婚姻咨询：怎样精确的表达自身的真正情绪和体会

免费 效果怎么样?接好一期人们提到夫妻之间如何有效沟通?试着将你心里的念头，清晰的说出去，这一期人们讲下怎样恰当的用语句来表达自身心里的情绪和体会。

 shuodaoqingxu，xuduorenhuicaiyongbikaihuoshishiwukenaihedezishijiejue。zairenmenzaoshousunhaideneishihou，bennengfanyingdehuihenqinao，yibandoushiyongyixiejiaoweishengdongdezishilaibiaodazheishidexinlitihui。mianfeihunyinzixunxiaoguozenmeyang?hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 zheiyejiushishuoshuaimenhelengbaolizheiyileizhuangkuangdelaili，keshitongchangzheizhongfangshidouzongshiranggoutongjiaoliuyuelaiyuejiannanqilai，rangxianghujiandefenqigengweiebian。

 yincishuohuadefangshihenguanjian，dongdezenyangqiadangdeyongyujulaibiaodaxinlideqingxuhetihui，zhenduijiehunhoudeyishizhuxing，zhenduifuqijiandegoutongjiaoliueryanquanshijiaoweiguanjiande。

dongdebawoqingxutihuideziyang，suihouyongshijidecijulaibiaoda。

 zuixiannikeyiqingxiderenshizijizheishideqingxu，nenggoushizhezaijinijuededeneishihou，bajizhongzhuyilifangdaozheiyijuedeshangbian，zhizhininengbawozheiyitihuideziyang，lirufangan、jiaolvbuan、danyou、kaixinhuoshinaonuzheixie，suihouyongzheizhongqingxuziyanglaishijidexushuchuqu。

比如：

 1、yuanbenzhunbeizheiyilibaidaiwaguangyiguangyeshengdongwuyuande，keshirujinyouyugongzuozhongtaimangpeibushangtamen，woneixinjuedehennanshou，jiarurenmenbudaitamenqudehua，wodanyouxiaohaihuihenxinhan。

2、meiyiciyutianjiandaoxuezibeidashideneishihou，wodoushiganjuehenhuoda。

 dangninenggouqingxidexushuhebiaodachuxinlidetihuishi，airenjiunengyijurenmensuobiaodachuqudeqingxutihui，lingyifangyekeyigengqiangdelejierenmendexuqiu，xunzhaoyigebicidounengjunhengdedian，jinerchulizheiyinanti。

goutongjiaoliushi，yong“wojuedeni……”zheileizijushiyaoduojialiuyi

 xuduoneishihou，niyongneiyangdeziju，shijishangbingbushizaibiaodanidetihui，zhishizaiguandianlingyifang。yongneiyangdezijukaishi，lingyifangtongchangdoushiganjuenikeyigangkaishitichupipingtale，yinciyehuizaochenglingyifangzaocheng“fangyuxintaizhuangtai”，jinjiezheerchengdejiushishuolingyifangdegezhonggeyang“haiji”。

 zhenduineiyangyizhongzhuangkuang，chulidefangfajiushishuo，yong“wojuede”kaishi，suihouyongrenmenbujiutidaodeqingxuziyanglaifuzhugongjubiaodazishendetihui，zuizhongzaibazishendeniantoubiaodachuqu。

仿真模拟情景1：

我觉得你……

yifei：wojuedenijinqixiuxibuhao。

daxiong：wojuedewoshuidegou。

yifei：wojuedeniruguoganmaofashao，huibatachuanranwode。

daxiong：(fangyuxintaizhuangtai)nizongshitichupipingwo，ruguowoqueshibafashaoganmaochuanranni，doushinihuogai。

wojuede+(qingxuyuhui)

yingxue：kanzhenijinqixiuxibuhao，wojuedehendanyou。

dawei：woyidianyebuganjueleiya!

yingxue：woxintengniruguoleichushengbinglegaizenmeban?genghekuangniruguoshengbingle，haichuanranleyijiarenduobutaihao。

dawei：ganxienideguanzhu，wokeyizhaogeshijianhaohaodixieyihuide。

congzheierzhongbuyiyangdebiaodafangshizhong，renmenbuyaneryu，buyiyangdebiaodafangshisuodaozhidejieguodoushibuyiyangde。

yongyuyandefangshierbingbushiyongxuanxiedefangshibiaodazishendefumianxinxiqingxu

 xubuxuyaochangdaoyongyuyandefangshini?youyuneiyangyifangmiannenggoujiangdixianghujiansuozaochengdewujie，lingyifangmiandoushizaijilingyifangjiyu，shizheyiqichulipengdaodenanti。

仿真模拟情景2：

yongxuanxiedefangshibiaodaqingxu

 zaigenyifeimengliedezhengzhizhihou，daxiongchongpofangjianmen，chenchendeshuaimenerqu，yihouchixuhaojiribicidouchuzaiyizhonglengbaolideqingkuang，lianyongcandeneishihoubixudulizaizishendewuzichi。

yongyuyandefangshibiaodaqingxu

dawei：xianzaiwokuaiqizhale，rujinnengfouxianbubishuozheijianshiqing?

