说话吸引不了别人注意？怎么样跟人沟通技巧？

goutongjiaoliushirenjijiaowangdeyaoyinzi。huixianliao，budanshidajiayanlideqingshanggao，yeshiyizhongxiezhunibaituobenshenjuxianxing、zaigoutongjiaoliuzhongchengxianzishen，bingwanchengzishendezhuanyejineng。yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？zaiyiyaoxueshang，youyixieyaozishenshiling，zhishiweiqitayaofuwuxiangmude，tamenjiubeichengzuo“yaoyinzi”。zaiyurenxiangchuquanguochengzhong，youyixiegoutongjiaoliu，yeshiweilegenghaodirangyihoudegoutongjiaoliushuntongchangtongwuzu，yincihaikeyibeichengweishirenjijiaowangshangde“yaoyinzi”。zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？

meiyigerenduoduoshaoshaoyudaoguoneiyangdezhuangkuang，neibianshiniyaojianghua，danjiaojinijianghuadeshijianbijiaoyouxian。lirugukezhirangni2fenzhongxiangxijieshaoshangpin；lingdaoganbumeigongfutingniliaozhengtiguihua；nvpengyoushengqibutingnibiaoshu；……pengdaoneiyangdezhuangkuang，zenyangcainengrangtamenyounaixinditingdajiafayanni？henyoukenengxuduopenyouhuixiangqi，jiranzhenximeiyitian，neimejiusanliangju，konghuabuyongshuo。dantongchangzhenpengdaoneiyangdezhuangkuangshi，dajiabianhuihenbunengzishenshigexiangshengdashi，yikouqikeyibashierjiangwan。xianbutanninengbunengbaxiangshuodehuajiangwan，henyoukenengjishinijiangwanle，tarenyelejiebushangnideyisi。

zenmehuidaozhineiyangdejushini？shijishangshiyouyudajiahushilezuizhongyaodeyidian——goutongjiaoliushishuangzhongde。haodegoutongjiaoliubingbingbushizhinijiangshieryigunaoshuowanle，meirirenwujiujieshule。danfangdechuandaxinxi，meiquguantingderenshifouyoutingjinlai，zheicigoutongjiaoliuhaowuyiwenshilangfeishijian，cuoguolianghaodejihuie！hehuolide。zaihetarenjianghuadeqingkuangxia，budanyaoquebaozishenbiaoshujianquan，haixuyaoquebaotingderenkeyizijintouru，neiyangdegoutongjiaoliucaisuanshiqudechenggongde。neimazenyangcaikeyirangtarenxixinqierenzhenditingnishuohuani？yejiushishuo，zenmerangtarenrangnishijianqushuohuani？

yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？shijian，shizulangoutongjiaoliudejiaodalanluhu，yeshizaojiugoutongjiaoliuzuihaoshidetajiaoshi。yinerzaihetarengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，dajiazuibixudetongchangbianshijizijizhuanqushijian，neiyangcaikeyirangtarenxixinqieyongxinditingdajiajianghua。zaizheier，xianjidahuoergongxiangyigexiaoqiaomen——“siliangboqianjin”。

01. 四两拨千斤

ruhequ“siliangboqianjin”ni？jianyieryan，dangpengdaolingyifangbujidajiachongzudeshijianqujianghuadeqingkuangxia，xianbiezhejikaolvzenyangzaiduanqineineijiangwanzishenshuoqidehua，zhishiyaoxiansisuo，zenmecainengrangtarenxiangyaohuadaliangdeshijianlaitingdajiajianghua。

liruqudaoyijiaqiyezhaopinmianshi，zhaopinzhegennishuo：“rujinrangni60miao，zhanxianyixianidezhuanzhang。”zheileiqingkuangxia，nihuizenmezuoni？60miaodeshijian，yishougedeshijiandoubuzu，keyiganshenmeni？youruhekeyizhanxianzhuanzhangni？yincizheigewentizishenjiuyoushenmewenti，neimatadehuidajiuburongyishiyijuzimianyisidedaode。zhaopinzhedemudishixiangmolianzhaopinmianshizhezaibiaozhunbuchongzudeqingkuangxia，shibushiyoufahuitezhangjiejuekunnandegongzuonengli。yiner，zheigeshihoubixuzuodeshijishangbingbushizhanxianzishendezhuanzhang，zhishizhengdedaokeyizhanxianzhuanzhangdeshijian。

tangruowomenbujuyoukeyixianchangzhanxiandecaiyibiaoyan，lirugechang、wudaozheileide，neidajiachedinenggouneimeduizhaopinzheshuo：“yaowo60miaoneizhanxianzhuanzhang，zheiyitingjiannande，youqishiduiyuwoeryan。shijishangzaigongzuozhongdeqingkuangxia，woshiyigemeiyoushenmefengcaideren，youyueganbijiaoruo，keyebuzhidaoweihe，shenpangdeyixiepenyoudoushuoyuwojiaowangshihenshufu，yuwoxiangchuhenshuxin，henyoukeneng，zheiyeshiyizhongzhuanzhangba。yinci，henyoukenenghuiyoudianerqingqiuchaoshi，danbuqingchuwonengjianghaoduogezheixiefangmiandeshilima？”

