男人把你睡了后的心理 做点什么才可以更改局势

 liangrenxiangfeng，congshengshudaolejie，bujinshixinlizhuangtaishangdejianjiandiaijin，yeshishenglixueshangdeyigelejiedequanguocheng。zhenduirenmeneryan，xingyeshinannvguanxizhongyigeyongyugoutongjiaoliudegongluqiaoliang，shilianggerenshunlichengzhangbianhuichanshengdeyizhongyouguanhunyinguanxideqipan。xiangduieryan“xing”zheiyihuatitaolunzhenduinanhaiziyizhiheduinvhaiyoushanyixie，yixienvhaizailianaiguanxizhongqipanqinmiwujian，yincijiangzishenjiaodaoxiaidenanhaizi，keshiguohouquewufadedaolingyifangyiyangdetouru。tongguonanrenbanishuilehoudexinli，kankanwanshihounanrenainidejudong。

“fashengxingguanxihou，nanyoujiuduiyuwobianlengmole，woxiangwenyixia：tashihuaxinnanma？”

tashixiaokezaizixuntiwendewenti，wolikejiuzuochulehuiying：

“buyidingshihuaxinnan，shijihaixuyaokandajiazaifashengxingguanxiyiqiandehudongjiaoliufangshi。”

buyihui，liuyanbanliuyanxiajiuduoleyitiaohuiying：

 “jiaoshi，wohenanyoushigenjupenyouxiangxijieshaolejiede。neishihou，wojiantakanqilaitinggaotingshuaide，tanqihualaiyehenrerenxiai，yinciwohentongkuaidejiutongyigentazaiyiqile。

 zuichudeqingkuangxia，taqueshiduiyuwotingbucuode，meitianfaxinxidouwogaoxingbuyongshuo，haiyizhihuidishengxiaqidebangwosongliwu、daiwoquwan、qingwoyongcan。

 xuduoqingkuangxia，dajiatandaoleqingshenyiqiedediqu，tahaihuijixugaosuwoyidaduidehuayanqiaoyu，naizhihaiyaoshuoyixieqianshedaowomendeweilaihehunyinshenghuodehuatitaolun。

 zaidajiaxiangchuleisiyigeyuedeqingkuangxia，womeibiezhugentafashengleguanxi。zaidaohoubian，woyefajuetaduiyuwodexintaifashenglegenggai。

 liruzhiqianquanshitajijibangwofaweixin，kerujintajijidepincixianzhushaolexuduo。bingqie，jiusuanjiushiwojijijitamenfaxinxi，xuduoqingkuangxiatayebulijihui，naizhibushihui。

 youyiciwopengyoushengriri，xiangshitapeizhewoqu，ketashuodaorenhedongxidoumeiqu。woxunwentaweishenmebuqu，tabianshuobuyuanjianwodehaopengyou。

 danshi，tarujinyeshiyoujijideqingkuangxia。liru，jijiyuewokandianying，jijiyuewochulaiyongcan，danshi，meiyicizuowanzheizhongshieryihou，tabianhuidaiwoyiqiqubinguankaifangjian。

 dabufenzhuangkuangxia，wodoushihuitongyita，danyoudeqingkuangxiayehuihuijue。danshi，wulunshiyuanyihuoshihuijue，wodexinlidoutingguaiguaidede。

jiaoshi，ninshuotashizhenxinshiyixihuanwoma？huoshitabianshiyigehuaxinnan，bianshizaizhituwodeshenzini？”

 weilegenghaodiduitadenantiyouyigegengjingquedezhangwohebakong，wohaishizaijiashanglexiaokedeshoujiweixin，suihouyouhetazaiweixinshanggoutongjiaoliuleyifan。

最终，我对小柯说：

 tongguonanrenbanishuilehoudexinli，“genjuzhuduozhengzhaokanlai，nanshengdagailvbingbingbushiyigehuaxinnan。buran，tazaizuichudeqingkuangxia，yebuhuiduinikaizhanzheimeduodexiangmutouzi。”

 shuodaozhei，xiaokefanwendaowojiang：“jiaoshiya，chuidiaohaibixuerliaoni，wozenmezhidaonanshengyiqianduiwodehao，shifouzhenxinshiyideni？”

