冷暴力婚姻，为什么女人遭到家庭暴力后，还需要自我反省

 pituinanhaimeiyoutuichu，jiabaonanjiulianfanshangresoubang。gedawangzhanguangweiliuchuandeyigeshipinli，yigezhuanghanjiaodidiantimen，huoshengshengbanvhaicongdiantishangtuochuqu，xiangyitiaoyusiyiban……zaoyulengbaolihunyingairuheshihao？nvhaibuyiyulijiaohan，danmeiyourentingjiantadeqiuzhu，tabeituochuquyihou，jiemianxiaotui，meirenlejietazaoshoulenaxie。shubuzhi，zheileigezhepingmudounengganshoudaoneileijidukongju、wanrurenjianlianyudejiatingbaolidangchang，yixiewangmindezhongzhongzhizhongqueshi：shenmeshilengbaoli？yinweijiatingbaolilihungaizenmechuli？

“nimeijiaoburongyizouma”？

oudayihou，tashuo“kuangwangzidadandawangwei”

xianlaihuiwangzheizongchijinggedawangzhandejiatingbaoliexingshijian。

 zaoyulengbaolihunyingairuheshihao？beijiabaode“yuya”shipapijiangzhudachanpinyigewangluohongren，yiqianzuomengnalishafangzhuangyouyubizhenerbaohong，suanzuozoujishuxingguademeizhuangdaren。shenmeshilengbaoli？yinweijiatingbaolilihungaizenmechuli？：genshuaxinyanhaizidexinshizhanvbiqilai，sanmendousuanbudeshenmele

 qici，youshi，ruguonibeibierenyongshiliaoweijideguyizhuangpodaodedixian，youyugongzuojingyanqianque，nijianghuihuishenxianyizhongxinbozhoutinghemangranqingkuang。

 renmenmeigerendoujitarenhezishendegerenxingweishedaodedixian，liruxingqinfanshiweifafanzui，aidashie。jiaruzheizhongzhuangpodaodedixiandegerenxingweichansheng，renmenmashanghuiqubieshanyue，yihouzaigangkaishinaonu、dikanghexiaofeizheweiquan。

 danzaixianshishenghuozhong，sunhaiyidanhuranchansheng，henduorenjianghuihuiyouyugongzuojingyanqianque，huoshiguoduochijing、haipaershenxianxinbozhoutinghemamuqingkuang，naizhiwangjileduizheileisunhaigerenxingweidiyishijianzuochujiazhipanduan。

 zuoweishouhairenderenmenjiarumeiyoudiyishijianduiexingshijianzuochujiazhipanduan，zheilei“xinbozhouting”mashanghuiweishibaozhehuodeshijian，tahuichixuhelixingzishendegerenxingwei，rangnihuyou，zhizhinirenwei，niwangwangbeizheibankandai，shiyouyuzishenyezuocuoshi。

liru，nichuandeneimeshao，jiuyouziqubeixingqin。

yuyajiandaohuaxinnannvedaidongwu，chijing，danmeiyoulikezuochu“tashicuode”zheileifenbian

gengbijiaoyanzhongde，shouhairenjianghuihuijindaoyizhong“zhuangsi”qingkuang。

 2007nian6yuedi，yiweimoubaokanshejianxishengxiaohuiweishenqingbanligongzuozhengming，lianxilexinwenjizhechengmou。chengmoujiangxiaohuiconggongsibangongshisongdaokafeiguan，zaidaidaobinguan，xiaohuijuedejushibudui，kehuanshihaipakangmingchengmoudebiaoshi。

 zaitingtangdenghoushi，xiaohuiguihaipenyoufaweixinwen“xinwenjizheyaogenwokaifangjiangaizenmeban”，penyouquantababeiquzoudeshenfenzhengjianquhui，quanxianyinpin，gankuailiqu，kexiaohuimeiyourenhuoyibeizi。

tabingbushimeiyoujingxingdexin，yeshixuduotaolijiyu，kezaihunluanxiashenxianyizhonggerenxingweijiasizhuangtai，zuihoubeichengmousunhai。

来源于：界面新闻

 zhihoutanqizheishi，xiaohuishuo：“jiarutashigeluren，woningyuanshenfenzhengjianbubiwoyebujinqu，dantashibaokanshedejiaoshi，womeixiangdaotahuizuozheileishi”……

 yiyang，yuyamenhuihuijuelurenduizishendeoudasunhai，kedanglejiedeqinglvzaioudashi，“zhuangsi”qingkuanghuirangtaguannianbushangneijiushizaibeihai。

 zheiyeshirenherenzhijianguanlianzhongdejiaoda quantao，yige“qianqianjunzi”、“shanren”heqinglvduinihuranzhixingsunhaishi，dangninengdiyishijianbaochiqingxingdizuochujiazhipanduan，bingquelichuanchudikanghuoshinaonudemingling，xuduobuxingjiukeyifangzhi——

 shubuzhi，dabufenrenmeifazuodaozheiyidian，youyuyingduimeishenmetifangderen，xinnianbingbushiruyingduilurenyibanbaochiqingxingerwanqiang。

 zuizhongyeyouyizhong，shixuduonvshixiguanxingduiwaikaifangweihubaoyangzishenconghuidandudepinpaixingxiang，bukenrenkezishenshihunyinguanxizhongdeshouhairen。

