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 《qipashuo》libianfushoueryiqianshuoguoyijuhua，yigedabiaodeqiannanyou，jiuyingdangxiangqushileyiyang。bubihanzhepengyoumingyi，gesanchawulianluoyixiahuranzhageshi。nanrenhenvrenyouchunyouyima？zhenduinvshieryan，henyoukenenghuichuxian。shubuzhizhenduidabufennanshieryan，jibenshangmeiyou。richangshenghuoguoduorenyipenyouzhiming，xingdanlianzhishile。ainizaixinkounankai，gaizenmeban？zuopengyoubei，zhangkoulepapenyouyezuobulele。buqingchudahuoershifouyoukanlehenduonianqiandeyibudianshiju《wokenengbuhuiaini》，libiandelidarenbianshizuihaoshidedanlianzuopengyoudeshili，yipengyoumingyishouhoulechengyouqingshinianzhijiu。tashilianaizhongdezuopengyou。lianaizhongzuopengyouyeyouyizhongtixindiaodanguanaiganqingdeyishumei，danfenshouhouzuozhepengyouquefazhefenshouwanhuideshuoshuo，shuwozhiyan，bingbushidanlianneimechunzhendeshile。yishuyiqianshuoguoyijuhua，shuhushineiyangde：fenshouhouhainengzuopengyou，yaobuhaishenaizhe，yaobumeicengjingaiguo。zhenduigangfenshoumeiduojiudereneryan，gengshiruci。ranernixiangwanhuifenshoudeqianrenshi，neifenshouhouzuopengyouliyuwanhui。

一、感情惯性

 fenshoushiyixiangjuece，jueceshinenggouyishunjianzuochude，danganqingbingbushi，ganqingcongweifangfayixiazishuoduanhuiduan。zheishiyouyuganqingshijishangshiyouguanxingde。ganqingyexiangcaichacheyiyang，jibianniyaoxianglikeduankaita，tayerengranyaohuaguoyiduanlucaikeyiqueshimanxialai。

 yiqianyiqiriyeshouhouwuhuabushuodeqinglv，ninengconglixingshangjuecegentaduandiaolianaiguanxi，dannikongzhibulezishenlikecongzheiyiduanganqingzhongqueshichoushen。yincijibiantilefenshou，tarujinhairengranzhiliuzaiaizhenideganqingguanxingli，zheibushitanengdulicaozonghejuecede。danqizhiyagen，ganqingguanxingdeshenhoushijishangshigerenxingweiguanxing，shenhoushiyigegexiweixiguanyangchengdejilei。

 zhiqianmeiridouxuyaoxianliao，yiliaobianshiyizhengtian，meitianwanshangdouxuyaoyiqichifan，libaitianyidingyiqikandianying，linshuiqianxinglaishiyidinghuihudaochizaoan......zheizhongdoushizaibujingyijianzhongzaoyibianchenglexiguanxing，toutoudikejinlerichangshenghuoli。jishitilefenshou，zaoyikejinrichangshenghuolidexiguanyangchengyemeifayixiagenggai。

 yinci，bulunshicongganqingshanghuoshigerenxingweishangdeguanxing，douzaochengletameifayixiazifangqini。tarujindeqingkuangjiuhaoxiang：naozhongcailefenshoudechachetaban，xinquezai"haiaini"deluguishangzaicihuapaozhe。

二、逃避心理

 henduorenfenshouhoutiaoxuangenlingyifangzuopengyou，fenshouhouzuopengyouliyuwanhuishijishangshilaiyuanyuxinlingshenchudetaobixinli。zheierdetaobixinliguanjianyouerzhong：yizhongshiduobijiechuxiguanxingsuochanshengdetongchu，dierzhongshiduobisikaozheiyiduanganqing、zuochutiaoxuan。

 qianbianjianglefenshouhouhuichuxianganqingguanxing，taobixinlibianshiganqingguanxingchanshengdebiranqushi。youyujiechuxiguanxinghuizaochengjieduanfanying，rutongjieyanjiejiu，tailingrenbushufule。

 zhiqianmeitianyourenpei，rujinfenshoule，yixiazimeiyourenpeilemeiyourenxianliaole，chibuxiao。gaizenmeban？zuopengyouba，wuxuyouyiqiexinlifudan，yebuyongdanfuyiqieyiwu，duomehaodeshiqing。zuopengyoubianshijiechutongchudezuihaoshimamuji。

