中年女人怎么去挽回婚姻

　　zhongniannvrenzenmequwanhuihunyin，hunyinjiushiyimenshenaodedaxuewen，bixumingbaizenmexiangchu，bujinyaoyouwenrouhaiyaoyoubiaozhun，yiweichihaofuqiganqing。

　　dangyigenvrenfajuelaogongyoukenengwaiyushi，xuduorenhuitiaoxuanyoukuyounao，jiangshiqingfuzahua。

　　danshi，bushisuoyounvrendoushiyoudanliangcongtoukaishi，xuduorenhuitiaoxuanchengshouhuoshixunzhaofangfawanhuihunyin。

　　yiner，dajiabixumingbai，hunyinbushierxi，ruoyouzhengjiudekenengxingshi，yaojiejinquanlixiubu，buyaoqingyanfangqi。

　　neiyang，laogongxianglihun，womenyinggaizenmewanhuilaogongxiufuhunyinguanlian，shitalangzihuitouni?

　　一、保持理性，据以往的感情生活，梳理爱情问题所在

　　neixinbuguanduomenaohuo、duomedeqinao，yidingyaomingbaifapiqizhihouxuyaolizhi。

　　jiarulizhibuxiaqu，jiuxiangyixiang，yidanchaonaohuoshiduobi，neibujiujileduifangjiyuma?

　　xianwendingzishen，sisuohunyinlicunbucunzaihenduofenqi，tanxunwentidebenzhi，fanshengzijiyiqianshizenyangchulide。

　　xuduojijianglihunnvshizhifaxianduifangcuowu，quehulvelezishendewenti。

　　jilao，zaizeguaibierenyiqian，xiankanyixiazishenshizenyangzuochulaide。

　　ganqingchuxianwenti，bicidouyouzeren，bukeyiguaizuilingyifang。

　　wubizhaodaohunyinshenghuodewentisuozai，caikeyixiangjinbanfawanliu，mangmugenfengzuoshishibuzhengquede。

　　二、加强自我心态建设，要合理性要求，开展破冰行动

　　zaimianduilingyifangtilihunbingduanjuelianxidianhuashi，shouxianyaozuodeshikongzhuzijideqingxu。

　　bubinengrangduifangdejuecexianrudaohunluanheshiwang，yaobaochilixinghelixing。

　　zaizheiyangdeqingkuangxia，qingxupingwenyouweizhongyao，youyuqingxudebodonghuiyanzhongyingxiangzishenjueceyuxingwei，zaochengjushijinyibuehua。

　　jishiduifangjuedinglikai，yebuyaochixiabulai、wanshangshuibuhao，huozhecaiquqitaguojidexingweilaijiuchanbuqinglingyifang，zheizhongzhihuirangduifangyufadichu，jiakuailianxideliekai。

　　zhiyaoduifangyiranyuanyiyuzishengoutongjiaoliu，neizheishiyigegenggailingyifangduizishenguandiandehaoshiji。

　　zheishihou，zijideqingxujianghuichengweiquedinghunyinshenghuoshifounengwanliudezhongyaoyinsu。keyishizhetuisongyitiaoxiaoxilaipobingzhilv，biaodazijizhenshitiyanyuxuqiu。

　　keyizheimeshuoxiangjinneiyangdehua：

　　“womingbainizuochulejuedinglihun，danzaiwomenxuanbufenliyiqian，dajiayijiushifufu。shiwomenyouhaoxiangchu，bunengrangzheiduanganqingyuelaiyuezenghen。dajiazheixienianzoulai，kendinghaiyouaiqingcunyou。”

　　pobingzhilvdeyigeguochengkenenghaixuyaoduocichangshi，buyaozheji，manmandelai。

　　zhiyaoduifangzaicilianluozishen，yidingyaobaochilengjinghexixin，buyaojigongjinlihuoshizhuyaobiaoxiandeyuyiqianbuyizhi。

　　shizhongjianchizijidelichang，tongshihaiyaolijieduifangdexiangfahetihui。

　　zongeryanzhi，buguanqingkuangzenmeyangfazhanqushi，yidingyaobaochixinlizhuangtaipingwen，lixingchulishiqing，zheiyangcaikeyinuliquzhengqugengduodekenengxingquwanjiuhunyin。

