搞好这五点，感情专家教你用婚姻情商挽回老公

如何 挽回老公的心 ？婚姻中，一些夫妇经常疑惑：是不是爱情来到婚姻就一定会变味儿，不变仅仅临时?是否当时恋爱的甜美，相爱到白头到老的信心，都仅仅两个人不完善的想象?好像不管夫妇当时爱得多深，或者两个人标准怎样优异，受到是多少文化教育，处在哪些地位，一旦踏入婚姻，时日就翻过越狭小，过去各种轻快、愉快和考虑，终究会被淡化?

 hunyinjingyingdequebuyi，yuanbenjiushishuoyigedawenti，zibianliangduo，qizhang，henlingsui，youfeichangrongyiqianyifaerdongquanshen，hejiatingjiaoyuxiaohaiyiyang，xiangkaizhanfengxianguankonghenjiannan。ruhewanhuilaogongdexin?xiangbananrenwanhuixuyaozenmezuo?

 shijishangyulaiyujishirendousixiangyishidao，hunyinbixuyunying，tamenyikaishijindaohunyinshi，yehuipingzheaihezizuo，rulvbobing，baochizhebiaocengshangdehemu，danshijianjiule，huochuxianleyixiezibianliang，zhongguifeichangrongyipulunanti。

 yinciyouderenguoduanpoguanposhuai，yiburennai，hanchangqingxu，huodekuguoshizongyoulekaichangchangshuodeyihuo，juedehunyinjingyingmeiyouguilvxingkexun，yizhiyusuanchu“hunyinshiganqingdemuzang”deyiju。

 chengran，hunyinjingyingshiyigefanxinshi，nanzaishiketounaoqingxing，younengjianchibuxie;nanzaizibianliangguoduo，bixuzhihuixinglinshixingyingbianli;bixuhuanweisikao，yanyilvji，kuanyidairen。yincishuo，jiushishuobixuqingshang。

gaoqingshangderen，youlianghenda：

 yinengbiandagezhongkaixin，huoshengchanzhizaokaixin;ershiyingduimaodunhefenqi，lejie、erqieyougongzuonengliyongwanzhuandefangfabiaoshuzishen，jizhaoliaodaolingyifangdetihui——ganjuezishenshi“beirenkede、beilejiede”，yoububiequzishen，qiadangdizuodaozishendemudi。

 erqingshangdideren，jiusuanyuanbennadeyishouhaopai，youyubumingbaixuanze，qianquezhihuixing，feichangrongyiyijiduren，yiyiguxing，yiguidinglingyifangtingcongdefangfaqugoutongjiaoliu，quezaochengbicizhengfengxiangdui，qingganzaochenggehe。

 guizaiqingshanghezhilibuyiyang，shinenggougenjuhoutianxingxiulianlaitigaode。neima，hunyinqingshangshijishishenme?gairuhetishengzijidehunyinqingshang，rangxianghudounengzaizheiyiduanhunyinzhongtihuidaobeiaijixingfukuaileni?xialiezheiwugecengmian，jiushishuohunyinjingyingdemimi。

(1)ziworenshi：qiadangjianbiezishenheairendefumianqingxu

 hunyinqingshang，zhideshizaihunyinzhongrenmenkeyiganshoulingyifangdeqingxu，qurenzhilingyifangdegongzuonengli，suihouyongxunsuxingdongquhuanjielingyifangdefumianqingxu，neiyangyekeyitigaolianggerenqinggan。neima，yaotishenghunyinqingshang，zuixianyidian，jiushishuorenmenyaotishengziworenshi，qiadangjianbiezishenheairendefumianqingxu。

 jiaruqianqueziworenzhinengli，bukeyiqiadangfenbianzishendefumianqingxu，neimazheileifumianqingxujiuhuiyibiedefangshi、huantangbuhuanyaochuxianzailianggerenderichangshenghuo。

 julishuoming，zhangfugaosuni，“nijinqizenmela，genchiwanhuoyaoyiyang”，ninengfanshengzijidegerenxingwei，huanshigenlingyifangfashengzhengzhi?ershishishang，jinideqingxuyuelaiyuezheibancaogaode，bingfeilingyifangqueshizuobuduinaxie，zhishinimeiyousixiangyishidaogongzuoshangdejiaolvqingxujigongzuoyaliweihailaidaoni，nizishiyiqiezhengchang，dankandaizhangfuquekanqilaiyuyuguahuan、qianquenaixin。

