异地恋怎么维持 异国恋是艰辛的

 niyaolijingyiguolianma？nijuedeyiguolianshiyizhong“tiaozhan”huoshiyizhongjihuini？wojuede，zaiyingduizheilianggenanti，xuduonvhaidoushihuidechufourendehuiying。zaidahuoerdeyuanyourenzhinenglili，yiguolianbianshibutaihaode，jiuhaosishizhijinriyiban，zongshirangliangrendeaiqianchuangbaikong。bingqierichangshenghuo，xuduoyiguolianyouyuanwufendeshili，jinyibujiazhongledahuoerdezheiyiniantou。yinci，nvhaimenduiyiguolianyeshibieryuanzhi。yidilianzenmeweichikannimendegoutong，neiyidilianzenmeliaotianshengwenkuai?

deque，yiguolianquanshijianxinde。

youguanzheiyidian，neiyidieyouyidiedehuochechepiaonenggouyinzheng。

neiyiduanyouyiduan，haoduogezhongtoufazhandeyuyinliaotianhaikeyiyinzheng。

jibianyiguolianyouhenduojiannan，wohaishiyaogaozhidahuoer：

 yidilianzenmeweichikannimendegoutong，juedaduoshuyiguolianzhongfashengdenanti，doubingbushiyou“waidi”zishenjuecede，zhishiyounikendingbuhuiyunyingyiguolianjuecede。

 jiuliru，xuduorendaojindaoyiduanyiguoliandeqingkuangxia，doushihuifazifeifudejuede：“waidi”zaiqingganlishiyizhongquedian，erbushiyoudian。

shijishang，zheiyiguannianzishenbianshibuzhengquede。

youyuniyuezaihuyijianshiqing，zheiyijianshierjiuyueyoukenenghuiyanbianwei“nanti”。

liru，niyizhizaideshenshangfajueleyigeheidianer，jiarunibuzaihu，zheijiushiyigeheidianer。

kejiarunishifenzaihu，naizhihaiyinerlaoshihusiluanxiangdehua，neimaniyejiuhenkenenghuibazheigeheidianerzuoweiaizhengdeqianzhao。

异国恋也是这般。

jiarunijiangbenshendezhuanzhulitongtongfangdaowaididequedianshang，neimazhangciyiwang，waididequedianjiuqueshihuichongfenfahuifalvxiaoli。

 liru，nijuededaogudan，juededaohenquefaanquangan，congerzaizheileigudanhemeiyouanquanganxia，zuochuyixiecuowudexingwei，weiliangrendeqingganchanshengsunhai。

fanguolai，jiarunijiangbenshendezhuanzhuli，tongtongfangdaowaidideyoudianshang，neima，waidibuyidingbingbushiyizhongxingfudeganshou。

neixiabiandajialaishijishuoyishuo：yiguoliandeyoudianjiujingfanyingzainaer？

三个字：陌生感。

 suhuashuodehao，daobutongbuxiangweimou。qinglvmeitiannizaiyiqi，shijianjiulezaisuonanmianyanjuan。shidudeweichiyixiajianju，ganghaonenggouzaiyidingshuipingshang，weiliangrendeaiqingbaoxian。

 dangran，yangeyiyishanglaishuo，waididejianjubingbushuyu“shidudejianju”，youqishizaishijiandefuchixia，waidizaochengdenantihuigengweixianzhu。

yinci，nixuyaozaiwaididejibenshang，xiangbanfalajinliangrenxinlizhuangtaishangdejianju。

 liru，bubimeiridoupeinanshengxianliao，youyuliangrenliaotianliaotianjiuciqiongle，ciqiongyihoubianshinankan，zheileinankanhuifushiliangrendeqinggan。

qiadangdezuofashizaixianliaodejibenshang，chixudefengfuduocailiangrenzhongjiandehudongjiaoliu。

最先，两人能够一同去进行一件事情。

liru，yitongzhuiyibudianying、dianshilianxuju，yitongyangyizhixiaochongwu、yitongbaoyigexingqubanzheixie。

yongyouyigeshijideshieryihou，liangrenjiukeyijinjinweiraozhezheiyijianshier，kaizhanyixieshunlichengzhangdehudongjiaoliule。

 liru，liangrengenjushipinliaotianyiqishuajudeqingkuangxia，nenggouduculingyifanggankuaimangwanshoutoushangdegongzuozhong，suihouxuanbudakaishuajuzhixing。

 zaishuajudequanguochengzhong，liangrenhainenggouyiqitantaogushiqingjie，huochenjishuoyixienuanxinqinghua，tucaohuoshiliaoboyixialingyifang，zheizhongquanshishifenmeihaodeganshou。

 zailiru，liangrenyangxiaomaodeqingkuangxia，shifoubixuxuanyoumaomaoliang，xuanlingshi，jimaomaotiqianzhunbeiwuzizheizhongshijicaozuodounenggouweiliangrendehudongjiaoliujiyujiben。