 liruyiqianrenmenxieguodeyuyu，yeshichengshouleershiniancaizongsuanfayin“yaosikainidelian”→“qingyunian”six：haohaodideshangyejingzhengrebodianshiju，jingranbianchenglecuipiyawenxue？

 tongyang，chukaishiyeyouchengdezhichangnvren，yeshiguoduyikaoyifangyangjiahukoude、juede“meiyoutawobunenghuo”delieshinvxing，zheileilieshishouhairenmeibeibidaojuechu，shiburongyichushengdiyude。

 yinci，meiduanchanshengbijiaoyanzhongsunhaigerenxingweideguanlianli，beihaiyifangkanqilai“tuotuolala”，danzhuduoyuanyinhuokuchuyeshichuanglide，juedaduoshurendoumeifazuodaojianshizhexiangxiangzhongdeneimaqiangjing。

 erjianshizhejiandaodetongchangshigezhonggeyang“hulianwangdashuju”，meiriyouneimahaojijiabaoxinwenbaodaochansheng，yejiulisuoyingdangdijuedehoulaizhegai“chiyiqianzhangyizhi”。

 feichangshidangyuyaneiyangyougongzuoyoufensideshishangbozhu，dangtazhengtaojiatingbaolishi，yeyoudaliangrentichuzhiyi“zaozhijinriaicuoleren”。danshijishang，zaidiwuciaidayihou，tayihehuaxinnanfenshou。

 yingduihuaxinnande“yisixiangbi”，tameiyouzailianlianbushe，zheizaoyishiyizhongfazhan。xianrujindetayezaibaituozishendexintaikongju，yibubupachuhuaxinnandexianjing。

 budanyuya，huaxinnandeqiziyeshuohuakonggao，ruikongchuochuanzheiyihuaxinnandejiamian，xiangjinbanfabaohuziji，yeqidaiyibuxuduorenzaicishangdangshoupianbeihai。

neiyangde“juexing”daolaiyoudianerwan，danbuhuilunluo“jiuyouziqu”。

E姐结束语：

 woyizhijuede，pengdaohurandesunhai（jiatingbaoli、xingqinfan、jingshenshizhilingba）shifoudongdikangzheiyidian，gennihaobuhaokan，congbuconghui，youmuyouxuelidihuoshiyoumuyouqianyidianguanlianyemeiyou。renshihenyuzhongbutongdecunyou，butaikenengshizhongweichiyizhongqiangjingerbaochiqingxingdeqingkuang，youqishigenlingyigerenwuhuabushuo，lingyifanghaimingbaiwanxintaizhuangtaicaozongdezhuangkuangxia。bingqiebaochiqingxing、qiangjingdeqingkuangbutaikenenggenjuqianhuoshirongmaodedao，zhiyoujiezhurengetezhidedanduhexinlidemingque。

 ciwai，ershiduosuidenvhairichangshenghuoquanshishiwenyutaiyang，guijihezuiniequanshidianshilianxujuhexinwenshijianlideshi，dabufenrenbutaikenengmianduiguoduomedehunanderendebenxing（ruguoyouyehenkebei）。

 yidantamenpengdaoshiliaoweijidee，tebieshizaijiaruzheileielaiyuanyuyigezhengrenjunzide“qianqianjunzi”，henduorendediyifanyingshichijing，suihougenjuyizhong“love&peace”deguixun，tamenbingbuhuidiyishijianduisunhaigerenxingweizuojiazhipanduan，zhishishenxianwuqiongwujinziwopipanhefansheng，naizhibeisunhaizhehuyou，juedezishenzaodaodaozheibankandai，yiqiedoushizishendecuo。

 yincitamenyuefanshengyuetongkuzheng，yuetongkuzhengyuerouruo，zuizhongchedishiquhaijideyizhili，youzheyeshousunhaizishen。yaochuopozheiyiqie，shijishangjiushishuogenggaiyige“timianren”dexintaizhuangtailuojixing。

 dangnizaoshoulehurandeguyi，niyaowangdiaoneiyitao“aidejiaoyu”，bubixiangneimeduo“keguan”“rendebenxing”he“cunzaizhuyi”；niyaoxiangyigexiaohaiyiyangqufenduiyucuo，qufenbiandaodishisheiyeshoudaodishisheiren，suihouhenhendichoudayeshou，jiumeicuo！

yeyou，jiarupengdaoyeshou，qingwuxugentajiangkeguan，yewuxujiangxingxiang，gengwuxuyong“yinguobaoying”neiyitaolaimengpianzishen。

 “yinguobaoying”yeshilingyanzaitongyicengmiandeliangrendeshenshang。eryeshouwangwangmingmuzhangdandizaoyaoshengshi，youyutahuozaigaokuanbiziqiadeluojixingquanqiuli，zainagequanqiuli，tashijunwang，nishichugou，taduinizuodeyiqiedoulisuodangran，kuayuelenizheishijiedeyinguoguanxi，yincitasunhaidegaogaoxingxing，meishenmefuzuigan。

 zuizhong，qianwanbiebazijishengmuhua，ganwanwuxujixiwangyugouqitade“rendebenxing”，nirulelianyubianchengshengmu，zaitadequanqiulinirengranshiyitiaogou。

niyaolengjingxialai，zuochufenbian，jianjuetaochu，bixushijiemi、dikanghezhengtao，zuizhong，niyaoxuehuifangxia——

zaoyulengbaolihunyingairuheshihao？rangyeshouzouyeshoudehuangquanlu，zourenmendeyangguandao，jiuhaole。