婚姻咨询：怎么应对老公出轨叛变

免费 效果怎么样?近期一位咨询者说：”教师，我老公出轨了。和姐夫完婚20年了，孩子2019年17岁，在上普通高中，我们一家人这两年觉得愈来愈生疏，家里的那时候基本上没有什么老话。应对老公出轨叛变，女人无论挑选离婚還是宽容，必须做好这种事。

 tazaijiazhongjiushishuoshangwaiwang，yigerenzaijiajiushishuokandianshiju，haizijialijiushishuodayouxi。chukaiyongcandeneishihou，keyiweijuzaiyiqi，shuoyiliangjudaibiaoxingdekeqihua，biededejiumeigongtongyuyanle。mianfeihunyinzixunxiaoguozenmeyang?hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 shangnianzhongqiujiajieyihou，woxianzhudijuededaotatongdianhuahuijialeshuogongchu、jiabanjiadianhuochuwaijiaojidepincizengjiale，jingqishenganjingyechongyule。woqiaoqiaodizuoguozhuizongdiaocha，fajuetagentaqiyedeqingnianrennvyouguimimiqiexiangguan，changchangzaiyiqishuoshuoxiaoxiao。

 jinguanyemeiyoufajuetawaiyudezhijiezhengju，danwohuanshijuedeleyizhongjidagongzuoyali。worangzhangfuzhanduanhewodewanglai，buranwoyezhaotamenqiyelingdaoganbu，rangtamenlaiweiwozuozhu。zhangfudanxinle，tongyiwokeyimashangduanjueguanxi，yaoshiwobieluanlai。

 tamenzhongjianbiaocengshangmeiyoulianluole，zhangfuyezhunshihuijia。keshihejiefudeguanlianfandaogengweishengshule。woyulaiyujuededao，zaitadeneixin，fangfodoumeiyoulewozheigerendecunyou。zheiyiduanhunyinyuelaiyuehenbingliang，wozhenjihuidoumingquetichulelihun，tayebuyunxu，haishuowojiushinvxinggengnianqi，bugenwoyibanzaihu。

 keshi，tadoubuzhidao，wozheiyiduanqinei，zhaogerenzuoguodiaoyan，shoushangzaoyibawoletawaiyuqingnianrennvyouguimidezhijiezhengjuhexiangpianle，jinjinwojitamenliuyoudianzuizhongdemianzi，jinjindadanaonao，ermeiyoubazheijianshiqingtongchulai。

 wojinjinxiangjihaiziyigehaodechengcaishineikongjian，buyuantahuiyouyubabadewaiyulailiuyouxintaichuangshang。cengjingdewowenguohaizi，jiarufumulihun，tahuigenshei?tajuranshuobuzaihu，shenpanzhangpanjishei，woyegenshei。zheihuayaowoyizhenzhendetongxin。

 yigejiazhongnongdaorujinzheiyichengdu，qianchuangbaikong，lengruobingshuang，wochukailihun，wodounengruhezuo，neiyangdeqifenyaowoshixi。woshuimianzhiliangbuhao，xinqingfanzaobuan，shuohuayechangchangjiejiebaba，youchongfenkaolvbabamamadeyoulv，youguanianxiaohai，dequebuzhidaogaizenmeban，meiridouyizhihusiluanxiangde，yemeisixugongzuozhong，qidainengbangbangwo“。yingduilaogongchuguipanbian，nvrenwuluntiaoxuanlihunhuanshikuanrong，bixuzuohaozheizhongshi。

教师回应

 xiexiexinlai，xiangyaodakaixinfeixiangwoshushuo。shijishangxiangduinishuodeshi，hunyinzoulaidaozheiyibu，tongchangshilingrenbeitongde，zhongjiuyiqianshuoyibeizizhishandaizijiyigerendenanrenquehuishenqudonglexintaren，neileibeipanbiandeweidaodequeshibaizhuazhuaxina。

 jinriwojieduyixiadangzhangfuchugui，hunyinyoudisanzhechuangjin，gaizenyangyingdui，zenyangjiejue?qidaiwomenjianyinengxiezhudaoni，baituojiongjingzaicidedaoxingfukuaile。

 zuixian，yikuernaosandiaosidegerenxingwei，zongshisunhuaibenshendepinpaixingxiang，jianggezishendezizun，bingqiejibianbuguanbuguzizunxin，yebuyidingjiunengquhuinanrendexin，zongshirangnanrenganjueyanjuan，yulaiyujianshaolaopozailaogongxinzhongzhongdeyingxiangliheshiyongjiazhi。paoqugendisanzhehumahuoshiwuru，yeshizidiaoshenjia，zuodeshaohuohaijianghuiweifanguojiadexiangguanfalvfagui。

 cizhi，naoxiuchengnulihun，kanqilaixiaosa，shijishangjinjinyizhongsheqi，shiyizhonghaipazhenmianyishizhuxingjianxinderuanruo，bingqiejibianlihunle，huasuanledisanzhe，wanmeichengxianledisanzhe，zishenyounengganyuanma?ganqinghehunyinquanshizisizilide，kenyuzheibanxiangrang，fouzejubeidaxiongjinzhanlveyanguang，buranzhiyoubiaomingcongmeiaini，huoshizaoyimeiyoudonglexin。