zaizheiliduanduandeliangsanjuzhong，baokuolesancenghanyi：diyi，shengchanzhizaochuxianyiwai。zhaopinzheguidingzhanxianzhuanzhang，keshinimeianchangqingdapai，gaozhizhaopinzhenishiyigemeiyoushenmezhuanzhangderen，zuishaozaishixiadechangsuomeifazhanxianchuqu。dier，jiqihaoqixin。zheijuhuazhongjilezhaopinzheyigeyihuo：jiranmeiyoufengcaiketan，neiweihetarenxiaiyunidaizaiyiqi，xiaiyunixiangchuni？disan，huifuzhutifengge。dangzhaopinzheduinisuobiaomingde“meiyoufengcaidanhuobao”dezheiyitexingyouxingqushi，niyejiunenggouzhujianjuhaoduogeshili，biaoshuzishenshizenyangbuweirenzhi，danyourenpinhaode。jiusuanzuizhongshijianchaochu60miao，zhaopinzheyebuhuijinjinjijiao，youyudajiazaoyizhengdedaodaliangdeshijian。

shijishangsiliangboqianjinneiyangdeconghui，gudairenzaojiushentoudaolezaiqizhongdelianji。zaichunqiushiqijieduan，zhaoguohuangshitianyingzhunbeizaizishendelingdixiujianguchengqiang，danneiyangzuo，haowuyiwenhuizaochenggongshudecaiji，yincitianyingfudidemenkedoulaiquanshuota，zuizhongtianyingqueshishibeiquandefanxinle，lijixiazhilingzaiyebujianqianququandaodemenke。

zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？eryouyigeconghuidefangwenzhexiangxiangyizhao，taduitianyingshuo：“chenzhishuosangezi，duoyigezi，niyejiujiangwochujue。”zheijiushiwomengangtidaode“shengchanzhizaochuxianyiwai”。guozhentianyingyiting，xiangzhe：sangezijiuxiangshuodongwo？hao，nimayaotingyitingnixiangshuoshenme。yincizheiyifangwenzhegenjusiliangboqianjindefangfa，qudechenggongzaiyijuhuayetingbujindetianyingneibian，zhengdedaoshitatingsangezidejiyu。

xiamian，bianshi“jiqihaoqixin”。yincifangwenzhebigongbijingduitianyingshuo：“haidayu。”jiangwanhouzhuanguoshenjiuzou。zheiyixiajiuqudechenggongjiqiletianyingdeqiuzhiyu，zhenduizheisangezi，tianyingshizhangerheshangmobuzhetounao，ganmanghanzhufangwenzhe，gaosuta：“qingdengyideng，liuyoubahuajiangwanba。”fangwenzheyiranbuhuiying，biaomingyikaishijianghaozhishuosangezi，haipanazishendecunwangdangrenqing。tianyingzhinengxiangfankuanweifangwenzhe，shitadanshuowufang，burongyilunzuiyuta。fangwenzheyong“haidayu”zheisangezijiqiletianyingdeqiuzhiyu，qudechenggongjiangbenlaishuosangezidejiyu，youjinyibuzhengdedaogeshujijiandeshijian，ertaxiangxidejianjieyuniantou，yeshizaiyihouzhengdedaodezheiduanshijianlicaizhujianbiaoshu。

zuizhong，bianshi“huifuzhutifengge”。fangwenzhejiqiletianyingdeqiuzhiyuhou，huoshiyaofanhuizhutifenggeshangqu，erqiehaidejiangchuyifandadaoli，yaoburanlingyifangfajuenijinjinguzuogaoshen，yebuhuiyouyigehaojieguo。fangwenzhezhengdedaoshijianhou，duitianyingshuo：“haimianlibiandedayu，yuwangbubushangta，yugouyediaobushangta。danruguozaimeiyoushuidediqu，lianxiaoxiaoxiaomayi，haikeyiqiyata。erqiangjingdezhaoguo，jiuhaoxianghaiyang，ninjiuhaoxianghailidedayu。jiaruninyouzhaoguodebiyou，haixiujianzheiguchengqiangganshenmeni？jiaruninshiquzhaoguodebiyou，jibianbaguchengqiangxiujiandehetianyiyanggao，youyoushenmezuoyongni？”tingwanfangwenzhedehuahou，tianyingjuedehenyoudadaoli，yincifangqilexiujianguchengqiangdezhunbei。

zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？zheijiushiyigeyingyong“siliangboqianjin”dedianxinganli。genjushengchanzhizaochuxianyiwai、jiqihaoqixin、huifuzhutifengge，jiangbenlaixiaoxiaogoutongjiaoliujiyu，kuozhangdaoranglingyifangganxinqingyuanyaoxiangtingxialaidechengdu。yiner，zaiwomenpengdaobiaoshushijianhenjipodeqingkuangxia，qianwanbieyigenjindiyizhaoyuanxiandegousijiangxiaqu，yebubibahuashuodexianglianzhupaoyiyang，rangtarentingzheyanjuan，zhishiyaoxianxiangbanfajizijizhuanbiantaidu，ranglingyifangyounaixin，qiezhuanxinzhizhidequting，dajiacaihaiyoujihuixiangxidijiangchuzishendeniantou。

02.写在最终得话

yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？zuizhongyaotishidahuoer，zaiyingyong“siliangboqianjin”zheiyifangfashi，yaofenqingxizhuangkuang。zheiyifangfazhiyouyongyibierenburangnishijianjianghuadezhuangkuang，bukeyiyongyixingshizishenjiushifenjiaolvbuandezhuangkuang，jiurutongyigediquqihuole，nixuyaozuodeshigankuaigaozhixiaofangdaduiqihuodebuweizainaer，erbushiqubiaoshuzenmehuiqihuo。haibixuliuyi，youyongqisiliangboqianjin，niyejiudeyouzixinyonghaozhengdelaideshijian，yaoburanniqudechenggongzaochenglelingyifangguanxin，zuizhongquejiangchubulaigeyuanyou，zongshidebuchangshi。