaishiwuketidaide，yincilaogongchuguihuiguizhihou，xuduolaopoxinliyeyouyidaomaibuguoqudekan，texiangzaiciyutaguorizi，danshitadeyiyanyixingyizhirangrenjuede。

　　jiaruxinliyizhiwangbudiao，neitongkujiubukeyicongxinkaishi，waiyuzheijianshiqingjiuhuichengweizharutamenzhijiandeyigenci，jiguobuhao，yelibukai。suoyinanrenhuiguizhihou，xiufuguanxizhiguanzhongyao，neijutiyaozenmezuoni?

　　1、懂得自我反思，寻找存在的问题

　　jirantachuguile，neimeshuomingnimenzhijiandeganqingchulewenti，yincixiufudiyibujiushiyaobalianggerenzhijiancunzaidewentixunzhao。

　　laogongchugui，kanshangququanbuzijidecuodoutashenshang，zheiduanganqingchuxianwentidezhuyaozerenzai，danshuoshihua，hunyinshenghuochuxianwentile，neiniyeyidingyaofuyibufenzhizede。

　　ziran，mengmengdazheimeshuojuebushibananrenchuguidenantijiutuidaonishenshangle，fanershiwoxiangrangnizhidao，zaizheiduanganqingzhong，niyouzuochulaidebuzudedifang，nizhinengkanjianzijidenanti，cainengzhenzhengdequchulishiqing。

　　2、解决受害者思维，千万别去提过去

　　dangwaiyunanrenhuiguijiatingyihou，henduojiemeizaiyunanshengchaojiashi，wangwangxihuanchennianjiushi，jiangtawaiyudeshierfanchu，kanshangqushizaishuochuzijidebiequ，zheshirangzishenshuangkuaileyiba，keshishishangzheiyeshixiubulushangdeyijihui。

　　mengmengdazhidaotebieweiqu，keshinidezuofahenrongyishitadeneijiuxiaotui，shenzhihaikenengdaozhitadefasansiwei，jiangwentiquantuidaonishenshang：“shiyinweinineiyang，wocaihuiwaiyu，sheihuiyuanyimeitianyingduizheiyangde?”

　　yincitiguoquzheijianshishiyizhonghenbuhaodexianxiang，yebuliyufuqiguanxidexiufu。ruguonizongshiqutidaotawaiyudeshier，bingyongzheijianshiqingtuxiannishouhaizhezhenshishenfen，buduandiquzeguaita，jibianzheiyouhaohaohenixiubudetaidu，yehuibeinijifanifanxinli，suoxingpoguanposhuai，kenenghuidaozhitazaicichugui。

　　3、创建有效沟通

　　nanshenghunhouchugui，zaochenghunyinshenghuochuxianfengxi，zheiwangwangshibicizhijiandecuxindayi。womingbainifeichangtongku，buguojirannixuanzeyuanliang，zaicizheiduanganqing，neimejiubunengrangzijiyizhichenjinyukunanzhong，womenyaonulixiubudajiahunyinlidefengxi，jinzaobazheidaokanmaiguoqu。

　　goutongjiaoliujiushiyigehenhaodeyigefangfa。youxiaogoutongkeyibangzhudajiachuliyiqianhunyinlicunzaideyixiewuhui，hainenggoujiaqiangxianghuzhijiandelianluo，youyiyuaiqingdexiubu。

　　birushuo，dajiayouyutachuguizhengzhiyihou，ruguoxianghuzhijianbingmeiyouyouxiaogoutong，neiwentiyeyizhicunzai，naizhiyuelaiyuejilie。

　　faxianzhangfuyouwaiyuzuicongmingdebanfa，danruoshidajiayoushangliangle，nijiangzijineixintihuigentashuole，yezhanzaitadejiaoduqukaolvnanti，neimetashifouyehuichangshizhezhanzainiguandian，lailijienideqingxu，neimenimenzhijiandegeheyixiazijiujianqinglexuduo。

　　4、重建信任

　　womendoushuo，nvshihenaijiaozhen，shijishangzheishiyinweinvshitebiemingan，guanchalihejiyinenglidouhaibucuo。yincichangchanghuirangnanrenchuguideshiernanyishihuai，meimeikandaoyouguandechangjingshi，neitongkudejiyidounengbeihuanqi，yincibuduandiquceshi、tichuwenti，laiquerenzijizaiduifangxinlizhongliang。

　　laogongchuguiyihoujinguantiaoxuanhuiguijiazhong，danlaopoduinanrenbuxinrenduifang，changchanghuihuaiyizheicaiyineibiande，zaochengnanrenjiuguodefeichangtongchu。yinerzhongjianxinrenzheiyibushifeichangzhongyaode，neijutiyaozenmezuoni?

　　ninengyunanrenyuefasanzhang，weitazhidingyixieguizhang，birushuoxiabanleyaozaodianhuilai，youjishiwanyidianhuijialebuyaowangleshangbao。

　　yucitongshi，yexuyaozhidingyixiechufa，yidanfaxiantazaicichugui，jiurangtamenlihunjingshenchuhushenmede。youzheixieguanshu，dangtazaidumianduiyouhuoshi，zijiyehuizaixinzhongdianliangyixia。

　　aiqingxuyaoyunying，zhikaoyigerendenulishibuzuyixiubuliangrenguanxide，yincizaiqizhonggengweiguanjiandeshiniyaorangtamencanyujinlai，yiqiquxiufuhunyin。