婚姻告急 想要修复婚姻的你注意啦！

 zairenherenyanzhong，hunyinshenghuochuxianweiji，duiyishizhuxingdeyanlidajitingda。dancongciwaiyigejiaoduguancha，yetishirenmenhunyinjingyingyidingdeyongqiadangdejutifangfa。neimahunyingaojishi， wanjiuhunyin defangshiyounaxie？

一、明白夫妻吵架是“视角”难题而并不是“是是非非”难题

 fuqichaojiadeguanjianyuangushirenweishieryidingzhinengyigecankaodaan。tebieshizaishizhenduinvxingeryan，zhengchaoshidejichuxintaizhuangtaiquanshi“zheijianshiqingyidingjiushiwodui，wodelingyibanyidingbudui。”nantishidangliangrendouneiyangxiangshi，zhengchaojiucengchubushang。burongyizhengchaoderen，zaizhengchaodequanguochengzhongjinlideyaobodaolingyifang，yaoshizhengshizishende“zhunquewuwu”，jieguofandaotongguiyujin。yinciyidanchuxianhunyingaojinizuikaishiyingdangyaozuode，jiushishuoyaoxuehuilizailingyifangdeshijiaodulisikao，erbingbushiqukaolvdaozheizhongshiqingshisheiduisheicuo，yijianshiershishizhongmeiyouduiyucuode，youdejinjindajiahuxiangdebulejie，buxinlai，fuqijiandezhengchaoshizhongyeburongyiyouyigejieguode，dangniguoduoyaoqiuzishenyuanyidejieguo，neimadajiadeganqingyehuiyidinghuisunshangde，yincidaliangdeneishihou，yingduihelingyifangdezhengchao，niyaoxuehuishidudetuoxie。

二、要有效的沟通，让另一方把话说完

 xuduodenvrenyulingyifangyidanzhengchaojiulikedakaizishende“jiguanqiang”fangshi，yizhibutongbuyangdeshuogebuduan，naizhihaihuiqieduanlingyifangdeshuohua，niyeshihenxiangjizijiqiangciduoli，zhengchugedadaoli，keshineiyangfeichangsunhaidajialianggerenzhongjiandeganqing，niyaoqingxidelejiefuqizhijianyaoxuehuishidudelirang，shixianghujuanqimei，bingfeidajialianggerenjielehun，jiunenggouchedibukaolvdaotarendetihui，jiaruwobukaolvdaotarendetihui，neimazaiganqingzhong，niyulingyifangdegoutongjiaoliushizhongshishixiaokaizhande，zhangjiuyiwang，tanaizhidoushihuijueyunidegoutongjiaoliu。zaiganqingzhongniyaoqingxidelejie，dangtayuanyibiaoshuzishendeniantoushi，niyaoxuehuixixindelingting，bubiqieduanlingyifangdezhudongxing，erqieyeyaojilingyifangyidingdehuifu，zheizaiganqingzhongshizuijichudezhongshi。

三、没动口，就着手——灵便运用身体语言

 ninenghuiyiyixia，jiniduozhangshijianmeiyouyunidelaogongxiangyongle，jiniduozhangshijianmeiyouhezishendelianrenjiewenle，jiniduozhangshijianmeiyoushuoaitale，yincixiangbizhengchaoshidajiadouou、naojiangdejushi，wogengtiyidajiazaishenghuozhongduoyidiantianmeidexiaoxingwei，zhongjiuzheizhongxingweinenggoutishengdajiapingshidehudongjiaoliu，yegengweikeyidiaozhengdajiazhongjiandeqifen，niyaoqiadangdexuehuiyongshentiyuyanlaibiaoshuzishendeniantou，lirunanshengquwaibianwanlehaozhangshijiancaihuijia，xiangbiniyihuijiajiusizhuizhetawendongwenxi，niyaobibushanglijijitamenduanlaiyibeishuiwenqi：leibulei？jianxindengzhenineiyangwenzhihou，tahaowuyiwenhuimingbainiduitaderenzhen，daziranlaijiangyehuixiangnibiaoshutaxinlideniantou。