我对小柯说：

 “zaitanlianaiqianqi，huaxinnanyedequehuiduidajiayouyidingdexiangmutouzi。danshi，tamendexiangmutouzidaduoshushixuyouqibiaode。

liru，tahenyoukenenghuimaozheyujidajiamaiyiduomeiguihua，dantaquefeichangshaohuizaimeiyouxiayushihou，jidajiamaiyipengmeigui。

ciwai，huaxinnanyefeichangshaohuijinjinweiraozhongzhangxiandeshouyi。

 xuduoqingkuangxia，tamenzailiangrenxiangchuhaibushangyizhoudeshijian，bianhuigenjugezhonggeyangtianyanmiyu，youpiannvxinggentamenfashengxingguanxi。

 youyuhuaxinnanyibandouzhixiangyaofazhanqushiduanqiguanxi，yincitamenzaidabufenzhuangkuangxiadoushihuitiaoxuanduoduanshijicaozuo，yucitongshixiangchuhenduonvhai。

tamenjuedaduoshujiumeiyounaixin，baibaideduidajiatouruyigeyuedeshijian，suihoucailaisuoqushouyide。

yinci，zongdelaishuo，ninanyoushihuaxinnandejilvbingbusuantaida。”

ziranhuaxinnandejianbie，bingbingbushiyijianjianyideshier。

tinglewodepouxiyihou，xiaokebuduanbiaomingrentong。

kesuihou，tayoumanshiyilvdegenwoshuo：

 “jiaoshi，jirantabingbushihuaxinnan，neimataweiheyaoyouyilengdanwoni？weihejinyouzaitaxianggenwofashengxingguanxideqingkuangxia，tacaihuilaizhaowoliaoni？”

xiaokedekunhuo，shifouyejiushinixinlideyihuoni？

shijishang，zheishenhoudeyuangufeichangjiandan：

 zuixian，nixuyaolejiedeshi：nanshengyushengjulaijiujubeiyizhong“zhengfuyu”，jiaruyijianwupinzishenmeishenmetiaozhandenanduxishu，neima，nanshengjiufeichangrongyihuiduitasangshixingquaihao。

shuodezaishijiyidian：zainanshengdeneixin，ditiaozhannanduxishujiuxiangdangyubianyi。

zheiyidian，zainanshengkandai“xingxingwei”dexintaishang，fanyingdeyouqixianzhu。

 lizainanshengdeshijiaoeryan，tadequexianggennifashengxingguanxi。keyucitongshi，tadoubuqidaizheiyiquanguocheng，jindudetaiguodushunli。

jugelizieryan，zheileixinlizhuangtaijiugendayouxiyiyang。

 jiaruyigeyouxidenanduxishutaidi，niyirufanzhangdejiuchongguanchenggongle，woxiangwenyixia，ninengxiaiwanzheileizhilizhangaiyouxima？haowuyiwenburongyi，shiba？

 danshi，ruguonizaiqitayouxilibaoshoucuobai，yaoxiangdedaomanzugandeqingkuangxia，yehuiduanzanxingdewanyiwanzheigeyouxi，weicilaiweizijizengjiazixinxin。

 zheishijishangbianshinanrenzaipingchangdeqingkuangxia，duinidexintaihenlengmo，huiyoudeqingkuangxiaquehuihuranbianjiqing，jijiyueniyongcan，erqiegennikaifangjiandezhenzhengyuangu。

neima，gaizuodianshenmecaikeyigenggaineiyangdejushini？

1英勇的回绝男生的“性规定”

 zaishehuixinlixueshangyouyige“yanjinxiaoyong”。shuobailede“yanjinxiaoyong”bianshi，yijianwupintazishenhenyoukenengbingmeiyouduoshaodeshiyongjiazhi，danyinweibeiyanjinhuode，tazairenxinlidejiazhigan，fandaohuihuodefeichangdadetigao。

