与人沟通的技巧：总无法成功说服别人？试试“自他沟通”的技巧

zaidajiaderenjijiaowangzhong，wulunshirichangshenghuohuoshigongzuo，doulibuleyurendegoutongjiaoliu，eryibanzhuangkuangxia，goutongjiaoliudemudi，shishuodonglingyifang，helingyifangdachengyizhi。yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？youqishizaihunyinshenghuozhong，goutongjiaoliudeyuanshi，quanshiweilegenghaodidachengyizhi，shubuzhizhenduijuedaduoshureneryan，yizhihuifazhanqushichengyichang“zhanshi”。zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？

jiurushuben《wojiushinia》zhong，suotidaode“landiguo，hongdiguo”dexiaogushi：

youyigelanjunwang，zhizhengzheyiqunshenlansejiaozhangderen，hetalinjindehongdiguo，zezhuzhexianhongsejiaozhangdeyiqunren。

2gewoguodezhengzhongjian，gezheyitiaomingzijiaozuofeichangdadejianghe，tajishi2gewoguozhongjiandejiexian，yeshi2gewoguoyigongyoudecaifu。

danshiyouyitian，yichangdizhenzaihai，rangzheiyitiaojianghegailelumian，tachediliurulehongdiguodediqu。

landiguoderenhenhuangluan，meileshui，bianhaosishiqushengmingdeqiyuan，nongzuowuyehuiyinerzaoshouweixie。

yinci，yichanggoutongjiaoliubiankaishile。

liangrengenjuxinjian，congyouyideshangyibianweiqingxuxuanxie，xuerguannianbeixintaisuoweihai，zuihouzhuanbianchengyichangmaodunhejingong。

yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？lanjunwangqidaihongjunwangquzhengduimiancaishui，quezhizibutiguotudequhuashifouhuizaoshouweihainanti。

hongjunwangjiandaoneiyangdexinjian，bianshangxiayanta，lanjunwangquerenweihongjunwangshiyouyide，zuihou，zhanshibaofale......

kanxuduonanti，doushiyouyugoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，ziyanziyu，zaochengfashengwuhui，zuizhongbianweiguannianchenji，xintaixingqidebulixingyuyanbiaoda。

那应当如何解决那样的难题呢？

zai《wojiushinia》zheibenshuzhong，chuangzuozhezaiciyongxiaogushidefangshi，xushuleqigeliucheng，zaiqizhongqiansigeliuchengwei：

diyigeliucheng，shixuehaoguanlizijidexintai。

xuduoqingkuangxia，zaigoutongjiaoliudequanguochengzhong，dajiayizhiwufaguanlizijidexintai，youqishilingyifangdexintai，feichangrongyijifadajiadexintaibodong。

lirulingyifanghuihurancaiyongweixiedeyuyanbiaoda，huoshishizhuyaobiaoxianchuqiaobuqirendemoyang。neiyangdeyuyanbiaodahefeiyuyanbiaoda，doushihuishiwomenjuedenaonu，jinershiwomendeguanniangensuixintaizou，zuihoubayichanggoutongjiaoliubianwei“zhanshi”。

那我们要怎样管理自己的心态呢？

zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？yuqishuoposhizishenlizhi，bibushangxianzhangwoshierdehexin。

《wojiushinia》zhongneiyangshuo：

“lingyifanghuijue=tayouzishendeyaoqiu，duidangweixie=tadanxinle，lingyifangzhuyaobiaoxianchugongjinengli=tazaichengdantongchu，lingyifangzhuyaobiaoxianchubiyi=tabuzixin。”

zaiwomenlejielelingyifanggerenxingweishenhoudeyuangu，xintaiyejiuburongyisuibianwufakongzhile。

diergeliucheng，shixuehaoguanlifangfatarendeqingxu。

xuduoqingkuangxia，zaiyurenxiangchushi，lingyifanghuihuranqingxujidong，yibanzhuangkuangxia，shihedajiadeyigegerenxingwei，huoshimoujuhuayouguanxide。

woqingchuhaijide，zaiyichanggoutongjiaoliuzhong，kanjianlingyifangdouzhetuidemoyang，wohentaoyan，yincijianghuadeqingkuangxia，yudiaobianyongyouzaocidehanyi，lingyifanglikefajue，suihouyuelaiyueqingxujidongqilai。

yinci，yaoxiangguanlifangfatarendeqingxu，dajiabixuzaiguanlizijixintaidejibenshang，yimeidongyingwanbian。

jiurushangbiandeshili，buzanchenglingyifangdemouleizuofa，zuihaoshidefangfabingbushiqupingding，qugaizheng，zhishilinshishenmeshidoubuzuo。

jiuru《wojiushinia》shangshuode：

“duizheganhezuopingdingshishizhongburongyihelide，xiangfanhaihuijixujiazhongmaodun。”

disangeliucheng，shizaiyiyizhongxunzhaoyitongdeguandian

meiyourendesanguanshiwanquanyizhide，shuzuiduoyeshisanguanleisi。

yinciyouyiyi，youmaodun，quanshizhengzhideshier，neiyaoxianggenggaizheiyidian，womenzaijiaofadeqingkuangxia，bixuba“yinweishenme”gaiwei“weihe”。

“yinweishenme”tashizailunshuzishendejianjie，er“weihe”shilingtinglingyifangzenmejiang。

zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？ruguonitingdaoletarendejianjie，caikeyizailimianxunzhaotupodian，yehuifajueliangrenzhongjianyitongdeguandian。

disigeliucheng，shixuexipeixundadao2geshijiandediyigedegongshi

yongyoudisanbu，zhidaolingyifangdejianjie，zheigeshihou，bianshidachengyizhideqingkuangxiale，zai《wojiushinia》zhong，neiyangshuo：

ranglingyifanglejienilejieta，dajiakeyiyongzishendehuabatachangshuodezhuanshuyibian，zheihuiranglingyifanggaibianxianzhuangdexintai，suihouchangkaixinfei。

dangliangrenbuhuizaiduilingyifangdeguandianxianghuzhijiandichu，dachengyizhidejiyuyejiulailinle。

ziran，zheijinjinjibendehuosheng，zai《wojiushinia》zhong，yeyoushihoudesangejianjie，zaizheierbianbuyiyilunshule。

yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？danyaoquelideshi，dajiagoutongjiaoliuwangwanghuibuchangshun，juedaduoshuyuangushi，dajiahenyoukenengjinjinzaihezishengoutongjiaoliu，bianhuanluojisiwei，zhenzhenzhengzhengdi、lizhidiqutingbierendejianjie，suihouhuodeyouxiaogoutong。