原谅了出轨的妻子之后，我该如何拔掉心中的刺？老婆出轨的表现有哪些

 fojiaojingliyijuhua：fangxiatudao，liugenqingjing。yuanshimiaoshushuo，renjieyoushanli，qizichuguikeyiyuanliangma？zhixuerenxuehuifangxiashoushangdedao，youxinshanxingjiunengchengfo；ranhou，beibierenyongyuquanshuohuairencongshan。laopochuguidebiaoxianyounaxie？

 keshiwojuede，tamendeshenhou，shizaiquanshuotarenxuehuifangxia，xuehuifangxiazheixietanlan，zheixiezhishinengdadaozishenyizhenzidewupin，xuehuifangxiazheixiesuoshuodebugan，shuobailedebushede。

 worenherenquanshiyiyangde，wohenlejiebeiwaiyudeneileitongku，wulunshinanxing，huoshishinvxing，beiqinmideairenzaihoumiantongshangyidaodeweidao，yizhirangrenyouyiduanshijianzhanbuzhu。

womenkeyixianlaipouxiyixia，dajiazenmehuineimetongchu？

qizichuguikeyiyuanliangma？youyubenlaizaizishenxinzhongzhong，shandaizijidenvxing，hurangentarenfaxiaoxiqingqingwowo。

youyubenlaizaizishenxinzhongzhong，jiqixinlaidenvxing，huranpanbianlezishen。

 shijishangnineixinshenchushiqueshibukeyikuanrongzheileiqingxingde，buran，nikendingbuhuijianjuediguidinglingyifangqiandinglihunxieyishu，erqiegaozhibabamama。

nanshengbinvxinglixing，yebinvxingxiashouyaokuai，erzaizheiliyidianshang，juedaduoshubeichuguinvrenshimeibanfadadaode。

 keshinigujideshi，zishendexifu，shixintengzijide，shiqinlaode，shihuigande，shiduixiaohaibabamamahaode，zaiwaiyuyiqian，niduitadehaobuzaiyishijishangshifangxinde，zainiderenshili，tashiyigehegedelaopo。

 danniwufafangqide，jiushinichangshuode，liyichengbenfeihendazheijianshiqing，liyidaibiaozhe，nixuyaosangshizheiyiqie，babamamanianjihenda，xiaohaihaishangxiao，jiarumeiyoulemamadeshouhou，zishenxinyouyuerlibuzu，shangyoulao，xiayouxiao，nigubude。

 zuizhong，nipobudeyigaozhizishen，xianjieduandezhuangkuang，liyikunnanzhongzhong，haozai，tahailejiecuo，buyuanliyi，neiwobianchangshikuanrongleba。

nikankan，zheicaijiushinizuihou，poshizishenqukuanrongdeyanzhongdian。

 youyushiji，nirangzishenhuoshengshengtunyanzheikounijibaidoubuyuantunyandeqi，ninyounaonu，youwukenaihe，youtongxin，youyouxinhan，zheizhongxintai，meitianwanshangdoushizaikunraozheni，kandaozheiyinvxing，tachengrencuowu，ninengyourouguaduan，keshiyizhuanyanxiangqilingyifangbeizheni，zaitarenneidemoyang，niquetonghenzhiji，ruobushizishenfajue，tahaizhunbeimanduozhangshijianni？

wojuedeshide，huanzuosuoyouren，doushihuijuedetongchu。danshimeishier，womenkeyiyiyangyiyangdilai，bachuxinlideci。

1、不要着急着宽容

 shidaorujin，wukebianbo，waiyuzaoyichengweishishi，bubiqukaolianglingyifangwaiyuqianyouduomehao，zhuyaobiaoxiandeyouduoaini，wenchongcongbudingwufengdedan，nengpanbian，dapodaodedixian，biaomingtaduiniai，zaoyiyongyouliefeng，naizhitameinixiangxiangzhongdeainineimeduo。

yaoburan，weihelianzuizhuyaodezhongchengdudoumeifashouhaoni？yincibiequkaolvdaotayouduoaini。

 danniwubiyaoqujienayigeshiji：jiranmeiyouneimeaizheni，huanjuhuashuo，zhishengyuqinggan，suanbushangai，queyoubuyuangenniliyideqingxingxia，quanyijiushiniyaobawodewupin，qianwanbieqiangqiuzishenqukuanrong，burannibianhuiyizhishoukunzai「zishenbipo」zhong，jiusuannikuanrongle，nimendeyihouyehenlingrendanyou，zheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo，henyoukenengduibabamama，duibaobaodeweihaigenggao，youyunimen2ge，shizheiyisangejiazhongdeguanlizhongxin。

yongyujienatabingbuainidezheiyishiji，lixingqilai，xianquebaozishendewendingqingxu。