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(2)zishencaozong：qingxingdicaozong、diaojiezishendeqingxu

 zhangwodaozishendeqingxuqingkuangjishijiyiyihou，renmenhaiyaoyougongzuonengliquguanlifangfahecaozong(tebieshizaishifumianqingxu)。jinguanhanchangbiaoshuzishentihuiheqingxu，shiyijianfeichangrongyierqie“rangzishenshufu”deshi，danzaixuduohunyinjiaowangqingjing，tebieshizaishiqinshenjingliguofenqihou，zheizhenduilianggerendepengyouguanxishizhimingxingde，huijihunyinliuyoujidaanquanyinhuan。

 liru。bujiuqinshenjinglileyichangzhengzhidedajia，biciqingxudouhenbupingwen。jiaruzhangfuweinengguanlizijideqingxu，zheshoudaguolaopo，neimazheileibaolijiuhuiranglaopodaxinlishiluo。jiaruzhangfucaozonghaozishendeqingxu，likai，erlaopocaozongbulezishendeqingxu，jiansuankebo，yizhiyukaizhanrenshengongji，huoshizuochuyixiechugedeshier，neimazhangfuxinlijiuhuiyouyigenci。

chongdongshimogui，qingxushilingshizuodeshi、shuodehua，guohouquanshizhuihuibuji。

zheiyidian，kanqilaitongsuyidong，queshijiaonanbaozhengde。

(3)jijixintai：yunyongqingxukaolvxintai

 renmendeyiqiegerenxingweiquanshizaiqingxuqingkuangxiakaizhande，qingxushirenmengerenxingweideyuandongli。qingshanggaoderen，mingbaizenyangzhengqueyindaozishendegezhonggeyangqingxu，qudidazishenyaoqiudezongtimubiao。

liru。nidezhangfuyizhimangliugongzuozhong，meiyoushijianpeizhenihexiaohai，niguidingguo，quezongbei“fuyanleshi”leshi。

qingshangdiderenfeichangrongyishenxianfumianqingxu——

ziwohuaiyi(tashifoubushuoaiwole?);

caiyi(shifouzaiwaibianyouhunhouchuguile);

duilimian(youkuyounao，zhiwen，chadianhua，chaweixinliaotianjilu，caozongchumen)……

 gaoqingshangderen，youyuzhidaoyincixinxin，youyuxinxinyinciyouguishugan，zuoshifandaohuimingbaizishenjili，jiusuanshipengdaoburuyideshi，yehuimingbaizishenjili(ziwodiaozheng、shandongzishendefanmianqingxu)，yongjiejuekunnandeshijiaoquxuanze——tongchangkaolvdaodeshi“zenyangqiadangderangzhangfumanmantishengduijiazhongdezijintouru”;

 liruxianhaowuyiwenzhangfuzaijingjishang、qingyishangduijiazhongdenuli，suihoujiashangyidiandianbiequdeqingxugenzhangfugoutongjiaoliu，“zhangfumeirigongzuozhongdaoneimawan，queshitaixinku，nannanjinqidongdefayanle，bengchulaidediyigecijuranshifuqin，heshinijiaojiaota，rangtayaowomuqin?”

(4)huanweisikao：lejieta，yizuodaozaiqianyishizhonglianjie

 shangwenxushu，xuduorenxiguanxingyijiduren，zaizaiqianyishizhonglishipiantanyuzishende，yincifenbianjigerenxingweitongchangshizisizilide，jilingyifangdetihuishi“buzaiyi，buzhongshi”。neiyangdepinciduole，huxiangjuedelingyifangmanbujiangli，shijianyizhang，liangoutongjiaoliujiushengle，meiyicijiujinshengshangrendehua、lengbaoli、tuisang。zheileichoulvdeshiduole，jiusuanwuguanjinyaoyekeyipohuaiyiduanjiankang。

 fanguolai，jiarunengduolizailingyifangshijiaokaolvdaoshier，tebieshizaishilizailingyifangderenwujiaosequxiangxiangtadetihui，lejietadeganqing，neimalingyifangxuduogerenxingweidouyibuwufalejie，niyejiuzhizenmekandaisuanshiyouyiyupengyouguanxiweihubaoyangde。

 zaiwangshangyiqianyouyigenantizaochengledajiaqiangliefanxiang，“weihexuduorenningkezuozhecheneifaleng，doubuxiangyaomashanghuijiale?”，shangbianyouyigehuiyingcufalegongmingdian：“xuduoneishihouyinweiwobuyuanzuodao，youyuneijiushiyigefenjiexian。lakaiqichechemennijiushishuoyouyanjiangcu、shibaba、shihaizi、shizhangfu，keshibingbushinizishen;cheshang，yigerencheshangxiangjingjingdi，chouzhiyan，zheiyishentiguishuyuzishen。”