zaikanlaidierzhong：duobitiaoxuan。

 jinguanmingquetichulefenshou，danxinlingshenchuquedouhaimeizhenzhenzhengzhengxianghaozheiyiqie，zishenhaiainima？zhihouhaihuijixufuhexingma？zheiyiduanganqingyeyoujianglaima？yeyaozaicizouxialaima？yaosisuozheizhongnantitaitongchule，tameifayongxinsikaozheiyiduanganqing，gengbuyuanyisisuozheizhongnanti，yincijiubazheizhongnantitongtongpaozaileyibian，genjugennizuopengyoudefangfatiaoxuanleduobizheiyiqie。zheileiduobideshenhoutongchangshizijidetaobixingrengezaizuoguai。

三、在潜意识中养备用胎

 hanzhezuopengyoudeqihao，ganzheyangbeiyongtaideshi，jinguanbingbushimeigerendouzheiban，danrichangshenghuoshijishangbingxuduojian，jinjinhenduorenmeiyouyishidaozishengerenxingweishenhoudexinlizhuangtaitizhibale。

 zhijiedianshuobianshi，zaiqianyishizhongliyangbeiyongtai。zhenduijianglai，buquedingxinghainengfouxunzhaogengqiangdemubiao。zhenduini，shibuzhiweishizhiwurou，yaozaicizuoqinglvfangfochadianer，yaochedidiudiaoniyemeishabixu，haibibushangliudaoshenpangweizijiliutiaotuilu，zishenyibianjiaocailiangzhichuan。zongzhiyedouhaimeixunzhaoxinganqing，zongzhiniyexiaita，neimejiudangbeiyongtaizaishenbianyangzheba，zongzhiyebuyonghaofeinaxiehuoli。zongzhi，zhixugentazuozuopengyoujiuhaole。

 zheishijishangshihenduorenbiaocengzuopengyoujutiyangbeiyongtaishenhoudeshencengcixinlizhuangtai。zheileigerenxingweideyuanguyefeichangjiandan，renquanshibennengfanyingzisizilide，burongyiquzuosunhaibenshenquanyideshi。jiangnidangpenyouyangzaishenbian，duitaeryankendinghaochudayuhuaichu。

 ruhewanhuifenshoudeqiannanyou？fenshouhouzuopengyouwanliushibai？yuangushijishangganghaojiuchuzainiliangzuopengyouzheijianshiqingshang。weishenmeni？youyunijiangtachonghuaile。lingyifangshuofenshoujiugennifenshou，lingyifangshuozuopengyouniyejiuzuopengyou，niyizhizaizheiyiduanganqingzhongmeiyouzishendebiaozhunhejiagou。lingyifangyeqiahaoshiyunyonglenidezheiyidian，yincikeyizaizheiliduanguanlianlisiwujidan。niyaozenmezuo？nideguanjianjiuqujueyubaituopenyoudejiagou。

1、jijishengchanzhizaobianjiegan。

 zuixianzuizhongyaodeyidian，nirujinyaozuodebingbushiquzaicixianghupeihetadegerenxingwei，zhishiyaozishenjijiqushengchanzhizaobianjiegan，jijigentahuayidaopenyouheqinglvdejiexian。bingbushitashuodaodangpenyouniyejiugentazuopengyou，talianluoninijiupeiliaotian，nijiaruxiangyiqianneibanchedixianghupeiheta，nijiushibazheiyiduanguanliandezhudaoquanqinzijiaojileta，dajiadefuhexingyejiuwuwangle。

 niyaoa，tafenshoulehainenggennizuopengyou，hainengzaicixiangyouzhenideshouhouheguanzhu，xiangxianliaodeqingkuangxiayeyourenpeizhexianliao，fenshoujimeiyouyiqiesunhai，yewuxutouruyiqieqinglvdezeren，naizhibudangetaquzhuibiedenvhai，neitaweiheyaogennifuhexingni？

 yincinidiyibuyeshizuizhongyaodeyibu，bianshiqianghuizishendezhudaoquan，jijishengchanzhizaobianjiegan。nixuyaoshitagaoqingchudajiazaoyifenshoule，nizaoyijienalefenshoudekeguanshishi。nijinjinyigeqiannanyou，burongyiquzhixingyigeqinglvdeyiwu，nimeiyouzerensuishisuidipeitaxianliao，gengmeiyouzerenmeiriguanzhutaderichangshenghuoqiju，tadoumeiyouzhipeiquanxiangyounizuoweiqinglvshidegongzidaiyu。

 jirantayaogennizuopengyou，neihaohaozuopengyou，xianliaoyebubifanguopenyoudejiexian。bubipeiliaotian，gengbubimiaohui，jiuyizhaonigenyibanpengyouneibanquliao，yibanpengyouquanshijishicailiao，youshiwangdiaohuiyingyeshihenyiqiezhengchangde。