2、接纳宽容是自身的挑选

wulunruhe，wulunnanshenghuanshinvxing，zoushanglezheiyibu，niyidingyaoxuehuifangqi，chuoponimenzhongjiandeguanlian。

xuehuifangxiaduitadexiwang，sijieyuanxianduguo，bacidequanguocheng，xiankanxiamianzheifutu：

 henduoren，zuibianshuozhekuanrong，banligezhonggeyangyuanyin，xiaohaimeiyourenzhaoliao，babamamahuixinhan，huishangxin，keshiweiduqueshilezishen，biewangji，jinyouzishenqueshifazifeifudequkuanrong，zheijianshiqing，caisuandeshangwanhou。

zheishiyigezhangqixingde、xuehuifangxialingyifangdequanguocheng。

nidezheixieyoulv，genbenyuanyindouqujueyu，nimeiyoushuolijiulidedanliang，xinlidegongzuonengli，shibugoude。

 xuezhequxuehuifangxiata，xuehuifangxiaxianiduitadepanwang、kanduannimenzhongjiandeqianshe，yongpangguandezishiqukankanmuqiandeta，zhibuzhikuanrong。

 ganqingjinjinrenshenglutudeyibufen，shiqingdoujubeiduomianxing，ganqingcuobaisuiranlingrennanguo，danyucitongshiyeshiyigezhongxinlejiezishen、tishengziwodejiyu。

 huangbaoqiangyouyubeilaopopanbian，erqiebeiduozoujuedaduoshuzichan，tadexingweijiuhencongming，jianjueqisu，zaigongzuoshang，nenggougenghaoditigaoziji，bazijidequanyibutingdekuoda，nanshengyidanzijinshenggao，neimaninengchulidaduoshudenanti。

zheishiyigegennvxingbuyiyangdediqu。

 liru，xiaohaimeiyourenzhaogu？babamamalibucongxin，neimanenggouqingrendaia，jiazhonghuanjingweishengmeiweirenchushi，haikeyitaoqianzhaozhongdiangonglai，dannizhixuyaochengdan，tigaozijidegongzuonengli，yunyongkongxianshijian，jiaoyuhaizi，gengnenggouqukaikuoyanjie。

dengzhenilixingchulai，xuehuifangxiazhihou，taduinilaijiang，rutongyigeluren，buhuizaishiqinglv、laopohuoshixiaohaidemama。

yonglurendeguifanqupingding、tiaoxuan，jueceshibushiqueshiyaokuanrong，fenbiantahaiyoumeiyouzizhi、nengfouzaicizhandaonishenpang。

jiarutadezhuyaobiaoxian，zaoyishiniganshoudaotaqueshizhicuojiugaijiuzhengdehua，neimanicainenggoukaolvdao，yuanliang。

3、往上，扩张心里的容积，让外遇这件事情掀不起大家的心里漪涟

jiarunideaishiyipianwangyangdahai，yiqieyikeshikuai，douwufashinibangbo；

 zhenduiyinwaiyuerchengdeyigenci，yiyangdedadaoli，kuozhangxinliderongji，rangtasuozhandezhanbiyuefaxiao，meifashangxianiderichangshenghuo。

masiluolilundeyaoqiulun，xiexialerenmenguangfandewucengjijibenyaoqiu。

 zaidaduoshurendequanshijieli，zhidouliuzaichuzhongji-chujihuanjie，erzuigaojibiede，shihenduorenyebujuyou，yeyixiangbudaoyaoqutigaode。

 meiyigerentigaodequyufeichangda，ziran，zuishouyaodeshi，ruguoniyongyoulejienashuipingdeshiji，nicainenggougengjiandandequzaojiudaliangdejingxi。

