挽回婚姻：怎样给大家的夫妻关系大大加分?

怎么挽回婚姻? 婚姻是什么?许多人要找出钱钟书老先生的一句话来叙述——“婚姻生活如同一座围城，城边的人要进来，城内的人却想出去。”对于城里城外，本无分谁优有劣，但人一直担心的，期待一直伴随心寒。城边的总盼望着住在城内就是说下场了，踏实了，却都不知道自身在城内该做些哪些、如何生活;在城内的感觉城边随意，真出来但是不一定如想像中那样欢乐。

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怎样提升“加分”?

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