总得来说一句话：

 bubimeiriganbiedegennanshengxianliao，zhishiyaoqushengchanzhizaoyixieshiqing，suihourangxianliaoshunlichengzhangdechansheng。jinyouneiyang，liangrendehudongjiaoliucaisuanshiyouyiside，haikeyilajinliangrenzhongjiandejianju。

此外，你要能够根据一些精神实质和心态上的深入交流，来拉进两人在心理状态上的间距。

buqingchudahuoershifouyouguowangliao“beixian”delijing？

jiaruniyiqianjingliguo，huoshishitingwenguozheileishier，neimanideneixinhaowuyiwenhuiyouyigeyihuo：

liangrenwanglianbenxianyiqianlianmiandoumeijianguo，danchunshizaiwangluoshangfayuyin、liaowenben，weihejiunengbianchengjingshenshizhishangdezhixinni？

 shijishang，neixinshijiedejingzhuntuisongbudanbixuliangrenyouyidingdejingshenshizhixiangtongdian，haibixuyouyigexiangduixingyayigandexinlizhuangtaiziranhuanjing。

 shuobaile“xiangduixingyayigandexinlizhuangtaiziranhuanjing”zhideshi，liangrenbicizhijianchengdanzhegudan，chengdanzhexiangnianzhiku，chengdanzheqiuzhibudedeyayigan。

 zaizheileizhuangkuangxia，liangrenzhongjiankaizhandejingshenjiaoliu，caihuigengweidechongchizheshijiyiyi。yeqiahaoshiyouyuzheiban，2geyouxiurencaigengfeichangrongyibianchengjingshenshizhishangdezhixin。

 fanguolai，jiaruliangrenmeitiannengpengmian，neileixiangduixingyayigandexinlizhuangtaiziranhuanjingfandaoxiaoshile，yihouneileijingshenshizhixinyoulingxiyejiunanyidadaole。

 rujin，liangrenyijinglijingyiguolian，zheigenliangrenyidilianshidechangjingleisi。yincinichedinenggouzaizheileizhuangkuangxia，tishengliangrenjingshenshijiedegoutongjiaoliuhegoutongjiaoliu。

 liru，nanrenzaiqiyelishoulebiequ，fanhuijiazhongyichoumozhande，liangennishipintonghuadeqingxudoumeile。niyejiunenggoujitamenfayitiaosiliao，neirongneimebianxie：

“qinaidede，niyizhizaiwaibianpengdaokunnandeqingkuangxia，qianwanbiewangdiao，nihaiyouyigewoyo。

jinguanwobangbushangniguoduo，danwonengyizhijingshenshijiezhichinide。

nishizhongjiushiwodegaishiyingxiong，shineiyigenenggoukangqiwomendejia，rangrenshengzhiluyuelaiyueduozhongduoyangdenansheng。”

tingjianzheijuhuayihou，nanshengdexinlihaowuyiwenhuijuedefeichangdadekuanwei。

 zheileikuanwei，yinweiliangrenzhishenwaidi、bukeyifeichanghaodexiangtong，huiyuelaiyuegengweideyounengliang。erzhei，zhonghuicujinliangrenbianchenggengqiangdejingshenbanlv。

dicengluoji：xuduoqingkuangxiachanshengzaiganqinglideshierbingmeiyouneimeduofeicijibidehuida。

 pengdaokunnandoushihuixiangmaiyuan，doushihuibugaoxing，danyiguoliandezishenzhongguiyaozishenjiejuekunnan。yuanbenjianjujiuyuan，youshihouyigedianhuahaiquanshihuaixintaihemaiyuan，dahuoerquanshichengrenle，yaoyougongzuonenglicaokongzishenderichangshenghuo。

 yidilianzenmeliaotianshengwenkuai，jiranyaozuorenshenglushangdexiaohuoban，jiububibianchenglingyifangdeyali。zishenderichangshenghuodouzhichengdianbuleweishenmehuiyoufengcaiketanni？