shexiangyixia，nichukaizuozhechuangbiannanaoyiwai，niqueshimeishikeganlema？

nizhenduizishendekaolvshizenyangdeni？nishibushiqueshirenshiziji？nishibushiyoujidingmubiao？

 masiluolilunmingquetichu，weidadaoziwojiazhibixusuoshixingdefangshishiyousuobutongde。ziwojiazhidebixushizainulichuangzaozishendefazhanqianli，shiziyiyulaiyubianchengzishensuoxiwangdejiaose。

 yinci，chongfenfahuichuziyideqianli，xunzhaoziyixuyaochenggongdezongtimubiao，yibuyibudiquzuo。shishishang，qiancai，queshinenggouchulidabufendekunao，bianshineimedeqianboheshiji。

4、往下，关心自身，不会再被另一方的个人行为带着走

 guoduguanxinwaiyuzheijianshiqing，bianhuibeilingyifangdegerenxingweichudongxintai，dengtongyubeibierendaizhelikaile，dajiahuiyouyizhongwufacaokongrichangshenghuohexinqingdejuede。

 zaiwomenbuguanxinlingyifangshi，shinenggoubawozishendexinqingde，jiubukenengyoushilingdejuede，zheitigongdeyichu，bianshiyigegaoshiyongjiazhidefanying——xintaikekaoxing。

 yigecongrongdanding、pingwentiandanderen，shijiyouxiyinlide。youyutamenshizishenxintainiuchedezhangduozhe，tabuyibeirenao、daipian、hurandeyoushanghuoshijianduanxingdebaozaoshuaidongxi，tazijicaokongxintaiyushenghuo。laopochuguidebiaoxianyounaxie？

guanxinzishen，jianjiandiniyekeyifazhanweineiyang。

 xiangyixiang，zouzaiquntizhong，nishifouhuiganjue，youyileiren，wuguanjinguanbutuxian，naizhishipuputongtongxianxialie，quechuxianyichangxiyinrenni？

 tamenneizhiyizhongzhongyu、zixinxindeqizhi，muguangjiandingbuyi、yanguangguzhi，chongmanlenengliang。ganshenmeshiqing，haoxiangdoudexinyingshou，youtairanziruo。

zheiyileiren，jiaodadetezhengbianshi，chongzudeshandaiziji、guanxinzishen。

 tamentongchangbutaizaiyiwaibudeguandian，quelilejieziyisuoxu，natarenbaguaxiantan、shishifeifeiduoshedeshizhanghehuoli，tongtongjilezishen。

 jinritaileile，jiuwaichuqupaobu，gensanwuhaoyouchulaiheyicijiu；ganjuekumenle，xuanerfenzhuanyeshugankuaichongxiadian；youyujingchangaoyeduole，jiudianjizhezuoyizuoweihubaoyang，yinshidapeiguilvxing，zuoxishijianyiqiezhengchang。laopochuguidebiaoxianyounaxie？

 zuoweishijieshangzuidadengdeweishengwu、kanyixiamasiluolilundexuqiucengcijichulilun，chongniqizijilai，queshiyibeizidoubuzuyongba。

 weishenmeshuonanshengbukeyichongnizishenni？zheixieyouxiudenanren，shenxingshenxianjizhi，yantanjuzhidaqi，xueshiyuanbo，jiaojiquan，yehuijianjiandebeiyanbian，yinci，jiarurenweizishenbuchuse，neimaqinfendequbianyouxiu，jiarunifeichangchuse，neimeduodeshinvxingxiangyaoshouhouni。

huabeitongweinengliang，rangzishenyuebianyuehao，caijiushinixiangyaojiandaode，duibudui？

cizhajinneixin，huichuxue、huihenteng，danbubaxialai，huikuilan、huilandiao、zhihouhuigengtongchu。

 qizichuguikeyiyuanliangma？baxialaiyehuichuxue、huihenteng，xianpohoulibianshibacidejianzuiqian，kuozhangxinlirongji、guanxinzishen，rutongdamayao，erzhexianghupeihe，jiunengzhixuefangfa、zhiteng、rangchuangkou，queshijianjiandiquanyu。