防治第三者的方法：如何让婚姻远离失败

ruhejingyinghunyin?qingganhunyinruheweihuni?

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 kuodajiaoyouquan，zhongsuzijidemeili。nixianzairenzhenkanyixiaziji，rijianfahuangdepifu，zouyangdeshencai，qiaocuidemianrong，shixiangxia，yigerenzhidongzaijiazuojiawudehuanglianpoheyigejidongdedalijiatingzaiwaiyoubushifengcaidenvren，tahuizenyangxuanze?meilishinvrendeziben，dongdejujiadetongshiyeyaoxuehuidabanziji，bingqieyaokuodazijijiaoyouquan，rangzijishenghuogejufengfuqilai，xiangtazhanshizijimeilirengranjuda，zuihoutacaihuibeinidemeilixiyinhuilai。

san、“mihuo”nanrenxin：daodizenyangdenvrenrangnanrenmilian?

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 buguoyuzhudong。youxienvrenhuixianruyigewuqu“nvrenzhudongdianjiunengdedaozijixiangyaodedongxi。”danshi，jiuruwanjiuaiqingdashishuo：“renxingbenjian，suishoudelaidedongxiwangwangbubeizhenxi。”zuoweinvren，xiangyaochenggongfulunanrendexin，jiuyaojiangdizishendexuqiugan，bunengguoyuzhudong，yinweinanrentianxingshiyoushouliedebenneng，taxinkudelaidedongxihuibeijiazhenxi，zhuazhutazheigexintai，yindaoduifangmanmanweinitouru，zengjiataaidetiyan，manman“mihuo”tadexin。

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 shanjierenyidenvren。yigeqiangshibadaodenvren，yigewenroushanjierenyidenvren，nanrenhuixuanzenageni?zuoweinvren，bubibazijiguzuonvhanzi，shenmeshiqingdouzijijiejue，zheiyangbudanbunengzuodaoniziyiweidejianqingduifangdeyali，erqieduifangrangduifangjuedenibuxuyaota。nvrenshidangdishiruo，wangwanghuijifaqinanrendebaohuyu，manzutadexurongxin，zheiyangtahuigengjiakaixin，nvrenshidangdizhuangsha，huanyizhongshuohuafangshi，qishijiushibeihoucaozongtadesiwei，manmanfulutadexin。

 zaipangdadechuanzhiyehuiyinweichuandiloushuierdaozhichenchuan，fuqiguanxixiangchudebudaowei，huozheshinizaizhangfuyanzhongwanquanbunenghedisanzhexiangduibi，suoyitachuguile。buguodisanzhezhongguishidisanzhe，mianduizheiyangdeqingkuang，qizirunengjianshouzijidediwei，buzibaoziqi，chengweibidisanzhegenghaodenvxing。gaibianbuyinnianlingshouxian，youyikeyuanyizhuanbiandexin，zhangfukandaonidebianhuayehuiyousuoganwu，yuanyihuiguidaonideshenbianbingyudisanzheduanjueguanxilaiwang。