 lizaibuyiyangshijiaojiandaodefengjingshibuyiyangde。neimapengdaozheileixiabanlehuijialehoubukenduoshuohuadeairen，dangnizhiwen“ruheneimawancaihuijiale!”，jianghuizainikanlaiyouyujiaolvbuanerguanzhu，danzailingyifanglaikanjiushishuoyueshuli、shijiayali、xiangwaitui。

 lizailingyifangjiaoduguanchadehua，ninengshixiabuyongshuoguoduo，tahuizishenbangzhukaitaiyongcan，suihouguohouyaohaohaodixiangzhe，daodishinaerjilingyifangneimadadegongzuoyali，shiyanyubeiyapo，shiyiqianmaiyuanjiazhongmeiyouqian、tabuzubenling，shipoxizhijianzhengchaotahuinanzuo……yizhiyuyaozheiban“zibaoziqi”。

(5)tishengziji：renjijiaowangnenglidoushiqingshangdezhuyaobiaoxian

 renjijiaowangnengli，shiyigerenshiyongjiazhidefanying，doushiqingshangdefanying。juedaduoshurenrenweirenjijiaowangnengliweihaidejinjinchuruzhichangjingkuang，quebuzhidaozhenduihunyinjingyingdoushiyouweizhongyaode。

 fuhedashikangnacengjingjiangguo，“weishenghuo、shejiaoquanzi、bangonghuanjingchedimeiyoubingji，dangbingjidedianguoshao，bicixinlideqiyueshuwufachuangjianhuoshijiangu，jiuchanshengbushangyizhongxiangjinlianqingfalvfaguidexiaoyonglaijibanhexiandingrenmen……biciwuxingzhongdeyueshulichuangjiandeyuegao，waiyudegailvjiuhuiyuedi。”

 hunyinbidingqianshedaoxianghudeyuanshengjiating、pengyou、lingdaoganbu，jiaruliangrendeshejiaoquanzinenggengduofangmiandezhongfu，jiangyouyiyuhunyindepingwen;meishenmebingjiyizhiyuyulingyifangshejiaoquanzijiaoe，dangfufuchanshengmaodunshi，jiufeichangrongyiaihongbianyele。zhengshiruci，tigaozijiderenjijiaowangnengli，mingbaizenyanggenbuyiyangrenwujiaosederengoutongjiaoliujiaowang，duihunyinjingyingdoushihenguanjiande。

 liruyiweinvren，jiarupingchangyujiapojiagongguanlianyouliang，zhifencungan、donglijie、congrongdanding;yuzhangfuxianghupenyou，bingqieyonghupingjiayouliang，shiyigeyouzhihuixingdenvxing;yuzhangfuyiqicanjiaguotadegongsilvyou，lejietadeyixiepengyou，bingqieyinxiangyouliang……zheizhongguanlianzaidajiadefuqiguanxichuxianxiaoweijishi，shicujinhehaodezhongyaonengliang，youyurenchangyoucongzhongxiaoying，danzhoubianderendouganjueninhao，neimayaoshidajiazhongjiandenantibingbushiweifandaodedixiande，tadoushixinlibangnikaizhanhelixing——tajinjinyouyu……caineiyang，zhongjiupingchangtashihenhaodeyigeren。

 huashuohuilai，renjijiaowangnengliyebingbushiyuegaoyuegaode，tebieshizaizhenduinvxinglaijiang。nvxingrenjijiaowangnenglitaigao，huirangtadenanshengjuedezaodongbuan，“haoxiangyiduojiaojihua”，weifangzhidailvmaodefengxianxing，tahuibuyouzizhuzuochuxiandingnitongyixingdong，yizhiyuhuijiangdiduilaopohexiaohaidezijintouru，zheizhenduijiazhonghemushijiqibuhaode。

 xieleneimaduo，shijishangzuiguanjiandeneirongzhibuguoshi，hunyinjiaowang，shuohuazuoshiyaoyouhuanweisikao，zizunxinbingzunzhongbieren。huoxu，shuoqilaifeichangrongyizuoqilainan，renxinlishiduoshaodoucunzhelijizhuyi，dan，suoshudefangshibingbudengyurenrangyurangbu，jinjinyiyuhuidefangfaquzuodaohunyinxingfukuailedemudi，gechudiaozheileiweiquqiuquandeniantouqutongyixingdong，dajiadeganqingzaishiguangdeqingxixia，jingjiubushuai。xiangbananrenwanhuixuyaozenmezuo?