 (fouzewaiyudelaogong，shiyigehenzhadenanren，changchangduinijiatingbaoli，duiqinrenxiaohaidoubuwenbuwenderen，yaoburanwobushitaitiyilihunde，zhongjiuyiduanhunyinlaidaoyiqidequebuyi，chuxianlehunwailian，shijishangbiciquanshiyouyidingdeyiwude，qiexingqiezhenxi，meigerendoufancuowu，guanjiankanzheiyirenshibushizuigainizaiduaizhe)

 ruguonidehunyinbeijuchuangjindisanzheshi，wuxusheqi，yewuxudanqie。laotianyerangniguandiaoyishanmendeneishihou，yehuirangnidakaiyishanchuang。zuoweihelihefaxuanbudelaopo，yongyouhenduodisanzhebujuyoudeyoudian，yaoshiduiceqiadang，changchangzhanshengdisanzhe，huodebaojiaweihundehuosheng。yingduilaogongchuguipanbian，nvrenwuluntiaoxuanlihunhuanshikuanrong，bixuzuohaozheizhongshi。

因而有几个方面提议：

 yi、bubirangnaonudengxiaojiqingxushengji。rangxintaizhuangtaiweichipingjing，weichilixinglizhi。jiaruyaozhenxinshiyidigaijinzheiyiduanhunyinguanlian，xiangyaonigennanpengyoudegongtongfendou。dajiabixutuixinzhifuditanchenggoutongjiaoliuhegoutongjiaoliu，dadaogaijinhunyinpinzhidezhengtiguihua。xianghuzhijianchengnuo：dangdajiazhongyiqieyigegangkaishiyuelaiyuexingfenshi，bixudongdejinkuaidetiaochulainaonudeluojisiwei。pingjingxialai，zaicisisuojiejuefangan。

 er，jinguannibukeyigenggaizhangfudegongzuotaidu，bukeyizulanhewolianrendepengmian，danninengdiaojieniduizheiyiduanhunyindexintaiheguandian，huanjuhuashuo，nichedinenggougaoshengdigenzhangfushuo：“xianzaikaishilidianlaoguijule。

 yishoubangzi，jiushishuosuishisuidibaodingguoduanlihunrangqijingshenchuhudeguandian;yishouhongluobu，jiushishuorangzhangfujijiditongyizunxun“jiaxun”，yiwangdeshinenggoujiwangbujiu，rujindeshinenggouzuoweimeichansheng，zhihoudeshijiuanlaoguijulai……

 san，yishouweigong。shoujiushishuoshouzuye。yishiyaojinzaobajiazhongdechuxu、fangben、qiyecaichandengguanlifangfahao，renweinizhangfubeidisanzhemengbi，bacaichandouzhejinqu。ershiyaozaizhangfuyebuguideneishihou，youshihoujiazhuangjiazhonghenbixutademoyang，gentatongdianhua，tanbaijinriguinvzenmela，haizizenmela，gongpozenmela，tahui“huijiakankan”。danshizheileifangfabubitaipinmi，yifanggongkuiyikui。

 si，shizhongbubixiaokandisanzhedeqianzaixingweixie，hairenbuqiandexinbunengyou，fangrenzhixinbunengwu，qinggandeshihenbicizhijian，qinggenshenzhong，jiuchanbuqing，fenshoufuhedeqingkuangdoushishubushengshu，hunyinyaozhangqi，meibanfajiezhunanrendezikongnenglicaozongzhubiciqinggandefazhanqushi。

 shuyujingerfengbuzhi，zhongzhongzhizhong，yeyaoqingyougongzuojingyanderenduizhangfudelianrenkaizhanquandao，shiqijijisheqizheiyiduanqinggan。neiyangzaibicizhengzhongjianshedingyidaoxintaizhuangtaishangdegelilan，zuishaokeyizujueyiduanshijian。

 wu，zhengshinenggouxiangdisanzhexuexipeixun，zheibingbushinaxiemeimianzihuobuhaoyisideshi。gudairenshuo，shiyizhangjiyizhiyi，xiangdisanzhexuexipeixun，yifangmian，zhibizhijibaizhanbaisheng，yuanpeihedisanzheyaobushiyifangdanqie，neimabiranyaoyouyifangliqu。

 tashiyichangyusiwangpodezhanshi，buzhidaoxuexipeixun，meiqujijitigaozijidezhuanyejineng，zhiyoushishichuchubeidongjineng，fouzezishenxinlizaoyixiangsheqizheiyiduanqinggan。buran，haiyaoshanyuxiangdirenxuexipeixun，xuexipeixundirendefangfaheyoushi，caikeyihelidiyanlidajidiren，dashengdiren。

 hunyinguanhuliangrendejiaowang，shiyimendaxuewen，yebixuxuexipeixun，qinshenjingliguohunyinweijidefufu，gengbixuzaicuozhezhongchengzhang，zaijiannankunkuzhongwanshanyishizhuxingmeiyouhuitoulu。jirantiaoxuanlezheiyiduanhunyin，qiexingqiezhenxi，henduoniandenuli，zongsuanhuodewanman，jiushizheiyangsuibiansheqi，yehuilingrenjuedetongxi。hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?