死也不离婚怎么办？遭到背叛后应该怎么做？

 lihunlengjingqizenmezuo？ruguonichajuezijidezhangfuyongyoudisanzhe，siyebulihun，yingdangruhechulizheiyijianshierni?zheigeshihouniyaoxianpingjingxialai，manzusantiaobilihun，xiankanyixiaxiabiandewenzhangneirongjiqilijingzishendeshenzhongkaolvyihou，zuoyigerangzishenburongyiganjuehouhuimojidejuecejiuxing。

1.问一下自己：能够原谅吗?

 zhenduilingyibanyijiaocailiangzhichuan，youxierenyinaizhimingtiaoxuankuanrong，youxierenquejuede「yicibuzhong，jibaiciwuxu」。zuojuedingyiqian，zhaoyigeshijianhekongjianyurenxiangchu，bikaishenbiandehaozimei，wenyixiazijishibushinengyuanliang?tingqingxineixinmiandejuede。

2.接纳内心的刺

 pietuotichufenshoushiduantong，rihouduziyirenzhishang。danjiarunitiaoxuankuanrong，siyebulihun，nijiuxuyaojienanideneixinshizhongdoushiyouyigenci，naizhibianchengyidaowufatianbudeshangba，bieqidainimendeqinggannengzhongguiyuhao。

3.检查自身

 manzusantiaobilihun，yiduanguanlianchuxiandisanzhe，biranshiliangrendeguanlianlichuxiannanti，jinguannanxingchuguixingweishipanbian，yinyoutarennanpengyouyebushidui，dantamenbuyidingcuoshai，chengxindijianchazishenzaizheiliduanguanlianlidebuwei，shibushizishentaiguanzhelingyifang，lingzishenyuelaiyuewuguanjinyao?shibushizishenmeiyouhaohaodihuiyinglingyifangdeyaoqiu?daozuizhong，henyoukenengjiushiniyoufencushiwaiyudekeguanshishi。

4.不必发狂

 tangruonitiaoxuantiaoming，nanguonaonushinenggou，dandangzhongzhiwenshiqingbiedashengpaohou，jinjibaochilengjing。lihunlengjingqizenmezuo？ruguonanpengyouyagenjuecelinierqu，niruhepaohou、youkuyounaoyewanliubushangqinggan，naizhihenyoukenengtishengta「wolikaimeiyoucuo」dejuece;fanguolainichaolizhidijiejue，taquehenyoukenengbeinidelizhisuohezhu，baocunyixianguaiwandekongjian。