2、youxinshengchanzhizaojinpogan。

 fenshouhouniyuefazhefenshouwanhuideshuoshuoqiufuhe，yuefazhuyaobiaoxiandelibuleta，yuefazhuyaobiaoxianchuzhiaitayigeren，tajiuyuefazaizheiliduanguanlianlituierqiuqici。youyutahuiganjuebuguantaganshenmenidoushihuixianghupeiheta、denghouta，nichedizaitadecaokongdangzhong，tayebianhuigengweiburongyiaixizheiyiduanganqing。

 bubilaoxiangyongqingshenquwanliu，shijizhong，qingshentongchanghuibeicuoguo。nixuyaoqingqingchuchudexiangtashuoming，nikendingbuhuizaiyuandibudongzaicidenghoule。nizaoyijienalefenshoudekeguanshishi，nijueceyaobaituozheiyiduanguanlian，nibingbingbushifeitabuke。bubiyitiandaowanweizhutazhuanle，duoqugenbiedeyixingpengyouchupeng，yongxingdonglaiyouyiyuantashengchanzhizaojinpogan，zheileijinpoganhuijiqitaduinideduzhanyu，zheihuishitazhujianyaoxiangzhenxi，youyutahuiganjuezaibuzhenxijiuguishuyutarenle。

三、复建诱惑力。

lijinglediyibuhedierbu，rujinnimeipeitaxianliaole，doubuyitiandaowanweizhutazhuanle，neidajiayaozenyangbaochilianluoni？

 huidaqishibushihennan，kaoxiyinzhu。nixuyaofujianyouhuoli。shuojuchuoxinde，fenshouhoutaningkegennizuopengyoudoubutongyinidefuhexing，guigenjiedihuoshiyouyunideyouhuolibuzu，shitaganjuenidangqinglvhaichaleneimedianhanyi。

 yinciqianbiandejiexianyeba、kunjingyeba，shizhishangjinjinjitamendexintaishengchanzhizaoyidianjingtaohailang，zhenzhenzhengzhengdeguanjianhuoshiqujueyunikeyizaicixiyinzhuta。fujianyouhuolidequanguochengshiyigetishengziwohezhanxiangaoshiyongjiazhidequanguocheng。genjuhuazhuangdabantigaozijiderongmaoshiyongjiazhi，weixinpengyouquanpoyixiagenpenyouquwandexiangpianzhanxianzishendeshejiaomeitishiyongjiazhi，gongzuozhonghuodechengguozhanzishendegongzuozhongshiyongjiazhi，canyushehuishijianhuodongzhanxianzishendejiazhi......zongeryanzhi，genjulijihuojianjiexingdezhanxian，shitayishidaonidegenggai、fajuenidegaoshiyongjiazhi，tabianhuishunlichengzhangdebeinixiyinzhu。

 fenshouhouyidingbubixianzaiyoushangdexintailiyijuebuzhen，yidingyaoguangcaizhaorendehaohaoguorizi。nixuyaoyongxingdongxiangtabiaoming，meiyouni，womendeshenghuogengqiangle。cike，tacaihuiweifenshoudegerenxingweijuedehouhuimoji。youyutafajue，nimeiletaqueshirichangshenghuodegengqiangle，tacaihuizhujiansikaozheiyiduanganqingbuchenggongshifoutayigerendaozhide？shifoutadeyuangu？zheiyibushijishangshishitazaochengfenshouhoudefanxianghelixingguiyinyu。

 jinyoudangtazhujianziwofansizheiyiduanganqing，tacaikeyizhenzhenzhengzhengyishidaonidetouruhetadefuyanleshi，dangtazhujianduiyiwangdegerenxingweihuihen，zheiyiduanganqingyejiucongyikaishideniyaoxiangwanliu，bianchengletayaoxiangwanliu。nixuyaozuodejinjinshidutongyitajiukeyile。