　　三、看准时机商谈，进行第一次沟通交流

　　dangshuangfangkongyuqiexinlizhuangtainingjingshi，shigoutongdezuijiashiqi。

　　xuanzeyigewenxinshushidejiazuoweigoutongjiaoliudizhi，keyigouqigongtonghuiyi，weihuihuazengjiaqinggansecai。

　　jiarutaxiangyaodakaihuihua，biaomingtakenyingduini，zheishihounijiuyinggaidakaixinfei，zhenxinchengyigoutongjiaoliu。

　　jiaoliuguochengzhong，weichipingjingdexintai，fangzhibaoyuanbaoyuanhe。

　　changshiduolijieta，sheshenchudiweitakaolv，rangtaganshoudaoneixinshenchudeneijiu。

　　比如，也可以说：

　　“womingbaiyiwangwobingmeiyoushinilingrenmanyi，woyemeishulihaobangyang，ganqingchuxianwentidajiabicidouyouzeren。wobingbuzhizesuoyouren，yijini。jiarunikaolvdaoliyi，wonenglijiehunyinshenghuoduiyunilaishuoshiyigenandian。dajiajiduifangyigejihui，yitongxiufuhunyin。nibuyaomashanghuida，liyibushixiaoshi，bixushenzhongkaolv。”

　　zheizhonghuihuabingfeinuoruodebiaoxian，ershiyizhongwanhuihunyindesilu。

　　zaiaiqingbaoweizhanzhong，youshituihouyibu，henyoukenengnengweishuangfangguanxichanshengjinyibudefazhan。

　　weitashizhangsisuo，neiniyejiangnenggouwanliu，henduonanshenghuirangzheileihuranlizhierkaifangdetaiduchongmanhaoqi，heguoqumengliedizhidexintaixingchenglexianmingdeduibi，tahuigengweiyongxinsikaonimenzhijiandeganqing。

　　四、专注于自身，令他再次看见你身上的闪光点

　　zheiyiduanshijian，buyaozongshiguanzhutahuodezenyang，shifouyougensheizaiaimeiguanxi，shibushijiaolexinmubiao，zheizhongdoubuzhongyaole。

　　zuizhuyaodeshinimenzhijiandeganqing。

　　rutongmayilichangshuo：“woweinimishileziji，danruguonilikai，woyirancunzaishuipingzhaohuiziji，zaicizhanfangguangcai。”

　　nixuyaoguanzhudeshibenren，shizijibaochilianghaodezhuangtai，yuelaiyuegengjiameili。

　　ruoshiyouyaozoudexiangfa，hebuchuqulvxing，zaipengyouquanfenxiangmeihaodejingli，buyaolaoshifayixiefunengliangdejutineirong。

　　rangtakandaonibuyiyangzhuangtai，buhuizaiwujingdacai，fanershimeiliwuqiong，neiyangtahuixiangyaogenglejieziji，xiangyaokaojinni。

　　keyishizhefayitiaoxiaoximomotadefanying，liru：

　　“zhiqianlaojuedemeiyounibuxing，danxianzaifaxianshijieyouduodaqishihenhao。woyizouchuyinying，wuyouwulv，guodefeichangxingfu。”

　　yikaiwanxiaofangfakaishi，zhenxinchengyibiaodanideganshou。tatingdaozheigehuayidinghuiyousuofanying，haoqixinnishizenmebianhuade，huixianggennizaicigoutongjiaoliu。

　　zailiaotiandeguochengzhong，bubiguoyuxinfuqizao，liaozheleisideshihoujiuzhangwofencun，liuxiefubi，shitaqidaixiayicidegoutongjiaoliu。

　　五、欲情故纵，操控从"心"逐渐，进行第二次沟通交流

　　muqianshiwanliudeguanjianshiqi，jifatadeqingxuyouweizhongyao。

　　yaoyuetaqukafeitingdexiaobaojian，zaojiuyigezhiyounimenbicideyinsikongjian，shitaquanshenguanzhuditingnishuohua。

　　zaijiaoliuguochengzhong，nijudongyaodedangerkongqi，titaxushui、dizhijin，zhanshichuguanhuaihexini。

　　bubitanjiguoquneixiebuyukuaideshi，fanershiduotaoluntaganxingqudeshi，butingdikaiyigewanxiaohua，rangfenweiqingsongyukuai。

　　miandaiweixiao，rangtaganshoudaonidewennuanyoushushi。

　　jiaotanjieshuhou，ninengtanchengdiduitashuo：

　　zhongniannvrenzenmequwanhuihunyin，“zhihouyinggaimeiyouwozainishenbiansihounile，woxinggexiantiao，dannidexihaowohaimingjiyuxin。wuxudanxinnayitiannibuzaiaiwo，youyuwojuedingfangshoule。buxuyaowodezhufu，niyijingshigelizhideren，nengzhaoguziji。jinguanwohaiaizheni，danshibuhuizaijiangzhufuhuayu。”

　　jiarunimeiyibudoudouzuodehaokan，zhanshichuzhenzhihewanshandexintai，takendinghuihuifu：

　　“我们好好过吧。”

　　yidingyaojizhu，wanliudefangshiyingdangyousuobutong，bumangmuxuexibierendechulifangshi，fouzekenenghuidebuchangshi。

　　jiehezishenqingkuanglinghuoyingdui，zhenxinduidailianggerendeganqing，zheizhongwanhuifangfacaiyoukenengqudechenggong。