yingxue：wobuhuiqidaizheijianshiqingjiushizheiyangmeiyouxiawen，renmen1zhongtouzhihouzaishuohaome?

 dawei：haihao，danshiwojuededengyihuichulaiwaibiantanyitan，neiyangwohuoxuhuilizhiyixie，jiaru1zhongtouhouwohuanshirujinzheiyiqingkuang，wohuoxuhaibixuzaiduoyixielizhideshijian。

 daxiongqinaodeshuaimenerqu，yongzheileixuanxiedefangshibiaodazishendeqingxu，xianeryijian，daozhidehouguohenyanzhong，jiexiaquxianghujianshenxianlelengbaolihuanjie，meibanfazaikaizhanfeichanghaodegoutongjiaoliu。

 erdaweizeshitiaoxuanbazishenqinaodeqingxuyongyuyanbiaodachuqu，suihougenjugoutongjiaoliudefangshixianglingyifangqingtuzishendeyaoqiu，zuizhongtamenfeichanghaodegenjugoutongjiaoliugoutongjiaoliudefangshichulilebicizhijiandenanti。

biaodaqingxudeneishihoububiyingyongguodushouhuanyingdeyuhui

 zaixianghugoutongjiaoliudequanguochengzhong，jiarudajiacaiyongdeyujuzhongbaokuodeqingxuyuhuitaiqianghan，neimazheijiuhenjianghuihuizaochenglingyifangdedikangxintaizhuangtai。jiarubicidoudaizhuneimemingxiandeqingxuqugoutongjiaoliu，jiujiyoukenenghuidaozhibicichuzaiyizhongdirendeqingkuang。

biaodaqingxudeneishihoububiyingyongfeichangrongyiyinqimaodundeyuhui

 daxiong：nijiachenengbunengbuyaoyizhihengchongzhizhuangde?bujiuguaiwandeneishihou，chadianermeibarenmenjiyasi，xianzaiwodoujijiangtuchule。

yifei：niyizhiyilaiduiwomenjiacheyebuxinlai。

daxiong：renmentashiyaoqukanbisai，bingbushikanyisheng。

yongrouhedefangshigoutongjiaoliu

dawei：yingxue，wojuedetouyoudianeryun，ninengfoukaimanyidian?

 yingxue：o，baoqian，wokaineimekuaiyouyurenmenrujinzaoyiwandaole，danshidangeshiduofenzhongyingdangyemeiyoushenmewenti，wozheijiukaimanyidian。

 diyizhongzhuangkuang，daxiongyonghenmingxiandeyudiaotichupipinglingyifang，rangyifeibujingyijianjiulizailedirendeguandianshang。daxiongyongzhizedefangshixianyifeijiachetaikuai，cikeyifeijiuzaochenglezishenfangyudexintaizhuangtai，guaidaxiongbuzuxinlaita。

 erdaweizeshiyongjiaoweirouhedefangshitishiyingxuecheliangkaidetaikuai，cikeyingxuejiubacheliangdesulvjianlechulai。congzhei2zhongzhuangkuangkanlai，goutongjiaoliudeneishihouliuyicuocidoushishifenguanjiande。

yongdiyirenchengdefangshikaizhangoutongjiaoliu

 youshi，nitiaoxuanyongdiyirenchengdefangshikaizhangoutongjiaoliu，nenggouranglingyifangqingxidelejienideqingxu，lingwaiyeranglingyifangzhangwodaonideyaoqiu，tacaiyouchongzudezhangwolejieyaozenyanggaishanhejiejuekunnan。mingxiandeqingxubiaoda，yekeyiranglingyifanglejiezheijianshiqingduitaeryanshishizaitaidezheji。

看一下下列比照：

dierrenchengdebiaodafangshi：nishiwojuede

nishiwojuedeshangxinyujue。

你使我觉得很气恼。

你使我觉得很苦恼。

diyirenchengdebiaodafangshi：wojuede

我觉得伤心欲绝。

我觉得很气恼。

我觉得很苦恼。

 zaitashuo”nishiwojuedeshangxinyujue“shi，shijishangshizaiyingshenizhizelingyifangjiniyuelaiyuenanguo。xiangfan，”wojuedeshangxinyujue“，jinjinzaixianglingyifangbiaodanidetihuibingfeizhizelingyifang。

yongdiyirenchengkaishidegoutongjiaoliufangshi，shijishangshiyizhongwanshan，nengjizijiqingxuchengdandezhuyaobiaoxian。

仿真模拟情景3：

你使我觉得

yifei：nijihuyebukanzhewochuanzhedabandezenmeyangkan，shiwojuedewobiandegengjiameiyouyouhuoli。

daxiong：nirangwojuedewojiushigehenchadezhangfu。

我觉得

yingxue：wojuedezishenfangfomeishenmeyouhuoli，nifeichangshaokuazanwo，woyebuzhidaoshibushiniganjuewobuhuipiaoliang。

 dawei：wobaoqian，woyizhiganjuenihenpiaoliang。dayueyouyujinqijiazhongdejinqianwenti，wojiaoweimeiyousixuquliuyini。hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?