举个事例而言：

 xiaodeshihou，nishoushangyouhenduodexiaowanju。youyixiewanyandexiaowanju，tongchangshishunshoubatadiuzaiyibian，jibianhenzhangqibuwan，yenanyihuixiangdaota。

danshi，ruguoyouyitian，nifajuezheiyixiaowanjubujianle？

zheigeshihou，niyejiuhuiganjuezheiyixiaowanjuhenhaowaner，suihouyouqixinjideyaoxiangxunzhaota。

zheishijishangbianshi“yanjinxiaoyong”zaiqigongxiao。

一样的大道理：

 xiayici，dangnanrenxianggennikaifangjianfashengguanxideqingkuangxia，nijiuxuyaoguoduandehuijueta，erqiehaixuyaoyizhengciyandegaosuta：

 “zhiqianwotongyigennifashengxingguanxi，shiyouyuwojianxinwomendeainenggoujieguoshi，dajialiangrenhaikeyishouqianzheshou，yizhixingfukuailedezouxialai。

 danshi，nijinqiyiduanshijiandezhuyaobiaoxian，rangworenweihenquefaanquangan。dajiajinqihuoshixianlizhiyixia，tashiduinichengdan，yeshiduiyuwochengdan，nijuedeni？”

 zheizhonghuayichurukou，nijijiangchulezishendezhixinhua，zhuzhileliangrenzhongjiandenanti。ciwai，niyezaixingshenghuozheiyijianshiershang，jinanshengshedingleyigeleiqu。

yinci，zaizheiliyihounanshenghaowuyiwenhuiganjuenigengyoushiyongjiazhi，yucitongshigengweizhongshini。

2有意冷淡男生

 jujuelenanrendexingguidingyihou，niyidingbubiyou“xiuchigan”，jinerzhuyaobiaoxiandeduinanshengtaiguodujiqing。fanguolai，nixuyaoduinanshenglengmoyixie，nengbuzhudongzhaota，jiuyidingbubijijizhaota。

jibiannanshengjijirangnifaxinxi，yueniyongcan，niyeyidingyaokexuanzexingdekaizhanhuiying。

 zuixian，lengdantarenzheizishenbianshiyizhong“gaoshiyongjiazhi”defanying。youyu，jinyouzheixiequefazixin，benshendejiazhiganhendideren，caihuiyong“quyue”defangfagentarenjiaowang。

 ciwai，dangnanrenzaoshoulengdanyihou，tadexinlihuiyishunjianzaochengyizhong“sangshigan”。zheilei“sangshigan”huishitayishidao，nijuebushineiyigeshita“shierwuqiwei”deren。

jiarutabuhaohaodezhenxi，nisuishisuididoushiyouhenyoukenenghuibeitarenduozou。

zuizhongni，niyaonenggouwuyijianzainanshengyanqianzhanxianzishendeyixingyuan。

 dangnanrenfajue，nishiyigehenyouxiaoshoushichang，henshounanshengreliehuanyingdenvxingdeqingkuangxia，tabidinghuichongmanlejinpogan，jinerduidajiagengweifangzaixinshangde。

 dangran，yiweidelengdannanshengyebushiduide。jiarunanshengganjue，weihubaoyangzheiyiduanqinggandenanduxishuhendadehua，tayeyoukenenghuilijisheqizheiyiduanqinggan。

 dicengluoji：shijishangnanshengyeshihuiquefaanquangande，erdangdajiafashengle“hunyinguanxi”yihou，tabianhuizaiqingganshangyongyouzhangwoheguishugan，jinershaoleyixieyuanjian，gengzhiliyushiganyanqiandeshenghuo。

 kankanwanshihounanrenainidejudong，shijishang，chansheng“hunyinguanxi”yihou，nanshengyuelaiyue“lengmo”，bingbingbushiyouyubuhuizaidonglexin，jinjintaduizishenzainvxingxinlidebuweigengyouxinxin，buhuizaidanyounvxinghuilitaerqueryi。